Ask Luohe about marriage customs. What are the specific rules?

Young people in Luohe generally go through the following five stages from love to marriage: the first step is to "propose marriage". As soon as both men and women get married, the suitor (introducer) will take the initiative to come to the door: some parents entrust the door; Introducers introduce one party to the other party through door-to-door chat. Of course, some of them met through marriage agencies. There are also people who find their own partners, but most of them have to be introduced by referees.

If both sides have no opinions, the second step is "blind date", which is commonly known as "meeting". Both men and women agree on a time and place to see for themselves; If the two parties fall in love at first sight, or are close to each other, they will smoothly enter the third step: love.

After a period of mutual understanding, when love is mature, it naturally enters the fourth step: "engagement". There are two small stages: first, the man should give the woman a certain bride price, which was called "bride price" in the old society. In the countryside, the man buys several sets of clothes for the woman; In the city, men bought some gold and silver jewelry for women.

Another meaning of "engagement" is "engagement", which means to choose an auspicious day for the wedding. The man's parents are accompanied by an introducer or other accompanying guests to the woman's house to discuss marriage. The two sides face to face and choose a certain day of the month (both according to the lunar calendar) to hold the wedding. The fifth and final step is called "wedding". The man's limousine should bring half-fat pork, two fish, several boxes of happy fruit, two chickens (a rooster and a hen, brought back by the rooster and left by the bride and hen), red and small happy characters, couplets and firecrackers.

In the past, the bride wore a feathered dress when she got married, but now she wears a wedding dress. When I left, my mother reminded me of a few things to pay attention to, and then said goodbye with tears. After getting on the bus, two girls helped the bride as bridesmaids, and the girl's relative boy was accompanied by a sedan chair. The last few cars were taken by my family. Along the way, we should put a small set of firecrackers in the car and send them to the busy places in the streets. At about 1 1 in the morning, the bride received it, and the bridesmaid helped the bride get off the bus. As soon as the car door opens, the groom's colleagues will sprinkle flowers on the bride's head. At the same time, long firecrackers should be set off, and the atmosphere is extremely warm. After getting off the bus, the bride and groom step into the courtyard or banquet hall to hold a ceremony, and the emcee or emcee will make a speech. After the speech, under the guidance of the host, "worship the flower hall", one worships heaven and earth, the other worships parents, and the husband and wife worship each other; Finally, bow to the guests three times. After the ceremony, the groom led the bride (later it was popular to hold the bride) into the bridal chamber. After a short rest, we thanked the banquet for its beginning. The guests guessed their fists and made a lively gesture. The parents of the groom in the middle will toast the guests and wish them enough to eat and drink. Some people take this opportunity to draw the faces of the groom's parents, which is called "drawing faces". After three rounds of drinking, the bride and groom began to propose a toast to the guests. The last course of the banquet is meatball soup or egg soup, indicating the end of the banquet.

On the third day after marriage, the bride will go to the kitchen to cook; After breakfast, my husband and I went back to my mother's house, calling it "three days back" After returning home, everything returned to normal and began to live a sweet life.