Hotel card massage

When my son came back from the winter camp to pack his clothes for washing, he found a card in his pocket, which was a small advertisement issued by the hotel.

On the first day, I lived with two brothers in grade four or five. Three boys thought it was interesting. The two brothers told him that it was for massage, and the son said it was fun and put it in the bag. To tell the truth, I thought I was in the room of a group of little boys when I saw this three-point exposure and explicit advertising words.

Emotions sprang up and anxiety began: "The hotel management was poor, and most of the children came to attend the winter camp. Why is there such an advertisement? " Does the coach know this situation, why not prevent and stop it; Not good, children feel funny, how to guide; Children's sexual education enlightenment, what to do and so on. "

In an instant, children will always step into the society as they grow older, constantly looking for external reasons. Can they solve the fundamental problem? It is human nature to have such an idea. How to look at this problem and solve it? Parents can't put their children in a vacuum enclosure.

There are more than three solutions to any problem! Because I didn't know how to guide, I consulted an experienced teacher, so I immediately edited the information and sent it to the psychological workers' association group for advice, expecting teachers' answers and how to guide.

After a few minutes, a teacher replied with no expected answer, but woke himself up in an instant.

I felt a sort of surge of relief. It turned out that I was too anxious to define this as a problem from the perspective of an adult!

I once read an article that 4-year-old children like to bite their nails and tear their hands. When they saw a little skin on their hands, they had to tear it off. Parents think this is a problem. Whenever children bite their fingers, scold or yell, they intervene, which has no effect, and even take the way of binding their hands. The consequences can be imagined and have a serious psychological impact on children.

If you think it's a problem, it's a problem!

When you encounter a problem, it is the best time to solve it!

It makes sense to know that you will fall into a blind spot when dealing with children's "problems".

Fortunately, knowing that unscientific methods will aggravate the derivation of "problems".

Just like a question, if you have been struggling with how to guide your child and think it is a problem, you will continue to explore why you should put your child in your pocket. Why did you bring it back? Why is it funny? On the contrary, constant exploration will strengthen children's impression of cards and make them more curious.

In the process from thinking that this is a problem to becoming a real problem, parents are increasingly anxious to pay attention to and enlarge their children's "problems", which does not help solve the problems.

Strangely, we are all good at seeing "problems", the bright spots in children's growth; Dress yourself, do your homework, help with housework, be polite, independent and adaptable. But it is not easy to be seen!

Everyone will encounter problems, don't worry too much, when you think it is a problem or uncertain:

Stop and breathe deeply. Are our words and actions beneficial to children? If there is no better solution, it is suggested that:

1, consult a professional.

2. Read related books.

3. Pay attention to articles with successful experience in dealing with similar problems.