How to treat the stale school banquet?

I object to holding a school banquet. The so-called stale school banquet, I think, at least means showing off, but also means asking people for money by stealth.

In the past, thousands of people went to college. When they went to college, they stood out from the crowd and worshipped their ancestors. People have the requirements of official position and wealth. I used to be the best when I went to college, and I became an official when I studied well. I graduated from college before and have a job assignment. In the eyes of ordinary people, you are an official and a superior cadre. It's really rare. It's rare. Let's celebrate and invite a banquet. Nowadays, universities are almost universal, and the enrollment expansion of universities has mushroomed. College students are not included in the distribution, and graduation work is not necessarily a cadre. Nowadays, going to college is not unusual but common, and it is not worth celebrating in a big way. Unless you get above 985, it is worth considering.

Now college is also called university, with a total score of 750. If we get a score of 180 or above, we will be eligible for junior college. Some rural parents didn't know that when they went to 985, they invited them to have a school banquet, and I invited them to a college. If I don't invite them, I will lose. One is to show off, and the other is to receive red envelopes. According to the usual practice, the school banquet should not be less than others, and you can make a lot of money from it. Things are scarce, and it is quite common to go to college now. There is no point in inviting another school banquet. Therefore, I won't invite children to go to college, and I won't invite them to work. I think a man should be modest and low-key, and should not show off.

In fact, not only the school banquet, but also all kinds of banquets are very annoying.

Whether it is a school banquet, a birthday banquet or a wedding banquet, only parents, grandparents, grandparents, brothers and sisters sincerely wish, and most other relatives and friends are forced to put on a show.

Personally, I don't think a banquet without sincerity should be held. They are annoying. I have worked for more than 30 years and received many gifts in various names. However, there are only a handful of banquets I have attended, because I don't like the noise of banquets.

10 years ago, my girl 12' s birthday party was attended by only the closest relatives in the family. My grandparents, uncles and aunts, and former nannies came to Tianjin from their hometown in turn. This is really a grand family gathering. More than 30 people have been busy for two days, and they still have some unfinished business when they parted.

Recently, I often talk to my daughter about what to do in my future marriage. My daughter simply quit.

Going to school is a happy event for my family. It's good to congratulate yourself on a small scale. Other relatives and friends may say congratulations on the surface, but they may be cursing their mother in their hearts. What's the point of such a school banquet? Just to collect some gift money? In fact, money has been wasted in the process of your coming and going.

Dear friends, what do you think?

The so-called "school banquet" refers to a banquet that children invite relatives and friends to celebrate after they have achieved fame through their studies (now referring to being admitted to the university). There is also called "fame banquet" and "champion banquet".

Therefore, the "school banquet" is related to the development process of colleges and universities in China. At first, its "original flavor" was that children were admitted to universities, which meant jumping out of the "agricultural gate" and holding the "iron rice bowl" of the public. Nature is a great event worthy of congratulations from relatives and friends.

So, why did today's "school banquet" deteriorate?

"Sanwei" thinks that there are probably two reasons:

First, is it really worth celebrating with friends and family now that children are admitted to college? Some people say that it is more difficult to get into high school now than to get into college! Nowadays, college students are all over the street. Even in rural areas, there are quite a few of them. Besides, it's hard to say whether you can find a stable job after graduating from college. Now, the people who work next door may not respect your college students. It's true, isn't it?

Of course, if you are admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, you will get at least 985,211and so on, which is worthy of congratulations. If you are admitted to one or two schools or even a junior college, who will envy you? Who cares? Who do you want to congratulate or raise money for your school party? -Isn't this new?

Second, the original school banquet "congratulations" has become "seeking money". It is almost a custom all over the country that children are famous, admitted to universities and held banquets to celebrate.

Human feelings are like a big saw. It's normal that you have something to do with me.

Since you have paid a lot in this "field", since the opportunity has come, you naturally want to take back some. No matter how well your child does in the exam, as long as you are admitted to a school and you dare to hold a banquet, others will not dare not go!

-Isn't this new?

