As you get older, what should you do if you find that your children are slowly hating you?

As you get older, what should you do if you find that your children are slowly hating you?

My great-aunt lives with my daughter. My great-aunt's wife died when she was 45 years old. At that time, her children had not yet grown up and she had not remarried. After my daughter got married and had a child, my great-aunt helped take care of the child and has lived with my daughter's family ever since.

In the early years when my children were young, my son-in-law was okay and would say hello to me every time he came home. Later, my daughter’s children passed the college entrance examination and he himself became old and became useless. As a person, his son-in-law is becoming more and more impatient with him, hating him openly and secretly, and there are more and more conflicts in the process of getting along with him.

My daughter had no choice, so she rented a house for her outside and hired a nanny. However, as she got older, she became difficult to take care of. She always felt that there were fewer things in the house and the nanny was too lazy. She was also greedy. One time when she woke up from sleep, she found that the nanny was drinking milk. In addition, when her daughter came to buy meat, the nanny would eat a few pieces before serving the stew in the bowl, so she was fired. Later, several more nannies were hired, but they also ended up unhappy.

Later, my daughter took my great-aunt back home and stayed there for more than a year. The old man usually didn’t sleep much and got up early. One time when he was looking for something and couldn’t find it, he called his daughter through the door to find it for him. But her son-in-law came back late that day and woke her up, so she asked her to leave her home.

In the past, my great-aunt had her own house, but it was on the sixth floor. My daughter thought it would be inconvenient to live in it in the future, so she sold it, and her great-aunt also lost her home.

In order not to embarrass my daughter, I moved into a nursing home. When she first moved in, my aunt was not used to it and was not satisfied with the food in the nursing home. However, her daughter often brought her various kinds of food. It has been five years since she stayed in the nursing home.

Later, her daughter visited her in the nursing home less and less often. This was because her daughter’s husband became ill, suffered a stroke and was paralyzed, and needed her to take care of her...

People are getting old. , you still have to have your own pursuits and life, instead of tying your life to your children. After retirement, make a plan for your own life and live your own life. If you can move, you can live it by yourself, but you must have a home of your own.

Whether you are an elderly person, a child, or an adult, you all need something to pursue in life.

An old man I know is 95 years old. Her 70-year-old son often holds her hand and goes out to bask in the sun. The old man is neither deaf nor blind, and he is a very amiable person. The son said that the old man still practices calligraphy every day. He always feels that it is not easy for his children and never finds fault with them. Because they have a life of their own, the children are also willing to be around the elderly!

What should people do to live a good life when they are old?

Tell us about a family in our village!

There is a family in the village. The couple gave birth to 7 girls, four sons and three daughters. When they were young, they particularly doted on their sons, typically favoring sons over daughters. The three daughters are all married and in good condition. What about the four sons? Two are married and two are single. None of the sons can make any money. Life is very uncomfortable.

My daughter’s family is in good condition! He said that he would take the old couple to live there, but where were the old couple? They were so disgusted and uncomfortable when they went to my daughter's house. After staying for a long time, my daughter didn't like them staying at her house. The two old men went back to live with their son. They worked as servants in his son's house, but they did nothing in their daughter's house and still complained. They also thought that their son was a good person and their daughter was a loser.

That’s the purpose of telling this story! I want to tell everyone that some people are really annoying when they get old, and some people’s thoughts have always been stuck in the 1960s and 1970s. It’s not that their children are not good to them, but that their own thoughts cannot be changed.

Just like the question asked, if you find that your child is slowly hating you, what should you do?

First, live separately.

If the children get married, I recommend living separately. They say that the smell is far away and the smell is near. This is not unreasonable. If a family stays together every day, there will definitely be conflicts. The last resort is to live separately.

If the elderly and their children live separately, and the children visit them occasionally, the relationship will be much better, and they will be particularly affectionate, and they will not often quarrel due to different habits.

Second, turn a blind eye and say few words

If there is no way to live separately and can only live together, I suggest that the elderly You must turn a blind eye. Why do you say this?

If you think about it, the concepts of young people today are really different from those of the elderly. They are used to getting up late, don't know how to save, and throw away things they don't like. If you encounter a slightly stronger parent, you will definitely have to nag for a long time. So what will be the result? Over time, there will definitely be quarrels, and everyone will be unhappy.

