What is the custom of engagement in Jiyang? I have been to my girlfriend's house to get engaged. I heard that engagement here in Jiyang can be divided into big meetings and small meetings.

Generally, there are about eight steps from the matchmaker's proposal to the wedding: one? Small meeting. ? Two? Large conference. ? Three? Change the sticker Four copy numbers (next Cambodia) Five: Delivery date (next employment)? Six: Sign up? Seven: Above? Eight:? Get married.

One: small meetings. The so-called small meeting is the first contact between men and women. The contact time will not be long, so the two sides will talk about irrelevant words and get to know each other. The general practice is that the man buys some fruit snacks and the matchmaker gives them to the woman, explaining his purpose and asking for advice. If the woman agrees, make an appointment at a time and place, and the boys and girls can meet. Generally, there is no gift or bride price. But some boys and girls fall in love at first sight or know each other for a long time. At this time, the man will give the woman a gift to express his satisfaction, generally ranging from 400- 1000.

Two: big meeting. After the small meeting, parents will invite the matchmaker to the woman's house to ask her opinion, and then the gift will be heavier. If the woman answers that she is willing to contact again. The matchmaker will respect the woman's opinion and choose the time and place for the next meeting between the boy and the girl. On that day, if the woman asks the man to meet her at home, the man can meet her at home with gifts and gifts accompanied by the matchmaker and his wife. If the woman does not ask the man to go to her house, the man will usually find a place to hold a small banquet, and the woman will come and meet her "family" (sister-in-law or aunt). After dinner, the matchmaker will signal boys and girls to go shopping. Boys and girls will do it tacitly. At this time, boys will go shopping with girls, usually clothes or jewelry, and most of them will go to the photo studio to take pictures. Don't forget to buy something for the woman's "family" alone, usually a pair of pants or shoes. This is called corner pressing. (I guess I broke my baggage before, but now I have a convenient bag. Hehe, very good, very good. In this process, matchmakers usually chat with the "parents" of both men and women. When the boys and girls come back from shopping, the matchmaker will ask the boys and girls for advice and signal the man to "take out his wallet". (near the county seat, if you don't give a small meeting, you should give a gift of about 3600. )

Three: change jobs. There are two kinds of so-called "stickers", one is a man and the other is a woman, which means seeking and letting relatives. Is it one of the three media and six certificates? Two of the six certificates.

After the big meeting, the man will invite the matchmaker to the woman's house to discuss the change of stickers. At this time, "gifts" will be heavier. Generally, it is "April 4" and "June 6" near the county seat, and occasionally it is "August 8". (I heard that there is a saying that "ten don't open the box" in the following towns, and I am sweating! ) four four? Usually four cigarettes? Four cases of wine? Four carp? Four roast chickens or four white striped chickens? In addition, you have to buy four kinds of cooked food, and double it, generally: pig head, braised chicken, elbow and beef. Note: Pig's head meat can't bring pig's arch and ears. (haha, probably afraid of being scattered and eavesdropping)? Six six? On the basis of four or four, two kinds are added, generally there are white strips and roast chicken, and there are roast chicken and white strips; Add salted Spanish mackerel. Liver and ham cooked food. ? Eight or eight? Add more. (This trip, if you buy it in four or four? Probably around 800 yuan. I'm sweating like a pig. "I can't open the box"? Very dizzy! ) Generally, the woman will keep half and let the matchmaker take it back to the man's house.

The matchmaker will decide when to change the post after consulting the woman, and will come to change the post then. At that time, the man will ask the matchmaker to go to the woman's house with the post and the above-mentioned gift to change the post again. As the saying goes, ten miles is different, and things are generally not pledged near the county seat, but some places have pledged money and things in the past two years. The following are the general wording of the two posts.

Four: copy the number? Also called? Ask a matchmaker or change Cambodia. Copying numbers is a very important link in the process of marriage. Will the man ask the matchmaker to take four or four? The gift went to the woman's house to discuss copying the number. Because copying numbers is a big deal, most women will say that they will discuss it with their brothers or elders in the hospital and let the matchmaker "listen to her". A few days later, the matchmaker came back with a gift to "inquire" about the negotiation results. If the woman shows that she can, discuss with the matchmaker the specific matters of "copying the number". Generally, the discussion is about the date, the gift money and the number of women who go to the media.