A: I am extremely disgusted with school banquets, but this is the social sentiment. People follow, you don't follow, and you don't eat human fireworks. However, it is such a phenomenon that people know it privately. I want to talk about some personal views:

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First, close friends can be called several, but not too extravagant. China's human feelings are like this. People call you "you don't follow the crowd", as if you were separated. You follow the crowd and naturally have something to do. You want to have a show. This is called having face. At first, it was a big event of weddings and funerals. Later, it gradually evolved into moving to a new home, taking an examination of schools, and even cousins and nephews had to make a big fuss about getting married for a second child. This is a little too much. It's a little stale. China is a society that pays attention to reciprocity, but it is also a society that advocates thrift. Too many banquets not only waste resources and people's time and energy, but also turn people's true feelings into worldly wisdom and turn the friendship between gentlemen into a copper stink. It looks like money benefits, but in fact, people are uneasy, and benefits are very unfavorable to healthy friendship and pure interpersonal relationships.

The wedding banquet is busy with happy events.

Second, it's so small that you don't need to make more plans. You get bored when there are too many people. Etiquette is a close relative, not a close relative, which is also common sense. For example, the marriage of a son and a girl is not only a close relative, but also a major event in life. It is a once-in-a-lifetime event to inform relatives and friends and tell the world that their children have grown up and got married. There is no need for everyone to remember that they are happy and have a good time. However, just like my cousin's marriage, it is incredible that someone has a good relationship with his mother and brother, but you inform the person who gives gifts with him about everything. Also, if you open a shop and put a stick of incense on your desk, it's a small matter at home. There is absolutely no need to disturb others and delay others' work and career for that 3500 yuan, but it's just a small matter at home all day long. Besides, there are so many trivial things that people think they are trivial when it's their turn to do something big. Even some people don't dwell on their inner troubles.

The joy of housewarming makes people think deeply.

Third, the direct line of marriage, funeral and wedding is well known in the world, and it is understandable to return the courtesy. You can't do things that are not worth the loss, and so is human etiquette. Weddings, funerals and weddings are also direct. I advocate informing some close relatives and friends within the scope of notification. On the one hand, it can tell the world directly, on the other hand, it can alleviate temporary economic difficulties, on the other hand, it can enhance the emotional needs between people. It's the turn to get married. If you ignore the pommel horse in front of the door, it is also a very shameful thing. If such a thing is done in a human society like China, people will think that this family is "incapable of being a person and doing things" and that this family is also "the owner of others' disgraceful work", which will make it what it is today. So, this is the meaning of reciprocity. Small ones can maintain the stability of ethnic relations, while big ones can maintain the operation of a society. However, this and extravagance and waste are two completely different concepts and must be treated differently.

Weddings bring happiness to everyone.

In a word, human feelings are not extravagant, etiquette is not blind. It coincides with the reality of strict economy to control human feelings and things within an understandable and acceptable range and do what one can, rather than expand indefinitely. As for stale school banquets, I advocate banning them as soon as possible.

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The school banquet has gone bad. Let's just say that people's hearts are changing.

In the past, it was very rare for a village to be admitted to a college student. It's one percent. It would be especially good to spend money on a movie to make the whole village happy. There are college students everywhere now. What is there to celebrate? It's totally unnecessary. Should every family admitted to college celebrate? No, everyone knows that it is natural to be admitted to a university. It's a common thing, just like three meals a day. Why throw a big banquet? You think it's great that your child is admitted to college, and others don't take it seriously at all. Why send invitations to invite others to attend? This is rubbing someone's cold ass with a hot face.

I am embarrassed to come empty-handed. Be sure to take money and gifts, in fact, people are very reluctant to come.

What's more, it is even more inappropriate to borrow money from school banquets.

Therefore, there is absolutely no need to hold a school banquet. If you want to do it, just do it yourself at home. What's your opinion?

Speaking of school banquets, our side is even more outrageous, and it has really gone bad. No matter what university you are admitted to, there are wine shops, and relatives, friends and old classmates send invitations to drink. Now it's a university banquet, and some families receive more than a dozen invitations a day. It costs tens of thousands to get a red envelope after drinking banquet wine, not including the usual one-month wedding and funeral. From undergraduate to junior college, I have done a lot of drinking, because if others want to do it, I have to do it myself, otherwise I won't get the red envelope. Some people only know what university to go to by writing the name of the university. If they really fail, they will go to work. Who knows? If a relative has a child to go to school, the red envelope will be heavier and give the child hundreds of living expenses. Everyone who goes to college in the village writes couplets, and the school hangs at the entrance of the village. It feels glorious! Personally, I think it is also a waste to hold a big banquet. Because of some work reasons, I can't drink and waste a lot of food. The government should formulate relevant policies to stop the waste on the tip of the tongue. If a family has a good child who goes to college, it can have a family dinner.

I think children can only be encouraged by their families to go to school. Children have a long way to go to school, and it is up to them to decide how to go in the future.

