What kind of "poor but not perfunctory" love do you have around you?

Poor but not perfunctory love is enviable love. Although such love is rare now, it will still exist, and there is such love around me.

Because the family conditions are not very good, I need to work hard by myself after graduation, so there are many such friends around me, and one of them especially envies their love. I am also a witness of their love, and I was the best man when I got married.

We've been together since freshman year. At that time, they liked each other, but they were both embarrassed to talk, so I brought them together. In college, boys prefer to play basketball, so we can see the figure of the woman almost every time we play basketball. Their family background is average, but they all like watching movies. Every time, the man takes the woman to the movies, and then the money is not enough every month. Gifts are also necessary in festivals. So he owed me a lot of money for four years in college, and I borrowed his money because I had a very good relationship with him. After graduation, they didn't live together because the woman was looking for a job. In order to save money, I rented a house with him. After work, almost no one can be found. After work, he went to see her and then sent it over and over again. Then he kept thinking about how to surprise her and learned to cook by himself, with many tricks. Three people often do this. Because I live with him, I can always eat in restaurants and then eat on festivals and anniversaries. Gifts are also carefully prepared. Because of the conditions, although things are not expensive, their lives are very particular. Up to now, they have been married for six years, have their own house, and pay back the loan every month, but they live a fine life. Although there is no deposit, I have a good relationship.

This kind of love is actually enviable, because I am actually a little overwhelmed by reality. After I get married, I need to pay off my mortgage and car loan. Coupled with the children's various expenses, I don't have any money left every month, and I often ignore the other half. But since my sister and I came back from abroad, I have paid special attention to the other half, because I can't care, because I often see others show love.

My sister and brother-in-law earned some money abroad and bought a house near my home when they came back. Because my sister and I have had a good relationship since childhood, she spent a lot of time together after she came back, and they have high requirements for life. They should be a little romantic. They come to me every week to improve their lives, go out to play together, eat together, and often buy gifts for my wife. I thought they made a fortune abroad, but I didn't know until later. They didn't save much money either. Later, I asked her why she could spend money without much money. Some unnecessary expenses can be left behind. My sister told me that making money is a lifetime thing, but if the feelings at home are gone, no amount of money can be exchanged. She said: I don't have to pursue a gift, but I have to have a sense of ceremony.

This may be the difference in values. Life is realistic and cruel. Money is not saved, it is earned. But love needs constant efforts to maintain, and once family problems occur, energy will be wasted even more. So you can be poor, but don't be perfunctory about love.