What are the wedding customs in Fujian?

Abstract: Fujian, referred to as "Fujian", is the capital of Fuzhou. Fujian is located on the southeast coast of China, facing Taiwan Province Province across the Taiwan Province Strait in the east. As a coastal area, Fujian is well known to all. But how much do you know about Fujian's wedding customs? Do you know the customs of engagement and marriage in Fujian? This article will provide you with relevant knowledge and matters needing attention about marriage customs in Fuzhou, Fujian. Help everyone understand the marriage customs in Fujian. Let's take a look at the wedding customs in Fujian with Xiaobian. Introduction to Fujian's wedding customs:

1. Engagement

The man's parents and matchmaker take the groom to the woman's house for engagement. You can make an appointment to get engaged in the hotel now, and then we can have a light meal. )

the man wants to send: the engagement fee: 33,53, or 13, (the agreed engagement fee mantissa must be three words. Fuzhou dialect is homophonic with health, which symbolizes having more children after marriage. Festive and colorful (5 kg 2 packets of candy, 2 big pig legs, 2 big fish, 2 dried fish, 5 kg 2 packets of noodles (noodles should be wrapped in red paper), some red eggs, some apples or oranges, 2 bottles of red wine, 1 big pangs (meaning perfect) that turn red after being cooked, and a pair of live chickens (two of them should be tied with a red rope of three feet and three feet) When the man goes back, he will take the hen back. At this time, the hen's feet are tied with that red rope. ) A certain amount of gold (Note: you don't have to give it at the time of engagement, but both parties can negotiate when to send the gold). These things should be wrapped in red paper, or put square red paper on the things you give.

the woman's return gift: a hen can be prepared for the man to bring back a pair of chickens (including the cock originally sent by the other party) in exchange for the hen sent by the man. Some women don't prepare hens in advance at home, but leave the hens sent by the man and let the man take them back to the rooster. Must be returned: a set of groom's underwear, a suit and a shirt. The groom has a pair of socks (not white socks) and a gold ring. Among them, "socks and gold pants" means that the groom will develop into a "living treasury" in the future. As for how much gift money the woman wants to send back to the man, it can be returned on the spot at the engagement ceremony or as a dowry to the bride at the time of marriage. (Remarks: As mentioned above, the woman can return half of the "ten colors" given by the man at the time of engagement to the man. However, this "celebration of ten colors" is also negotiable. Now many people don't give ten colors, but just give them casually. )

2. The woman buys a dowry

1. Get some electrical appliances needed for a new home: according to each person's situation, handle them as needed. If the woman has the conditions, it is popular to buy a "car".

second, the red suitcase: (generally two in number, meaning yes man). The suitcase contains some common clothes and the dowry given to the daughter by the woman's parents.

Third, red umbrella: When picking up the bride, the bridesmaid holds the red umbrella for the bride to go out, get on the bus, get off the bus and go outdoors. This umbrella requires brand-new and no trademark, and the color can be red or pink. This is also an old saying for good luck, such as blocking disasters and exorcising evil spirits.

4. One red plastic bucket: it needs to be wrapped with 3' 3 red cloth (provided by the man).

five, hi-wa: a pair of dolls, a man and a woman, is a lucky saying, which means more children are more blessed. It's best if it's from the woman's friend, but never if the bride herself buys it.

6. One children's bathtub, one red cosmetic case, one mirror, two red towels, a pair of red tooth cups, two toothbrushes, two corner combs and two red washbasins.

VII. Plastic flowers and vases (provided by the man); Plastic flowers, white lilies and red roses, each with nine colors, represent boys and girls, and also symbolize a hundred years of harmony and prosperity.

3. The layout of the new house

A pair of couplets is attached to both sides of the door frame, and a horizontal batch is added (the horizontal batch generally reads "the husband and wife are singing together");

put a big red double happiness on the door;

hanging lanterns in the middle of the new house;

Paper-cut big red double happiness characters are pasted on the windows, and paper-cut butterfly patterns are pasted on the four corners;

Put couplets on both sides of the window;

calligraphy and painting are hung around the wall;

Kitchen: a pair of couplets is attached to the main entrance, with a horizontal sign, and the word "Xi" is pasted on the door;

others: the word "hi" is posted on the doors of all rooms.