So the last resort is to turn a blind eye, respect the habits of young people, do what you want to do, talk less and take care of yourself.

Third, when you can make money, you must save more money

Today’s social pressure is not that children are unfilial, but also that this generation is young The pressure on people is really great. How many young people of this generation provide for the elderly, and those who do not rely on the elderly are considered good. Therefore, I would like to give some advice to middle-aged and elderly people who can still make money. They must save more money. When you are old, it is better to rely on your children than on yourself.

Finally, I would like to give some advice to young people. They must be kinder to their parents. Their lives are not easy, and they have lived a much harder life than we have. Please be more patient, caring, and attentive when treating them. Their ideas may be old-fashioned and stubborn. These have been formed over decades, and some ideas cannot be changed at all. Understand and respect them more, and filial piety comes first. How we treat the elderly today will be how our children treat us in the future, passed down from generation to generation, from generation to generation.

When you are old, if you find that your children despise you, then you should let them understand that a crow feeds back and a lamb kneels to breastfeed!

Even animals can do this. Are we inferior to animals if we are born as humans? First of all, everyone gets old one day.

I remember that my grandma often told us a story when I was a child. When the girl was young, she saw her mother serving rice to her grandmother in a broken bowl. Once, her mother accidentally broke the bowl. The daughter exclaimed, "Mom, glue it back up quickly. I will keep it for you in the future." !

Her mother quickly threw away the broken bowl and let the child’s grandmother eat with them at the same table!

If you have a pension or a pension, then you can live independently and serve your family property filially to whom

If you raise your children and watch them get married and start a business, then You have retired after success, so don’t feel uneasy and just take care of your children and interfere in their lives. Otherwise, it is inevitable that others will dislike you because you have too many things to do. Be obedient. There is no need to add to this problem yourself!

If the children are not filial, then there is pension and endowment insurance, so you don’t have to look at the children’s faces to live.

Don’t give your family property to anyone, keep it for whoever will be filial in the future, provide for you until your death, and leave it to whomever you make a will!

If there is no one, buy a property and go to a nursing home! Don't feel bad! The child you feel sorry for is, to put it bluntly, a wolf with a blank stare!

Actively participate in senior citizens’ clubs and maintain your own interests and hobbies.

Wait until you have a circle. You will no longer guard the small circle of children, and their emotions will affect your emotions. Go out and travel together. Get together. Square dancing is also a good choice.

On the one hand, shifting your attention will also make you feel much better. Being happy is the most important thing!

Many parents believe that their children should be grateful for their upbringing and repay them with love. If their children show a little bit of dissatisfaction or dislike, they will be very angry and even feel that they are raising them. The children born are ungrateful fellows.

Don’t you know that the more parents are like this, the more their children will alienate them? I hope parents can understand this.

As we get older, our children gradually hate us. What should we do?

I am a mother. As my daughter grows up, I will also think about this issue and will deliberately pay attention to the way I get along with my daughter:

1. Maintain a sense of boundaries and respect Children, don’t interfere or disturb each other’s life.

Parents who take care of more, control more, and worry more are more likely to be disliked by their children. These children rely on their parents' care while hoping that their parents will not bring any interference to their lives. I hope parents can understand this.

2. Don’t talk about the pain of raising children, and regard raising children as your basic responsibility.

One of the reasons why children are alienated from their parents is that many parents like to complain, take credit, and even vilify their spouses in front of their children, causing their children to hate them even more.

3. Be a person who is good at introspection and willing to grow yourself.

The age gap and differences in thinking are realities that we must face. Blindly doing things from our own perspective and being unwilling to admit our own shortcomings will definitely lead to many conflicts.

Besides, it is quite normal for family members to have differences of opinion and conflicts. If parents can understand how to think differently and reflect on themselves instead of blindly blaming their children, they can avoid the alienation of the parent-child relationship.

Some parents do not seek to improve themselves, but they dictate or even interfere more with their children's lives. It would be strange if their children don't hate them. In fact, the relationship between parents and children also needs care and management. If the children are willing to stay with us, maybe we will not be hated by the children; if the children are looking forward to escaping, we should really reflect on what we have done wrong.

Generally speaking, people who have this kind of thinking are either really annoying people, or they are too sensitive. Those who can realize and ask this question are probably the latter.

