I'm glad I met Tiecheng...

Mr. Da Bing has read two books, "Amitabha" and "Okay, okay". Among them, my favorite and the one that touched me the most is this article about Tiecheng: " Others laugh at me for being too crazy.”

I like and am touched not only because the life that Tiecheng leads is what I envy and yearn for, but also because from Tiecheng, I see different definitions of success, and I am shocked. I have always wanted to be a free-flying eagle, but I forgot that an eagle also needs to perch on a tree.

Thank you Tiecheng, thank you Mr. Da Bing for this article. No matter whether there will be any substantial changes and progress in my life in the future, my mentality has indeed changed. I know a lot of things that I used to think about. Something I ignored but was so important.

Tie Cheng’s life can be divided into two stages. The former stage is about fighting for survival, and the latter stage is about “throwing” in order to live happily and emotionally.

Nowadays, many people, especially in variety shows, are popular for sensationalism. In order to sensationalize, they have to talk about how painful and miserable they are and their past.

But in fact, how many people have actually experienced the situation of not having enough to eat?

Perhaps, when there is not enough to eat, when life becomes only a struggle for survival, people have no time and mind to be sentimental and recall the tragic world of the past, right?

Only when life squeezes out only the last glimmer of hope, can people truly perceive life and be grateful for life.

I suddenly discovered that the so-called "pain" and "injustice" I complained about in the past were mostly mental, and it is no exaggeration to say that two-thirds of the mental pain is self-inflicted. It's self-pity and self-admiration, and it's unconsciously using one's own suffering as capital to complain about the world. It also feels that one is great, and even subconsciously feels that fate has arranged for one to suffer in order to succeed in the future.

Oh my God! Living in such a world, I feel so pitiful, so ridiculous, and so crazy. Holding on to those painful experiences in the past, and now torturing myself and others, I still think it is natural. I have a fatalistic view of success. When I see that success has not even shown the tip of the iceberg, I feel that it is impossible. It’s unbelievable, but what efforts have I really made?

Living in the thick cocoon that I have wrapped around myself, I have never experienced real life at all, I have never struggled with all my strength, and I have no idea what I should really do well. Things are all around us, right in front of our eyes, but we are looking at the sky, crying out tears, choking up our throats, saying that the world is unfair, saying that we have suffered, forget it, just break the jar and throw it away, but what kind of suffering have you suffered? It's just a broken jar. What difference does it make if it is broken or not?

I still mean the same thing. People who have come all the way without much problem in food and clothing, but always complain about how miserable they are, two-thirds of their mental pain is self-inflicted and made up by themselves. Yes, it is disguised, and it is deserved.

It’s time to let go of the so-called miserable past, it’s time to let the painful spirit take a rest, it’s time to break free from the cocoon, and it’s time to live a happy life facing the sunshine.

Tie Cheng’s life can also be summarized in this sentence: Be good to others and be good to yourself.

Be kind to others:

1) Provide help

The crazy old man was about to starve to death, so Tie Cheng took him in and ate noodles from a bowl with him. The old man coughed while eating, but Tie Cheng didn't dislike him.

During the lean years, it was difficult to find a job. A classmate who couldn't find a job asked Tiecheng for help. Tiecheng was willing to give half of his salary to the classmate so that the classmate could have a job.

Tiecheng carries a medical first aid kit, acupuncture and cupping, and even a hot pot with him when he goes out, ready to help those in need at any time.

A very poor family in Myanmar, Tie Chengcheng cooked hot pot for them.

Friends can entrust their wealth and life to Tiecheng.

2) Reciprocity

After receiving help from others, Tiecheng will repay the other person in a way that the other person is happy to accept.

He got help from a father and daughter in France, and his great achievements rewarded him with music.

In Myanmar, I received help from a poor family, and I was rewarded with a hot pot meal in return.

To be kind to others means to be kind to others from the bottom of your heart, to be kind to others in a way that others are happy to accept, not to impose, not to give, or to trade.

Just like Tie Cheng said: There are no good or bad people, only true and false. It just depends on whether you are true or false to others.

Be kind to yourself:

1) Do what you should do

When you are not full, try to make yourself full.

In order to keep himself fed, Tiecheng learned to cut hair, help his classmates with their homework, work part-time, and eat together with similarly poor friends.

After having enough food, go for a good future

Tiecheng is studying art in technical secondary school. His only fulcrum is to do well in his major. If he has skills, he will not be afraid of finding a job. Erqian.

After graduation, the journey was difficult, but step by step, the situation became more and more difficult.

Once the problem of survival is solved, live a good life

When money is no longer an issue, just live the life you really want and pursue what you really want.

2) To be good to others is to be good to yourself

Every friend of Tie Cheng loves him, and everyone is willing to make friends with him and give him advice.

Tie Cheng has a good temper and never speaks loudly; he treats his friends equally, is not overly enthusiastic, and does not neglect anyone; he is good at cultivating his energy, and does not look up or down when dealing with others, nor puts pressure on others.

3) Struggle is the best reward for yourself

Create what you want and work hard down-to-earth. The so-called God rewards those who work hard. If you work hard, you will always get something. Real reward.

Tiecheng never stops fighting. He always says: Create a new world for yourself.

He has many worlds: iron fire pit, cool KTV, Palau diving theme hotel, motorcycle travel around the world, girlfriend, RV fleet...