Don't tell anyone, the tide is gone. If you are an educated person and don't want to do this, it is not appropriate to bother others with gifts for such a trivial matter.

In the future, whether you are admitted to a university or an official, you should treat yourself euphemistically, and you should treat yourself as an ordinary person when you are promoted. It is not easy to make principled mistakes in the future. How many corrupt officials, how many entrepreneurs, because of relatives and friends, dragged themselves into the water.

Of course, it's not that the six parents deny it. They should help if they don't go beyond the principle. If it is impossible, they will never do it, and they are not afraid of offending. Everything will be handled according to principles. To do this, society should avoid giving gifts.

Nowadays, the school banquet has really gone bad. Recently, there have been several such school banquets in our village, all of which should be invited.

My parents take care of their brother's children in the provincial capital. At eleven o'clock, they went back to their hometown in advance and planned to return to the provincial capital after eleven o'clock. However, in this half month, they were invited to attend three school banquets. Although they belong to the same family, they have been separated by more than ten generations. Although in the same village, it is not a stockade. As soon as they heard that my parents were back, they informed them to attend. It was really bad not to go, but they did. As a farmer with no retirement salary, there are only two in this family for half a month, 400 yuan, and other distant relatives can't go anywhere. There are several. My parents hope to go to the provincial capital after the eleventh. Otherwise, there will be too many banquets that are neither weddings nor funerals. For example, when a person moves into a new house, he has to hold a banquet, have a baby and hold a banquet. The atmosphere is really bad. I really don't know what these parties are.

However, many children have taken exams in private universities, diploma factories, vocational and technical colleges and even secondary schools, and the whole social atmosphere has completely changed. Besides, it's not just one person's problem, everyone is doing it. The whole county is like this. I'm really speechless about this atmosphere. I really hope that the government will crack down on this unhealthy trend.

The most ridiculous thing is that my brother works in the county commission for discipline inspection, and a clan child who has been separated by more than ten generations has been admitted to the vocational and technical college. He also hosted a banquet and invited my brother to attend. My brother said it was not convenient to attend (he was a law enforcement department, so naturally it was not convenient to go), and then people got angry. When they saw him later, they didn't even say hello. Obviously, they are all human beings.

Nice theme! I'm Yan Xiaoman, a Sichuan girl who walks between southwest and northeast. I only heard about the school banquet when I came to the northeast!

I took the college entrance examination in 2007, and the results came out, which can be regarded as playing my normal level. We didn't have a school banquet there, and even our relatives and friends didn't eat because of this!

I happily enrolled in the university, and students from all over the world got together. Some students in the northeast asked me if I had a school banquet. I look puzzled. What is a school banquet?

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I didn't know what was going on until my classmates explained it. I thought I understood. It was a party to celebrate XX's admission to the university! However, I really have too little knowledge!

Later, I married my northeast husband and came here to live, only to know what a real "school banquet" is!

Here, after the results of the college entrance examination come out every year, no matter whether the exam is good or not, the school banquet is standard!

Besides relatives and friends, people from the village also attended the party. No one cares how many points the protagonist got in the exam, and some even don't know the name of ta.

What I know is ridiculous. A little girl from a relative's family graduated from junior high school and didn't go to high school. She went to a secondary school and had a school banquet!

Regarding the scores of the college entrance examination, some of them did well. Even if they were not asked, their families would have publicized them long ago. For the school banquet of 200-300 points, the people attending the banquet are very tacit and never ask the score. Just eat and drink!

Why does the entrance banquet go bad?

Because it has been divorced from the original intention of simply congratulating students on their good grades and has become an offensive economic burden! So every college entrance examination season, everyone's wallet will shrink a lot!

In fact, many people are disgusted with school banquets, but when others do it, they also follow the rules, thinking that if they don't do it, they will lose money, so they have to endure their disgust and get some back!

My nephew also took the college entrance examination this year and was admitted to a university in Chengdu. I didn't hear my sister say there was a school banquet. We are really happy for our nephew. Even if they don't hold a school banquet, we will give him a red envelope or transfer money to encourage him to continue his efforts. This is our heartfelt congratulations.

And the stale school banquet, don't make it!

What is the school banquet in your place? Welcome to share!

thank you School banquets should be determined according to their own economy, interpersonal relationships and the purpose of the banquet. Don't follow the trend. Forming an atmosphere is not good for the family or the country. The economic conditions are still good, thanks to the help of some people. The banquet is to make children grateful, etc. , you can invite them locally. Don't follow the trend. involve