A woman becomes pregnant before marriage, and the dowry is only 400,000 yuan. If the man refuses to accept the wedding gift, what should the woman do?

Falling in love always makes people feel like falling into a "honeypot", so intoxicating. But as the relationship continues to deepen, the relationship between the two gradually becomes the point of talking about marriage, so This "honeypot" of love begins to change. Often in this evolution process, it is inseparable from the reconciliation of the families of both parties, so at this time, love and marriage become two completely different concepts.

However, many people's marriages are forced, or it can be said to be accidental. They accidentally became pregnant with a child, so the two had to get to the point of marriage, but at this time the two had no mutual feelings. With the ability to understand and no history of trouble, such a marriage can see the end at a glance.

Balzac once said: "Pain, like joy, creates an atmosphere. When you walk into someone's house, you can tell at first glance what its tone is, whether it is love or despair. ."

Case

Qiqi and her husband met in the same company, and they soon became a couple after dating. They fell in love for about two years by chance. One time Qiqi found out that she was pregnant. At first, both of them felt that the baby came too suddenly and they were not ready to be parents, so they decided to abort the baby. But later, Li Cheng's parents didn't know when they found out. Agree to abort the child.

Firstly, they feel that abortion is not good for a girl’s health; secondly, they are both in their twenties and seventies, so they are not too young and should start a family. Furthermore, they also feel that now Infertility was high and they were afraid of affecting future fertility, so they thought about it and decided to keep the child and adapt to family responsibilities earlier.

So the wedding room where the two got married was a demolished resettlement house, and the work has not been completed, so it has not been decorated yet. A few days before Qiqi found out she was pregnant, Li Cheng's parents had just bought themselves a senior citizen's apartment, so they were currently a little short of money.

Not long after, they arranged for the parents of the two families to meet to discuss the marriage. As for the bride price, Qiqi’s parents asked for a bride price of 188,000 yuan, not including three pieces of gold jewelry. This made Li Cheng Qiqi's parents thought the price was a bit high, but they agreed. Qiqi's dowry was a car of the same price, and her parents were giving the bride price to the young couple for their future living.

During their discussion, because the engagement required a banquet and a betrothal gift for the bride’s family, which required a sheep, double portions of tea, tobacco, wine, fruits, etc., the Li Cheng family felt it was troublesome and wanted to ask. Qiqi's parents asked if they could get married directly without getting engaged. But Qiqi's parents said: "Engagement is a tradition in our family, and happy events must be arranged."

Qiqi felt very embarrassed when she saw this, so she hurriedly explained to Li Chengjia: " Parents, their family has just bought a house, and after paying the bride price, their hands are too tight. Although the engagement gift, tea, tobacco and alcohol cannot be spared. This is a courtesy, but we can bear some money for the banquet. On top of that Help their family save some money." Qiqi's parents expressed helplessness and understood that it was not easy for the husband's family, so they agreed to their daughter's request.

But only two days later, Li Cheng's family regretted it, saying that the bride price was too much, but they really couldn't give it so much, so they wanted Qiqi's family to give less. Qiqi felt that anyway Their family had already agreed. If they went back on their word, Qiqi's parents would not be decent in front of their relatives, so Qiqi made the decision without authorization and said: "Don't let the gift be less, right? Jewelry, wedding photos, etc., Li Cheng and I will do it together Share it!"

But at that time, Li Cheng said that he owed 10,000 yuan on his credit card, and Qiqi also said that he would share the debt together. Qiqi's family chose a hotel, discussed a good date with their family, and notified their relatives and friends. On the morning of the engagement, Li Cheng came to Qiqi's house late, and as soon as Li Cheng came over, he scorned Qiqi, which made Qiqi Qi felt inexplicable and instantly felt aggrieved and did not want to get married.

Later, Li Chengcheng told her: "I didn't bring enough gifts at that time, so I came late, and I wasn't in a good mood." But Qiqi initially discussed jewelry with him. The young couple shared the responsibility, but later Li Cheng said to her: "Why don't you buy cheaper jewelry, and I will repair it for you later."

Qiqi became a little unhappy. He muttered in a low voice: "I didn't plan to ask you for expensive ones."

"In that case, don't buy jewelry. I actually owe thirty thousand yuan on my credit card. Save if you can.

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As the wedding date of the two gets closer and closer, and Qiqi’s family is very particular about what to bring with them on the wedding day, they have to bring it again, which is cigarettes and wine, but Li Cheng feels that It's a bit troublesome. Why do you still want to give it to me now when you got engaged? Li Chen was very reluctant and even quarreled angrily with Qiqi, saying, "Why should I give it? Why should I pay it according to your family's rules?" Give? ”

Qiqi was very angry when she heard this, but she didn’t know who to talk to for reasoning. Suddenly she thought of her aunt, so she told her about the matter, thinking that her eldest sister could help with the reasoning. .

Later the eldest sister-in-law reasoned with Qiqi: "The price of the bride price given to you by our family is the same as the price of the dowry car given by your family, which means that the car was bought by our family. Besides, Yes, our family paid for the house in full, and we did not ask you to provide a loan. Although the dowry fund your mother gave you was 400,000 yuan, it was also the betrothal gift money our family gave to your family at that time, and it does not count as dowry. In fact, this is It's like your family didn't produce anything, you just went by alone, and now you come to ask me questions? To put it bluntly, you just want the man to follow your family’s rules unconditionally! This is simply not fair! ”

Qiqi felt that this set of remarks was unacceptable to her. After all, their family had never made any excessive demands from beginning to end, only tobacco, wine and sheep, and indeed Qiqi’s family had Being so particular, Qiqi agreed to pay back his credit card with Li Cheng at that time.

So when Qiqi discussed the marriage with her parents at home, her parents made a special statement and said they had some money. Save what you can, and what you can't save, you can't save. It's a matter of etiquette. Li Cheng agreed readily at that moment, but he didn't expect that he would lose his temper on the way home.

Ever since Qiqi and Li Cheng got engaged, she had stayed at Li Cheng's house to protect her pregnancy. Occasionally, she would go back to her parents' house for dinner. Before leaving, her parents would bring her a bunch of things to take back to her parents-in-law. But now Li Cheng is making trouble again. Qiqi felt very unhappy when this happened. After all, her family was usually very kind to her husband's family.

After the engagement, their parents' family gave them the gift, and the two of them received their marriage certificate. , but now Qiqi feels that Li Cheng's behavior is extremely disrespectful to her parents, which makes her very disappointed and regrets taking this marriage. She now has the idea of ????divorcing.

In this modern society. Among them, there are many cases of marriage with a child, some are happy and some are unfortunate, and it often depends on the fate of the two people. In any case, before a woman marries a man, she should know whether the man is qualified. Be responsible, be able to take on the responsibilities of a family, instead of avoiding problems blindly, or only making your wife feel wronged.

If a woman feels offended and disrespected from the beginning of marriage. , at this time, you should consider your future life. After all, this is a major event related to the rest of your life. You can't just live it out. No matter what happens, you must live a happy and wonderful life.