When I first heard about her mother-in-law, I really couldn’t believe that there was such a family. The mother was kind and the son was filial. The family simply regarded this woman as their treasure. , I really can’t imagine how nice and popular this old man must be. I always feel that I will be satisfied if I can be half as good as this old man when I am old.

The reason why I tell this story is to tell the subject that everything should not be too extreme. It is really not good to be too emotionally sensitive. Sometimes it is not you who are bad, but the inherent differences between the elderly and young people. There is an insurmountable generation gap. If your children refute you on some things or show disdain for you, it is not because you are really bad, but because you have different ideas. If you think about it carefully, you may not understand some of their ideas. Habit, it's just that for many reasons, I attribute the reason to my lack of knowledge.

If you want to improve this mood, here are some suggestions:

1. Live separately from your children, socialize more with your peers, and form your own circle of friends.

2. Look at everything with an open mind, and don’t feel that you are wrong whenever there is a conflict. It is also the first time for your children to be human. Some problems are due to different standpoints, and it does not matter whether they are right or wrong.

3. Cultivate your own interests and hobbies. If you have something you like to do, you will no longer be entangled in some meaningless emotions.

4. If you have the conditions, go out and see more. The world is a big place. The more you see, the more you will broaden your mind. You will find that the problems you were worried about before are not worth mentioning at all.

5. Take a serious look at your own problems and find out why you feel you are being disliked. You can also communicate well with your children, discover problems, improve them, and handle the relationship with your children well. Family harmony.

In short, treat the relationship between yourself and your children with a positive attitude, and never get caught up in your own emotions and feel sorry for yourself, which is not good for anyone.

I hope I can help you and wish you happiness!

Many parents will find that they had a good relationship with their children when they were young, and their children were very attached to them. However, when their children grow up, their relationship with them becomes more and more distant, and some even hate themselves.

This situation is very common, especially when they grow old, many children will "dislike" their parents. Of course, there is a reason for this. Reasons why children "hate" their parents

1. Parents control too much

Many parents feel that no matter how old their children are, they are still children and often worry about them, so they treat them badly. Children are more in charge. But everyone is an independent individual. When children grow up, they have their own ideas and considerations about everything. They no longer rely on their parents like they did when they were young, and they need more space to be alone. Parents who control too much will annoy their children.

2. Nagging

Nagging is a common problem among parents, especially mothers. Many mothers like to nag in front of their children, telling them to wear more clothes, eat more, etc. Although it is for the children's benefit, children are adults after all and can take care of themselves. It's okay if you nag once or twice, it will make people feel warm, but if you nag again and again, you will definitely be upset. Children may deliberately hide in order to avoid their parents' nagging.

3. Different ideas

Parents and children are of different ages and have very different ideas. Parents may be very disgusted with some things that their children like. If both parties have different opinions and are not on the same page, it is easy for verbal conflicts to occur. Children will feel that their parents do not understand them, and they will not want to talk to them, and they will intentionally stay away to avoid disputes.

If parents find that their children "hate" them, they must change the original way of getting along with them, do not treat them as children, and give their children independent space. Take good care of yourself, eat when you should, play when you should, and stay out of your children's affairs. This way you will not only be happy in your old age, but your children will also like it.

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Elderly people, just like children, we all Said he was an old kid. They can sometimes be particularly sensitive and need our care. Having said that, what kind of old man is not popular with his children?

The relationship between children and the elderly is a relationship between two people and cannot be decided by just one party. Generally speaking, elderly people who are disliked by their children have the following characteristics (dislike means dislike, dislike does not mean lack of filial piety.)

Love to be verbose

Most elderly people have the habit of being verbose. Always talk about the things you care about, over and over again, sometimes to emphasize things, sometimes when you have nothing to say. The most common thing is that you are used to it. As a young person, a child of a working family, sometimes it sounds impatient. In fact, this requires After all, it is difficult for the elderly to change when we young people change. As our elders, we still have to perform the job of taking care of the elderly no matter what.

Being meddlesome and intervening in the education of children

Some old people were used to being domineering when they were young and know they need to change, but they cannot. It is very troublesome to interfere in children's household affairs, and even to educate children, they have to step forward and say a few words.

Make subjective judgments and publicize family affairs

An old man next to me likes to say "bad things" about her daughter. She always feels that those with better family conditions should pay more. This kind of thinking requires individual children to always speak out about anyone who is unfilial and how they behave.