4. Bride-picking

On the first day of marriage, the man's family should prepare more than two decorated wedding cars to come to the woman's house to pick up the bride and dowry, which is also called bride-picking. When the groom's wedding car arrives at the woman's house, the woman's house should set off firecrackers. After that, the groom can enter the woman's house. The groom will also bring the bride flowers and fine cigarettes to the bride's house. When you meet the bride, give her the bouquet. At the same time, the cigarettes were generously distributed to the woman's family. When the couple is in the woman's house, after meeting their ancestors, they should eat too flat (note: too flat soup must be chicken. And the bride should eat slowly, preferably not faster than the groom. After eating too much, the newlyweds bring their dowry to get married. Before the newlyweds go out, the bride's house will also set off firecrackers. After that, the newlyweds can go out of the bride's house. When the bride walks out of the woman's house, never look back. She should go forward happily. Even if she forgets something, she can't look back. She should ask someone else to get it. From the time the couple leaves the house to the time they get on the bus, the bridesmaid will open the umbrella for the bride when the bride picks up the door, and the bridesmaid will be responsible for opening the door. When the wedding car starts to leave, the woman's family will set off firecrackers again. When Fuzhou's daughter gets married, she must arrive at the man's house at 12 am. Generally, the bride leaves before 9 am to 1 am to pick up her relatives.

eat too flat: when the groom arrives at the woman's house, the couple must eat a bowl of too flat, and after the bride receives the man's house, she will also eat another bowl of too flat. It means to keep safe. According to Fuzhou tradition, before meeting their families, the newlyweds should eat Taiping chicken noodles and the groom should eat the head of the chicken, which indicates that the head of the family and the bride should eat chicken wings and feet. In Fuzhou dialect, this means keeping a good house and having more children is more blessed. There are also two Taiping eggs in the Taiping plane. Usually, you should eat one and keep the other, which means that everyone is safe together.

Making the bed: Fuzhou people want the elder of the man's family to make the bed of the new house, and the elder should choose his parents. Having a complete set of children means that the new couple can be as happy as this elder. Then find one or two clever, smart and beautiful little boys to roll on the new bed, hoping to have beautiful boys in the future. If you like having a baby girl, find a man and a woman, or just a girl to roll around. Remember to give each child a red envelope.

5. Meet the elders

From 3 pm to 4 pm, the newlyweds will begin to meet their ancestors, elders, old people and relatives and beg for red envelopes. Fuzhou people are called "seeing the hall". Hotel banquet: At about 5 o'clock, the newcomers will arrive at the hotel to welcome guests, and finally it is the common etiquette in the hotel. The relatives and friends of the couple get together to have a wedding banquet and a wedding banquet. The wedding ceremony in the hotel can be arranged by the wedding company. I have seen my peers' relatives on the wine table, and I can still get red envelopes at that time.

6. Go back to the door

According to Fuzhou custom, when you get married, the first day is the man's house to serve wine. The next day, the woman's family served wine, also called Huimen wine. The second day after marriage is the day of returning home. The bride's family will send her brother-in-law to pick up the bride, and the groom will give her money. Then the groom prepares gifts and goes to visit his parents-in-law with the bride, and needs to return on the same day. At this point, the whole wedding ceremony is over.

7. Marriage taboo:

(1) Don't get married in the ghost month, that is, the seventh month of the lunar calendar.

(2) Don't get married in June of the lunar calendar, which means half-moon wife.

(3) When installing the bed, put the bed in the right position, and avoid facing the sharp corner of the desk closet or any object.

(4) After the bed is settled, until the eve of the wedding night, the groom-to-be is forbidden to sleep alone in the new bed, and can find a big zodiac and underage boy to sleep with, such as Xiao Long.

(5) On the day of engagement, no matter how hot the weather is, all the people who take part in the engagement must not fan their fans, otherwise it will mean breaking up.

(6) It is stipulated in the engagement that after the wedding reception, neither party can say goodbye, otherwise it will mean remarriage.

(7) The clothes and dresses worn by the bride on her wedding day should not have pockets, so as not to take away her family's wealth.

(8) When a bride leaves her family, the harder she cries, the better. The more you cry, the more you cry.

(9) On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, all the sisters-in-law should avoid seeing each other off. Because "Gu" is homophonic with "Gu" and "Sao" is homophonic with "Sao", which is unlucky.

(1) On the way to the wedding, if you meet another wedding motorcade, which is called "Happy Rush", it will offset each other's blessings, so it is necessary to set off firecrackers or exchange flowers between the matchmakers of both sides to resolve it.

(11) On the wedding day, no one is allowed to touch the new bed until going to bed at night. The bride must not touch the bed that day.

(12) On the wedding day, the bride should not lie down, or she will be ill in bed all the year round.

(13) Because children cry easily, children should not be allowed to enter the wedding auditorium, because it is unlucky to cry in the auditorium.

(14) When the bride enters a man's house, she should avoid stepping on the threshold and cross it.

(15) Anyone who belongs to the "tiger" in the zodiac or a widow is not allowed to observe the ceremony and enter the new house.

(16) The bride should be careful not to step on the groom's shoes, which will make her feel ashamed of her husband.

(17) On the day of mothering, newlyweds must leave their parents' home before sunset, and never stay at their parents' home for the night. In case you can't go home for special reasons, the husband and wife should sleep separately, so as not to bump into the bride's family and make it unlucky.

(18) Don't attend any weddings, funerals and celebrations within four months of your wedding.

(19) Stay out for the night within four months after your wedding.