Why are many girls afraid of having children now?

Didn't you say that having a baby is like going through the gate of hell? It can be seen that giving birth to a child is a terrible thing for a woman. So many girls are afraid of having children. But having children is a woman's responsibility and obligation. Many women gave birth to children under family pressure after marriage. It is also a contribution to the inheritance of family incense. However, many women are reluctant to have a second child after giving birth to 1. That's because they may really feel the hardship and hardship of giving birth. Pregnant in October, you have to suffer a lot, suffer a lot. Take care of the fetus in your belly every day. Not only should we prevent our health, but more importantly, we should protect our fetus from harm. Wait until the terrible, fetal development 10 months later. It takes more pain to give birth in one move, so that the fetus can be born smoothly. Of course, there is nothing to say about those who can give birth naturally. It's mainly dystocia, and you can't give birth by yourself, so you need caesarean section. That's what makes people feel painful. Not to mention physical torture, but also always worried about the health of young children. So it's not easy to have a baby once.

Some women are prone to some gynecological diseases after giving birth. This time is not suitable for pregnancy and childbirth. If forced pregnancy and childbirth. Not only adults but also children are at risk. There is no security guarantee. In case of any accident, it will be easy to fold the wife and soldiers. In this case, the loss to a family will be too great. So women who are no longer suitable for childbirth. We can understand and support the reluctance to have a second child.

Besides, now, after giving birth, Spend money on children in all aspects. The price is much higher now than before. If the family's economic conditions are good, they can still bear the children's consumption expenses. I said that family conditions are generally easy to support consumer spending. In this way, the birth of a child has caused certain pressure on the family's economic conditions. This is also an important reason why many women are unwilling to have children.

With children, I lost my freedom, my job, my financial strength, my rest time, my appearance, my health, and my fear of losing my love, my spiritual support and my source of livelihood.

Yes, yes, yes, very scared, very scared.

As we all know, when a woman gives birth to a child, she really goes through the gate of hell.

Those who are lucky will come back after a trip, and those who are unlucky will never come back.

Giving birth to a child is not only a stretch mark, but also ugly. More importantly, it is life-threatening. Two women I know died giving birth. It's really hard to say.

I used to know a fellow villager when I was working in Hangzhou. She sends me milk every morning. Just be familiar with the relationship. Her first child is a daughter. She is seven years old and plans to have a second child.

That year, she was 33 years old and was going to have a second child. At that time, we all suggested that she was born in Hangzhou:

First, the medical conditions in Hangzhou are much better than those in my hometown.

Second, her husband works in Hangzhou and can take care of her.

Alas, I didn't expect her husband to insist on letting her go back to her hometown to have a baby, and then she lost too much blood in the afterlife, and her son lost his mother as soon as he was born. ...

Ah, in less than a month, her husband brought another woman back. For a month, this man's behavior was so chilling.

There is also a woman, the daughter of a professor in our school, in America.

She plans to have another child because of family changes. The eldest son is already in high school. ...

She runs a private hospital in a Taiwan Province province in the United States, but she had an accident and no one saved her. ...

These two events, I know, make me feel very scared, really.

Fortunately, medical conditions are getting better and better now, so that female friends can relax.

As a senior pregnant woman, let me say my opinion:

First, having a baby really hurts.

My pain is low. Small wounds or blood draw usually make you feel uncomfortable.

And I went to the hospital to see my colleagues and friends who had just given birth. My stomach broke several times, and I wanted to roll in the hospital bed with pain, and I was deeply afraid of having children.

Second, small families are not ready, both mentally and materially.

After less than two years of marriage, the monthly mortgage, car loan, water fee, electricity fee, property fee and parking fee add up to a mess, which cost me 80% of my salary, and I really didn't save much money.

Moreover, my husband is an only child and feels young. I am still a baby. What if there is another one?

Third, we haven't had enough fun.

When studying, I just want to get a good grade, get into a good university and find a good job. I really don't have the time, energy or money to go out and have a look.

Now I'm working, I have time on weekends and a certain amount of travel expenses. I always want to try something I have never done, and I always want to go to some places I have never been to see the scenery I have never seen.

Fourth, I have no bottom in my heart.

After giving birth to a child, it is bound to disrupt the existing life, and now the work life will be changed and sacrificed.