Favoring one child

Many people have experienced this and prefer one child to another. Many elderly people are like this.

She doesn’t speak directly when she has something to say and loves to use code words

A friend said that every time she came home when she first started working, her mother would nag her about how much the electricity and water bills would be in a month. If it was too expensive, she would feel that her mother was asking for money in disguise, and she would feel uncomfortable.

In fact, many children still know their parents very well. What should we do? We need to understand them more. Finding that his children gradually hate him indicates that the old man is too concerned about his children's attitudes, too dependent on his children, or that he needs their children's care in life.

If this kind of problem occurs, old man, have you ever examined yourself first to see if the problem lies with you or your children? If it is caused by your bad habits, you should try your best to correct them.

If your children have problems, find time to communicate with them and express your inner thoughts. There is no need to hide it. Only by finding the root cause can the problem be solved. I believe most children will respect the elderly.

Everyone has shortcomings, especially when people get older and their energy declines, these shortcomings will become more and more serious, and they may even become paranoid.

As children, we also have elderly people at home. Let me talk about some of the more representative elderly people around us.

1. Parent complex type

When Grandma Yang was young, she was sensible and capable, and she was basically in charge of everything at home.

After marrying her daughter-in-law, her son-in-law still respects her more. She basically obeys her when it comes to big and small matters.

Grandma Yang is 93 years old this year. Apart from her deafness, she is in good health and has no other problems. For an old man to live to such an old age and still be able to take care of himself is considered a blessing to his children.

But a while ago, I heard her daughter-in-law complain on WeChat that the old lady had kicked out the fourth nanny in the family!

Grandma Yang has four generations in her family. Her daughter-in-law is the director of the company, and her son is also the leader of the company. The daughter-in-law is very busy at work and often has to travel on business. The grandson's daughter-in-law is also a civil servant. After the baby was born, the family's hourly worker became a nanny, helping to cook two meals.

But Grandma Yang, who has always been thrifty, thinks hiring a nanny is a waste, and she is not used to an outsider coming in and out of the house, so she doesn't like the nanny.

She watched while the nanny was cooking, complaining that there was too much oil and not enough water. She also found the food cooked by the nanny unpalatable, and she always suspected that the nanny had stolen her things.

The nannies couldn't stand her all-round surveillance, so they resigned one after another.

After driving away the last nanny, Grandma Yang praised her son’s cooking for being delicious.

The whole family surrendered to her persistence. From then on, the son got up early to buy groceries, and the wife went home to mop the floor in the evening.

You say that such an old man does not understand the hard work of his children and thinks that he is the head of the family. How can his children like her? ?

As the saying goes, be kind when you are young and be good when you are old. Old people who live with their children must learn to abdicate. You are already old and your energy, stamina, and ability can no longer keep up, so how about enjoying peace and quiet and meddling less?

2. The excessive worry about children

Grandma Chen was the women’s director of the village when she was young. She had strong work ability, eloquent words, and a warm heart. Whoever had family conflicts that could not be resolved , ask her to mediate, and it will definitely be resolved satisfactorily.

When Grandma Chen was young, her husband worked outside the home, and she had the final say in all matters at home. She also has a lot of career experience. If her children encounter difficulties at work or if they encounter conflicts at home, they must listen to her opinions.

Grandma Chen is now 83 years old and suffers from many diseases and the sequelae of cerebral infarction.

But she still likes to take care of things when she comes to her children's house, "Xiaomei, this is not how you cook vegetables, why do you put so much water in it!" "Xiao Ming, it's not good to put your shoe cabinet outside the door. , inconvenient!”

Being eloquent was an advantage when he was young, but now he has become a talkative person and can’t sit still for a minute.

She can talk about anything and often listen to her talk about things from the past. She has also heard her tell the story of her aunt's dowry being stolen by the Japanese many times.

If he couldn't hear her when he wasn't paying attention, he must have dozed off while sitting on the sofa.

You said that Grandma Chen is still worried about her children’s family affairs when she is old. Of course, it is a good thing to care about her, but it is not good to care too much. Your children are grown up but you are still a patient. If you don't worry about it, aren't you asking for trouble?

3. Selfish and unhygienic type

Grandma Wu was very well-dressed when she was young, but her home was very sloppy and she did not know how to clean it up. When she has time, she likes to visit the East and West homes.

