My parents passed away early, and I want to use the AA system to book a New Year’s Eve dinner at a hotel. Is it appropriate?

I think the AA system generally covers people and things that require a large social distance, such as work meals and colleagues. If it is said that my family is having a family reunion dinner among relatives and is still paying AA, then it is better not to do anything. Because if we don’t do it, everyone won’t have any ideas. Who doesn’t have their own family to have a family reunion dinner? But if you are AA, it will feel like you are actively keeping a distance from them. It's better not to have any contact with each other. This is called Shengfen. Just like you, you feel there is no need to spend money to treat them to a New Year's Eve dinner. On the other hand, think about it, why do they have to spend money to have a New Year's Eve dinner with you? . As you said, the ones who have something to do with them are your parents who died young! This is called money spent (you have to spend your own share), food is eaten, things are done, but things are not done yet. You will feel very uncomfortable when people don't invite you for reunions in the future, because you have no relatives. Unless it is your own small family, you will have somewhere to go and someone to accompany you on New Year's Eve. Also, if you are a junior and your parents died young, you will not be asked to pay for them if they usually organize and spend money. Your elders will do it.