You may need to live with your mother-in-law, you may need to resign for the sake of your children, and there may be conflicts between husband and wife.

Too much uncertainty has always made me feel uncertain.

Girls nowadays have a strong sense of independence. They don't think women are just machines for giving birth to children. In particular, some women in the workplace are highly educated, capable and financially independent. They have struggled for many years and have a decent job. I don't want to give up my position because of having a baby, so having a baby is postponed.

I think the most important reason is insecurity. The pain of giving birth is only one reason. No matter how painful it is, it is a natural law, and girls can still bear it. What scares them most is what to do after the baby is born!

A child is a vivid life after birth, and it needs the care of parents to grow up healthily. Many girls will give up many things after having children, but many children's fathers not only do nothing, but also accuse their mothers of being bad!

Children need a lot of money after birth, and girls will basically sacrifice their jobs after having children, so they may be financially strapped, and the constant expenses of children will make them frown. If the child's father's family conditions are worse, the child's father will dislike her spending money indiscriminately, and the girl's face will be thinner. It is basically foreseeable that she will always live in pain!

Compared with having children, girls are afraid of not seeing the future. If you can't see the future, you will be confused, and if you are confused, you will be afraid. Fear will reduce girls' sense of security. Without a sense of security, they are naturally afraid of having children!

It is fate for a woman to have children. In the past, women had no status, and the pain of giving birth would not tell you. In a patriarchal society, if you preach too much, women will not have children. How do men pass on their surnames and property?

Therefore, in a patriarchal society, fertility will be kept silent and replaced by the rigidity of motherhood. If a woman doesn't have children, her life is incomplete, irresponsible and selfish.

In fact, giving birth to a child is not giving birth, but giving women enough safety and protection and enough respect.

For example, I have also seen some remarks that why should pregnant women who are not pregnant with their children give up their seats when they get on the subway?

Many pregnant women, women who have really given birth, will give up their seats.

Of course, with the scarcity of gold for children, the status of pregnant women has improved, and the status of children has also improved, but it is still not enough.

We should not advocate bullying women to have children just because they are mothers. We want to make women willing to have children, willing to have children and willing to be mothers, instead of being a big hat and being rejected by people.

There should be respect for pregnant women and parturients, and respect and protection for stay-at-home mothers.

I read an article that day. A woman and her boyfriend are still studying, pregnant and don't want children. They must register before abortion and need psychological counseling. As a result, people wait at the door every day to persuade them not to have an abortion, and they can also provide psychological counseling and financial assistance for free. At first, the young couple didn't care. Later, when their hearts melted, they gave birth to the child and chose not to have an abortion. When they make a decision, they decide.

When a woman gives birth to a child, it does have a period of pain, from the beginning of pregnancy to the end of delivery, but the happiness brought by the child is enough to make up for it. A family with children running around is very happy. Now many people are late ripening, and many women are strong again. After a period of age, motherhood naturally comes out, and it is not easy to have children again. Women should have their own children, but don't preach forcibly, which will attract disgust. Nowadays, young girls have their own personalities. They are used to making their own decisions. The more they force and preach, the more indifferent they become. If given enough care, no woman doesn't want children.

Women used to be afraid, too, but they kept their mouths shut about the dangers on the way to childbirth, and they wouldn't tell their daughters that they would cheat from generation to generation, so that their children and grandchildren would be full and their genes (regardless of quality) would continue.

Now that information exchange is developed, it is difficult for women to be cheated again.

Girls nowadays are afraid of having children. The fundamental reason is that they are just girls and have not yet become mature women in the traditional and psychological sense. Their motherhood has not yet awakened, and they can't understand the significance of marriage and childbirth to women's lives. What they really need now is to be loved unconditionally, enjoy material life and spend their youth without any responsibility. I hope this will continue forever.

Mental maturity is slow, you are a baby. How to have children has nothing to do with age, but is closely related to the maturity of your mind. It doesn't mean that people will mature and grow up automatically as long as they pass puberty. In fact, girls who are afraid of having children live in nail houses, and they can't let this inner child grow up for a long time after puberty. Therefore, we can see that many women in today's society are unwilling to get married, unwilling to face the complicated marriage life, and even unwilling to experience the test of fertility.

