Adult relationship: altruism and egoism are destroyed.

There is a saying in "Augmented Xianwen": "Only doing good deeds will lead to the future of Mo Wen."

The good here is to be kind to others, including being considerate of others in life.

First consider that you are human nature; Putting yourself in others' shoes first is the wisdom of life.

In life, some people regard "every man for himself, and the devil takes the hindmost" as the winning creed. As everyone knows, unscrupulous selfishness will inevitably lead to the failure of interpersonal relationships.

On the contrary, always stand on the other side of decision-making and know how to push yourself and others' "altruistic" thinking, so that life will be smooth and go further.

1, altruism, is a big pattern.

I have read such a passage before:

Communicate with the old man and don't forget his self-esteem; Communicate with your child and don't forget his innocence; Communicate with men, don't forget his face; Communicate with women and don't forget her emotions; Communicate with your superiors and don't forget his dignity.

That's true.

The wisdom of interacting with people lies in understanding that the essence of a relationship is balance. If everyone treats others according to their own needs, there will be opposition.

Therefore, a good relationship should be that if you take others' ideas seriously, you will naturally see the Excellence of others and understand the limitations that others can't reach.

On the contrary, when you despise others, even if others do well, you will feel inadequate.

If you don't stand in your own position, you will be less concerned and more tolerant.

In this way, the mind is getting wider and wider and the pattern is getting bigger and bigger.

There is a short story about Confucius borrowing an umbrella.

Confucius went out one day and it was going to rain, but he didn't bring an umbrella. It was suggested that he borrow it from Xia Zi.

Confucius said: No, Xia Zi is a stingy person. If I borrow it, he won't give it to me, and others will think that he doesn't respect the teacher. Give it to me. He must be very sad.

One can easily understand the shortcomings of others; But to understand other people's shortcomings, you need Kaku Takashina.

Just like a sentence in the Book of Rites Interview: Gentlemen and nobles put people first, putting others before themselves.

A man of virtue values others and despises himself. They think of others before themselves.

Being a man, not taking your own needs for granted, and not taking others' efforts for granted, is the most appropriate cultivation.

2, altruism, crossing others, crossing yourself.

Some people say, "when others are in trouble, you help them." This is crossing people. Don't care about things, don't entangle, and leave a way out for others. This is also crossing people. "

By the same token, I'd rather be embarrassed by myself than comfort others. I'm crossing people.

There is a couple who want to take a bus from Chiayi to Taipei.

When I got on the bus, I found a lady sitting in their seat. So the woman sat down and the man had to stand by. The reason why the lady was not allowed to give up her seat was that they found her right foot a little inconvenient.

The man stood for three hours and never told the lady that the seat was his.

After getting off the bus, the woman felt sorry for her husband and blamed, "It's a good thing to give up her seat, but Chiayi has been in Taipei for so long, so I can ask her to return it to you halfway and give you a seat."

However, her husband said, "People are inconvenient all their lives, so these three hours will not be convenient for us."

The woman suddenly realized that with such a kind and unknown husband, she felt that the world had become much gentler.

Putting yourself first is a person's habitual behavior, but it is worth remembering that others are suitable first and can bring more benefits than themselves.

As the saying goes, if you give someone a rose, your hand will have a lingering fragrance.

Smart and kind people can always help others, even if they are wronged, they have no regrets, because sometimes giving is redemption.

In fact, the more people who can endure grievances, the more they can't stand grievances.

The environment is created by heart. Whether it is for things or people, standing in each other's position, the relationship will be more harmonious, there will be more positive energy around you, and you will be happier.

Life is really bitter, and it is kindness and self-reliance to think of each other. Everything in life has the ability to turn, and once you turn your mind, it becomes another village.

Altruism is the source of happiness

I read such a story on the Internet.

One early spring night, an elderly couple walked into a hotel, but the hotel was full.

The receptionist couldn't bear to let the old couple look for a hotel again in the middle of the night, so she led them to a room: "Maybe not the best, but at least there is no need to run around."

Seeing a clean and tidy house, the old man lived happily.

The next day, when they were checking out, the waiter said, "No, because you live in my room. I wish you a pleasant journey! "

It turned out that he stayed at the front desk all night by himself. The old man was very moved and said, "Son, you are the best hotelier I have ever seen." You will be rewarded. "The waiter smiled and watched the old man go out, then turned around and forgot about it.

One day, he received a letter with a one-way ticket to new york. He came to a magnificent building shown in the letter.

It turned out that he received a billionaire and his wife late at night. The rich man bought a big hotel for the waiter, convinced that he would manage it well.

This is the legendary story of the famous Hilton Hotel and its first manager.

Fate is samsara. The less you care about gains and losses, the more you will be favored by good luck.

Because those who love to go out love to come back, and those who are blessed are blessed.

When you pay "a drop of water" for others, others are likely to use it as a "spring water" in return.

As the writer Liu said, "Life is an echo. You give each other the best and others give you the best. "

In fact, in this world, everyone is a waiter, and a person's luck and achievements in life depend on his enthusiasm and ability to serve others.

4, altruism, harvest comfortable relationship

There is a saying in Caigen Tan:

"If you don't stand tall, you can shake your clothes in the dust and stand in the mud. How can we surpass it? How can you be happy without taking a step back? "

It means: If you can't keep a detached attitude towards the world, it's like washing clothes and washing feet in the mud. How can I get ahead? If we leave no room when dealing with worldly affairs, it is like a moth to a fire and a ram to a fence. How can I make my body and mind feel happy?

Walking in the world, who doesn't want to step on the rough road and get the ending they want.

However, as the old saying goes, it is convenient for others and for yourself.

Only look at yourself, selfish and short-sighted; Look at people first, the realm is high.

Only consider yourself, and finally the end of the road, bring others into the dimension of thinking, not only poetry and distance, but also the road is getting smoother and smoother.

Volvo's headquarters in Sweden has more than 2,000 parking spaces. People who arrive early every day always park their cars far from the office building.

Someone asked, "Is your's berth fixed?" They replied, "We arrived early and had time to walk more. Colleagues who are late may be late and need to park near the office building. "

The simple parking method actually contains a profound philosophy of life: think of others first, and you will go further.

Life is a kind of practice. If it is for the convenience of people, don't be stingy and kind.

As "Zhu Zi's Family Instructions" said: "We are proud to leave room for everything. We must leave room for doing things, be conscientious and meticulous.

This is a warning to people to be measured when dealing with the world, and to advance and retreat with self-restraint.

There is no shortcut to happiness, only management. Comfortable relationships are all heart-to-heart. I give you spring scenery in March, and you give me peach blossoms in April.

For the rest of my life, be an open-minded and considerate person. In this way, the other side of the world will be warm in bloom because of your passing by.