Each of his worlds are So wonderful, so successful.

Tiecheng is a tree, and the branches and leaves of the tree are the worlds he creates. The root of the book is the core of Tiecheng, which is the source of his success and happy and emotional life.

What are the core elements of Tie Cheng?

1) Sober

Sober and know what suits you, what you want, and how much you want.

Tie Cheng said that his goal is not to shock the world and weep ghosts and gods, but he just wants to see more of this beautiful world and live an emotional life.

With clear goals and positioning, Tiecheng goes into business to make money, but only when enough is enough. He often leaves when his career is at its hottest, making money happily, enjoying life happily, and living a sentimental life. Life.

He doesn’t want to be a star or a writer, he just wants to see the world, live a good life, and practice in life.

2) Kindness

Help all those around you who need help, treat your friends equally, have no class distinction, have a good temper, and never speak loudly.

Tie Cheng’s perspective on seeing people is very unique and worth learning.

He said that reading people is the best way to learn. Learn their strengths and weaknesses, and then examine your own shortcomings. If you look at people this way, you will never hate others or resent others. You will always regard others as teachers. You will learn to absorb the advantages and use them for yourself. You will just look at the shortcomings and use them to check yourself.

If you look at people this way, your mind will be at peace, you will no longer care about others, you won’t dislike anyone, you won’t look down on anyone, and you won’t hate anyone. How wonderful!

When you have a calm mind and become friendly to others, people around you will definitely feel this kind of aura, and people around you will also like Tiecheng and love Tiecheng.

3) Principle

He has an excellent temper, but he is also extremely principled.

The Iron Fire Pond is a magical place where there is no disparity in status between people. Everyone is equal, no politeness, no hypocrisy, no imposition of one’s own views on others, no debate.

This is due to Tie Cheng’s strong principle.

He asked everyone who went to the fire pit, no matter who they were, to introduce themselves first. This is the first step in equal communication, and then sing a song. Tie Cheng said: Everyone has a shocking song. Song is waiting for him. Finally, share your story.

Principles are a person's bones. People who have no principles, or people who think they have principles but cannot stick to them, are all people who have no bones to settle down. Such people cannot stand up or stand firmly.

4) Love

Tie Cheng, love others, love yourself, and love the world.

It is real love, not just talk, or the kind of love with conditions.

Towards his friends, Tie Cheng loves his friends sincerely, in a measured way, neither humble nor overbearing, so every friend loves him.

Tie Cheng loves himself deeply, understands himself, fulfills himself, shapes himself, and first makes himself happy every day before he can live a good life.

Tie Cheng loves the world deeply, knows choices, and knows how to share. He creates the world, and the world fulfills him.

5) Struggle

After you clearly identify your goal, you should strive for it wholeheartedly.

From not having enough to eat to having enough to eat, from finding a job to venturing into the world, from survival to life, from wage earner to videographer, from a monthly income of 300 to opening a hotel abroad, from street busking to In the palace of elegant art, he has been struggling and creating all his life.

6) Focus

Although Tie Cheng has many worlds, he only focuses on one thing at the same time.

Tiecheng’s hot pond is blooming lively, Kuzi KTV is booming, Palau diving theme hotel is booming, and motorcycles are accompanied by stories all the way around the world. Tiecheng has created many beautiful worlds , comes from his concentration and not half-heartedness.

Some people say that concentration is a more important ability than IQ and EQ.

I have a small goal, I want to have a lot of money, I want to travel around the world, I want to be a famous writer, I want to understand English movies without subtitles, I want to have a perfect partner, I want to be free .

These goals are very tempting, but they are not realistic at all, and they have no actual motivation and encouragement effect. They have no use except making me feel ashamed, self-doubt and denying myself.

I also want to ask myself, is it right to always look at the sky but forget to walk step by step on the road under your feet?

My problem is not that these goals are difficult to achieve, but that I still have many flaws and flaws that hinder the realization of these goals, but I don't know it.

Have you done your job well?

Do you love everyone around you?

Are you adhering to your principles?

Of course I can say that I don’t like my current job, but I can’t not take my work seriously just because I don’t like it.

I was transferred to this major when I was in college. I didn’t try my best to change my major. Then I looked for a job. I hurriedly found a job and felt at ease. Now I have been working for five years and I said I don’t like it. This major and job! Crazy? ! Either you resign right now, right now, or you do this job well, even if you just use it as a means of murder, you also do this job well.

Have I cared for the people around me from the bottom of my heart? Have I treated everyone equally and not been humble or arrogant?

No.

Discover the shortcomings of others more than the advantages of others; demand more from others than yourself; be respectful to senior colleagues, but are often emotional towards colleagues of the same age; treat people outside the life circle He is considerate and polite, but he is picky and dissatisfied with the people he is familiar with in his life circle; he is courteous and courteous to his leaders, but not so to his peers.

Principles are meant to be adhered to, not broken.

What about the exercise you promised? Did you agree not to complain? What about not commenting on others behind their backs? What about taking the initiative to care for others, help others, and share with others? Did you promise to live happily every day? What about the confidence you promised?

What qualifications do I have to talk about goals, stare at the sky in a daze, and be so ambitious and unrealistic when I have not done or done the things around me that should be done the most and best.

If you want to make money, start by doing your job well and solidifying your professional skills!

If you want to be happy, start by loving the people around you!

If you want to succeed, start with self-cultivation!