The old lady is 92 years old. She has no major physical problems. However, her upper body is obese and her belly is as big as that of a ten-month pregnant woman. Her legs are as thin as dry wood, and her center of gravity is seriously imbalanced. In recent years, I have become increasingly lazy and slow to move.

She suffered from urinary incontinence a few years ago. At that time, she was living alone and was pretty good. She knew she had to wash herself off because she was afraid that others would dislike her if she smelled bad.

But since she took turns living in her children’s homes, she became dependent and no longer took care of herself. Ask her to wear a diaper, but she finds it uncomfortable to wear it on her body. If she is forced to wear it, she is too lazy to take care of it. She doesn't care if it is pulled on her body.

She is not lame or paralyzed, but she is just too lazy to do anything. Sometimes her pants are wet and she does not change them for several days. If her children do not ask her to change them, she just covers them herself.

There are also unusual times when I can change several pairs of pants in one night.

Her children all despised her after being tormented by her. But she has a very good mentality. As long as her children can stand it, it doesn't matter how bad she is.

A neighbor in a community often hears her daughter-in-law sigh. My daughter-in-law leaves early in the morning and comes home late to work, and her son is home sick. He often helps her wash diapers, bedsheets, and clothes, washing a lot of clothes.

Even if she could wash her face and feet, she would wait for her son to take care of these small things that she could do by herself.

But when it comes to her children’s family matters, even if the sky falls, she never cares to ask about them. The eldest daughter-in-law has been suffering from cancer for several months, but she did not ask for a visit. After her daughter-in-law died, she didn't feel any sadness.

She knew that her youngest son had cancer and ignored him.

Do you think she is stupid? Not at all. She knew exactly which pocket she had a small purse hidden in. When the younger son was doing laundry, he found that the money was too old, so he went to the bank to exchange it for her, but he forgot to give it to her. She turned around and reminded her: "Take that money to help me buy shoes and clothes!"

Many times she pretends to be dementia in front of her children, pretending to be real, just in exchange for more care. Her little thoughts are understood by all children. But because of her old age, I don't even bother to argue with her.

But no son or daughter could like her, a selfish, ruthless and heartless old man who only cares about her own comfortable life.

4. Be willful and strong

Grandma Zhao is 89 years old this year. She walks like a tiger and talks like a rattle.

On the second day of the Lunar New Year this year, I went to Nian’s natal nephew’s house to complain, crying that all the children in the family were bent on bullying her.

Her maternal nephew invited her daughter to mediate and found out that things were not as she said.

It turned out that Zhao’s father suffered from severe lumbar disc herniation and could not get out of bed. She did not want to sleep in the same room with the old man to take care of him. In addition to worrying about her children leaving Zhao to take care of her alone, she also hated him back then. Keep all the family money in your hands, be a good person when you are old, and give the money to your son, and your son will like him.

The youngest daughter in Shanghai brought Father Zhao home for more than half a year last year, and her daughter-in-law also helped take care of him at home after he came back.

The daughter said that she went too far and was not even willing to serve him rice. She had a problem with Father Zhao. Seeing that her children were treating Father Zhao well, she was jealous and mentally unbalanced. When she said she was sick, her children did not care about her in this way.

Grandma Zhao was a very sensible person when she was young. Now that she is old, she is as willful and unruly as a child.

During the mediation process, the two daughters not only failed to speak up to their mother, but were also scolded by her. The younger daughter was scolded so much that she ran away crying, and the mediation ended in nothing.

You said, such an old man is willful, does not listen to others' advice, and relies on his old age to sell his old age. How can his children like her?

Therefore, when you feel that your children are slowly hating you, you must first examine yourself to see if there are any problems of this or that kind.

As people get older, they should be considerate of their children’s difficulties and be considerate. Don’t be willful and selfish and think of yourself as a parent;

You must care for your children but don’t interfere too much; when you can take care of yourself, you must do your best, be hygienic, bathe frequently, and do laundry; don’t rely on your old age and be willful mess.

Of course, some children hate the elderly, which is truly unfilial. Whether children are filial or not must have a lot to do with their family of origin and their family education since childhood. Of course that's another topic. I won’t go into details here.

We can easily find an interesting phenomenon. Parents' impressions on children change over time.

When a child is still very young, he will feel that his parents are the sky and the earth that supports them, and that his father is a superman who knows everything and understands everything.

