"I, Like You" hits: Love has nothing to do with age, why is it related to these three points?

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The essence of love is a kind of compensation

Two people will be attracted to each other, first of all, because they can find in each other the parts of themselves that were missing. .

In "I, Like You", Lu Jin and Sheng Nan are actually the uncle and the lolita.

What are the characteristics of Loli? They are young, cute, and always pouting as if they want to feed. They long to be tolerated and need a sense of security. At this time, the role of the uncle is the mother.

What about the uncle who fell in love with Loli? They are often good children who are sensible and do not need to worry about their parents since they were young. When they grow up, they lose their childish nature prematurely. When they are with Loli, it is to satisfy their childhood fantasies and to compensate themselves.

In the series, Lu Jin’s childhood is not shown. However, I caught one detail. Lu Jin’s mother called him as a routine on Lu Jin’s birthday and briefly asked him about the hotel acquisition. After that, there was no more topic.

When Lu Jin reminded her if she had anything else to say to herself, she had no idea that her son just wanted a birthday blessing from him.

At that moment, the expression on Lu Jin's face was one of loss. For a man in his thirties and with a successful career to care so much about his mother's blessings can only show that he has not received much tenderness from his mother since he was a child, but only harsh training.

So, Katsuo’s appearance gave him a different feeling.

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The basis of love is emotional communication

Teacher Huang Han once said that the essence of love is a two-way emotional communication, which is two-way emotional communication. The mutual admiration of the hearts.

Who is Lu Jin? A top-notch foodie.

As a hotel manager, Lu Jin has always wanted to find a chef who can catch his stomach. Even the female assistant beside him is a French Le Cordon Bleu.

While trying out dishes at a hotel he bought, he finally found the special taste he had been looking for, and the maker of this dish was none other than the talented chef Gu Shengnan in the play. If he likes you, he will satisfy you. ?The two got connected over cooking, because they both believe that being picky about food is actually an attitude towards life. If you understand my cooking, you must also understand me.

Gu Shengnan later expressed his feelings to Lu Jin with a bowl of witch soup, and Lu Jin also protected her by washing her hands and making soup. The love between the two sublimated in the food.

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The best love is to be yourself

Lu Jin, who has a mysophobia, after meeting Gu Shengnan, would be in her dirty room Spend the night, eating hot pot with her, ignoring the surprised looks of others and being silly with her.

On the contrary, Gu Shengnan does not need to deliberately disguise himself, nor does he need to feel that he owes the other party.

This may be the best form of love: each other can accept and appreciate each other with the greatest tolerance. In such a state of getting along, both parties can feel a sense of freedom, which is also a sense of relaxation.

As the writer Mader said:

No matter how good each other is, it is best for each to remain an independent living entity, without adhesion, dependence, or fetters. Being too good to be bad is a huge harm to a relationship. You don’t have to become someone else to please others.

Rene Liu is the type of person who likes to be alone. Even after getting married, she still maintains her own space. In the book "I Dare to Be Lonely in Your Arms", she once described Her married life with her husband.

Two people go to the movies together, each choosing the movie they like, rather than forcing the other person to watch it with them; two people go home together, one to the left, one to the right, and then return to their own study.