On the day when the number was copied, the man's house was very grand and the banquet was very rich, and the invited guests would be very distinguished. If the table is set at home, it is usually built at the end of eight or ten o'clock, and the table is turned over in the middle before serving. Now it's usually changed to a hotel. ? On the day of copying the number, the woman will let two famous people in the hospital or village go to the man's house to "match-make" with the written number and the clothes mortgaged to the boy. After a ceremony, the usual seating arrangement is that the matchmaker is in the center, and the left and right media are guests. At this point, the "three major media" gathered together. Before moving chopsticks, the "three media" should explain the task clearly and exchange the amount of gifts and gifts clearly. The matchmaker will give the woman's number and gift to the matchmaker and the man. The man will also give gifts such as gifts and numbers to the round media through the matchmaker. When all this is over, the banquet will begin, which also means that both men and women will officially become in-laws, and the girl will become the prospective daughter-in-law of the boy. At this point, the marriage process has been halfway through. (Now it is changed to "see in-laws" near the county seat. But? The procedure is similar. ) I think this procedure is an engagement ceremony. The following is the writing of numbers for both men and women, which is also the most important two of the six cards. One for men and one for women.

Five: Cambodia? Also called recruiting? Commonly known as delivery day. When both men and women reach marriageable age or the man has a desire to get married, they will invite the matchmaker to the woman's house to show their wishes and bring gifts as before. Usually the first time, the woman's parents will not agree. The man will invite the matchmaker on the second trip, and the gifts will increase, usually four to four to six. At this time, if the woman talks, if she flatly refuses, she will probably not get married that year. It means there is a sound. On the third trip, the matchmaker can set the date and dowry of Cambodia.

According to the agreed date, the matchmaker brought the wedding sticker and the bride price (the bride price was about 6000 earlier, hehe, it is more now, I heard it has dropped to 66000? I don't know if it's true or not) come to the woman's house. The woman accepts dating invitations and betrothal gifts, and gives the returned items to the matchmaker to bring back to the man. At this point, the task of the matchmaker is basically completed. Six: Registration: (Hehe, according to my research, there was no such thing in the old society) Matchmakers generally ignore this, and some boys and girls make an appointment to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get the certificate themselves. There are others.

Seven: above. Haha, my understanding of this process is that you will get married soon. Don't make any mistakes. Ask the man to send someone to find the woman, see if there is any need, and know the way by the way. )

The date on it is usually two days before the wedding. The person who goes to the top of the woman's house is commonly known as "Meng Hong", and is generally served by someone who has a good eloquence and is famous in the man's house or a "small fruit head". On the first day, Meng Hong came to the woman's house with a gift and "money for getting off the sedan chair" (usually 1000 yuan) to discuss all matters on the wedding day, such as: how many cars will come that morning, what time will it arrive, how many people will the woman go in the morning, and so on. In addition to the above, this gift will generally increase meat, usually four or six ribs, and some places will also bring flour.

Eighth: Wedding: On the morning of the wedding, the groom, led by Meng Hong, went to the woman's house to get married. After taking a seat, Meng Hong will give the wedding sticker with the name taboo of the groom to the people accompanying the guests, who will put it in a conspicuous place. There is an interesting thing: the groom will be a thief, usually stealing chopsticks and wine glasses, stealing chopsticks to have a son, and stealing wine glasses to have a son. Haha, classmate Lei Lei got married? Stole a hip flask! )

The groom, at the red signal, marries the bride, gets on the sedan chair, and then goes back to the groom's house. In the early morning, there are usually four or six people accompanying the bride to the groom's house, such as the delivery of small meals, the bride's brother or brother, and the dowry helper. It is worth mentioning that the bride's brothers will give farewell stickers with their names to the accompanying guests and put them in a conspicuous place. ? Wedding stickers and farewell stickers? It is also two of the six syndromes. This time, the whole process from proposing marriage to marrying is over.