They always follow the characteristics of young girls in words and deeds, add blush and baby fat to the second dimension of beauty camera, love to install rabbit ears, pout, call themselves babies, like to throw them away, and imitate the cute state of four or five-year-old baby girls sucking milk.

They like all kinds of novel gadgets. When they are in their thirties and forties, they still like dogs, kittens and plush toys. Girls' colors, styles, clothes and styles can last until menopause.

They like to enjoy all kinds of life, where the afternoon tea is beautiful in color, where the punch card of "Celebrity on the Internet" is fun and interesting, where the explosions are comfortable, where the scenery is great, where the mobile phone works, where the hotel is comfortable, where the mask works, where the milk tea tastes strong ... All they think about is how to enjoy their body and mind to the extreme, and how to find a role to continue their father and become their lifelong meal ticket to shelter them from the wind and rain.

In their eyes, having children means the end of childhood and unconditional love life. They must be responsible for another life like adults and pay a certain price. They resist growing up, especially unwilling to pay love and responsibility like adults. They want all the love in the world to be their own.

People who are too sophisticated and sophisticated lose confidence in love and childbirth. There is a strange phenomenon among adults in today's society, that is, abnormal psychological regression and extreme evolution coexist in social emotion and intelligence. Spiritual retrogression means that you don't want to grow up to be a "mountain child"; The extreme evolution of social emotional intelligence is reflected in these people's sophistication, insight into people's hearts and individuality. Complicated social relations make young people precocious, which is not necessarily a good thing. They are good at calculating, keen on fighting, haggling over interests and lacking sympathy for others. They see more darkness of human nature and failure of marriage life, so they take a negative and conservative attitude towards emotional life.

They generally believe that love and hate are free, family life is dispensable, and having children is worthless. Their only concern is their own interests and don't get hurt in this complicated world.

Having children will undoubtedly increase the fetters and constraints, and make them lose their chips in the game of marriage life and be in a weak position. They look at the world with a speculative and changing mentality, and children are undoubtedly heavy backpacks. Constantly consuming one's material accumulation also deprives oneself of the possibility of pursuing freedom and striving for a better partner. They have no children, just a gesture of going into battle lightly and starting at all times.

People who are extremely selfish and self-centered cannot be compatible with the birth of a new life.

People who hate themselves often end the inheritance of life. In traditional society, fertility is the mission of a person, a family and a generation. In a pluralistic society, there are more choices, and more and more people would rather lose their children and grandchildren than consciously choose an unmarried and infertile lifestyle.

In addition to the above-mentioned naive and secular selfish reasons, many girls do not have children because of deep-rooted inferiority complex. Some are the problems of family background, and some are the stigma of inferiority when growing up. Most of them are disappointed with their bodies and are not satisfied with their abilities, temperament, face value, intelligence and so on.

Long-term depressed emotions and self-denial make this inferiority deep into the bone marrow. In fact, they are the real pessimists, just living quietly in this world, more or less with depression, anxiety and various personality disorders, which cannot be solved and have no motivation to solve.

This inferiority complex led to their unmarried, or dink.

"I want my disgusting genes to be completely cut off in my generation!"

"I don't need to create a life and let it suffer in this world like me!"

"I'm tired of it. This world is loveless, and this world is worthless. Why rebuild my career! "

They are afraid that after the birth of a new life, they will fall into the same pain, so they are afraid of having children and the reincarnation of fate.

As a senior pregnant woman in fear of marriage, I have the right to answer this question.

1. Afraid of pain! Whether it's caesarean section or natural delivery, which one sounds so painful.

2. Afraid of ugliness! Stretch marks, pregnancy spots, chloasma, yellow-faced woman, and a series of problems after giving birth are terrible.

3. Afraid of being old! Imagine that a young girl suddenly becomes a baby mom ... and then as a mother, she has to catch snacks for her baby. ...

I'm still a baby. How can I have a baby? Unacceptable, unacceptable.

5. Psychological age and ideological age are relatively immature. Nowadays, girls are generally highly educated and don't want to experience a qualitative leap in the identity stage too early.

6. There is no future. I used to want to play more. After I won Bao Er, I had to watch him play, so I had to play for a few more years while I was young.

7. Without the shackles of the older generation, after experiencing a series of iron rice bowls, pensions, old-age insurance, nursing homes, etc. , you don't have to worry about old nobody tube.

7. I always think my mother is good at taking a shit with my children.