When children grow up and reach adolescence, they will feel that their parents' control is a kind of restraint for them. They can be rebellious and violent.

When children get married, start a family and start a job, they experience social experiences. They will also feel that their parents still rely on them, because their parents' value is still an important reflection for them.

When children get older, their children grow up, and their parents get older. At this time, due to different values ??and life concepts, they will become tired of their parents. They no longer think that their parents are supermen, and their parents’ past life experiences have little effect on their enlightenment or enlightenment. They want to live according to their own ideas.

Due to the differences in living environment between the two generations, conflicts will occur. Such as the conflict of concepts about money, the conflict of attitude towards life, etc.

Therefore, the problem mentioned in the title is caused. As people get older, their children become more and more disgusted with themselves. What should the elderly do at this time?

2. Changes in the mentality of the elderly. The child has grown up and is no longer the child who was afraid of falling. You should enjoy life at this time. Taking care of yourself is the greatest care for your children. I believe your children will live well.

3. Don’t use the excuse of interfering in your child’s life for his own good. Keep distance from each other when appropriate. It is said that distance creates beauty, and this is also true for the elderly and children.

I hope that my changes can change the perception of my children. I also believe that my children will see the changes in the old man and eliminate this feeling of disgust.

This is such a sad thing.

When people grow old, they often become a little weak, feel unable to do anything, and unconsciously want to rely on their children. If you find that your children have become impatient with your attitude and begin to hate yourself, you must be very sad and find it difficult to accept this reality.

At this time, the parents must feel that their hearts have been hollowed out, and they may even suspect that their lives have been in vain. When they were young, they kept working and running around just to earn money to support their children. However, when they were old and needed their children to take care of them, they were reluctant and felt that they were dragging them down.

When the pillar of life that supports their survival collapses, parents must feel extremely sad.

When they slowly come to their senses, parents will realize that they have to survive no matter what, and they will have to rely on their children to take care of them in the future, so they have to find ways to face and solve this situation.

First of all, calm down and observe to see if your child really hates you. Sometimes, due to the pressure of work and life, children are inevitably irritable and talk indiscriminately, but this is not necessarily directed at their parents. The reason for this situation is that there is too little communication and communication between parents and children on weekdays, and the children are used to reporting good things but not bad things. When they have stress and negative emotions, they have to bear it on their own, and parents can't help. If you add chaos to the situation, conflicts will easily arise between the two parties. Regarding this situation, parents should be considerate of their children's mood, but they still need to find time to talk face-to-face with their children and talk about their inner feelings. I believe that through open and honest communication, children will realize that some of their words and deeds have a negative impact on their parents. If misunderstandings and harm are caused, they will be improved.

Another situation is that the parents themselves are people who like to blame and find fault with their children. Therefore, when the children grow up and internalize this way of interacting with others, they will habitually pick on their parents. I blame my parents for not doing this or that, etc. When encountering this kind of situation, parents should first reflect on themselves and understand that part of the reason why their children behave this way is their own fault. Moreover, children often do not notice it and just treat their parents in the way they learned from their parents. If they can let go of face, parents can have an in-depth chat with their children about this issue, or they can apologize to their children in person, so that if they are aware of it, they will pay more attention to this aspect. The two parties can also agree that if the children start to interact with their parents in this way, the parents can remind the children in time, so that things will gradually improve.

Of course, the worst situation is that the children really don't want to see their parents. I remember reading an article before. It talked about how in a family whose father died of illness early, the mother worked hard to raise several children. In order to build a house and save money, the mother had to start from scratch again and again. Carrying rocks down the mountain has left many scars on my back. Despite this, when several children got married one after another, they only lived their own lives and ignored their mother. When the mother was ill, not even one of her children was around to take care of her. Finally, the mother passed away alone.

After seeing such a tragic life of this mother, we are not qualified to comment, but after all, the children were raised by her, and their selfishness and disregard for their elders are also the result of their mother's upbringing. There is no use in regretting at this time. In any case, parents have the right to be cared for by their children, and children have the responsibility to support their parents. For children’s behavior, if necessary, parents can use external help, such as through the mediation of the neighborhood committee. and negotiate with each other to let children take on the responsibility of taking care of their parents; if that still doesn't work, parents can also take legal action to fight for their rights.