What is the wedding custom in Xiamen?

Let me let you feel the wedding customs in Xiamen.

(1) The bride price is also called "offering", commonly known as "big gift".

On auspicious days, the man's elders are sent to the woman's home by matchmakers (now mostly introducers or people with complete Shuang Fu). Bridal gifts emphasize pairing, including giving people red envelopes (most people don't know this gift now, and if they give it, it will only be singular). Therefore, it is necessary to prepare a pair (or two pairs) of incense sticks, deposits, jewelry, betrothal money, pig's trotters, and gift money for the woman's parents (commonly known as "excrement and urine basin", which will be much less than the betrothal money, just taking a meaning, I don't know why it is called this common name, and I am wondering whether I would like to thank the woman's parents for raising her daughter). Nowadays, many people keep red candle deposits, jewelry and gifts, and the rest are replaced with alcohol and tobacco or not at all. Now that the woman has collected more shit pots, most of the engagement money will be returned and posted in the dowry to make her daughter look good.

After arriving at the woman's home, the woman will prepare sweet eggs (that is, boiled eggs are shelled and boiled in sugar water), usually two in a bowl. If you can eat all the food, eat at least one and cut the other in half with chopsticks. Eat winter pink chicken after eating. It was almost noon when LG and them came to propose marriage, so my family was happy to treat the winter pink chicken directly at noon, which was not rude and did not need to make an exception.

(2) Marry a relative

Xiamen usually starts from the man's house to the woman's house to pick up the bride after 12 in the afternoon, so there will be a night scene at the beginning of the wedding video in Xiamen, which can be said to be a major feature. Why 12? According to my aunt, this is the beginning of the day. Suppose your wedding reception is scheduled for the evening of 30th, then the wedding will start on the evening of 29th 12, because 12 is the beginning of 30th. It is also said that getting married at this time will not take away the wealth of the woman's family.

/kloc-After 0/2 o'clock, the groom holds a bouquet and is accompanied by the best man and other male companions to meet relatives at the woman's house. Generally, the woman's house will not open the door immediately, and it is difficult for the man to open the door. Generally, after bribing a few red envelopes, they will be opened for good luck. My LG was standing at the door singing, haha, even the lyrics of "the moon represents my heart" were too nervous to remember. I stood at the door for a long time and finally had to stuff a red envelope.

At this time, the woman prepared sweet eggs and winter pink chicken to entertain the guests. At this time, the newlyweds should offer tea to the woman's elders, that is, offer tea to the woman's elders with a prepared tea set, and then offer tea to the woman's elders with tea leaves (brown sugar boiled longan and red dates) in a tea tray. Before offering tea, they will dress the elderly ladies with "spring flowers". At this time, it is forbidden to press the head of the elder with your hand. After the woman's elders drink tea, they will give the newlyweds a red envelope or jewelry under the teacup, commonly known as "pressing the tea tray". Then the woman's family will light the incense candle that the man gave when he proposed marriage in front of his ancestors, and then he can marry the bride and go out. When going out at this time, the bride should put the prepared things (except the boy bucket) into a red suitcase, and the boy bucket is carried by the best man and the man. The bride can only be accompanied by the bridesmaid, and no one else can go to the man's house. Then the woman's parents will thank the best man and bridesmaid with red envelopes, and even the male partner will thank them more politely.

When the bride goes out with a bunch of flowers in her hand, the bridesmaid should open a red umbrella to prevent the bride from seeing the sky. After the bride got on the bus, she threw the prepared fan out of the window and the bride's brother picked it up. Then there is the night video all the way.

After arriving at the groom's downstairs, the bridesmaid will spread the red umbrella to the first floor. I don't know when it began to be stipulated that the bride can't walk by herself, but must be carried by the groom, and the bride's feet in the middle can't touch the ground. My new house is on the sixth floor and the basement is equivalent to the seventh floor. I'm not too thin. I really sympathize with my LG. At that time, I didn't know where LG came from, but it was okay. . . . . . At this time, the maid of honor should first scatter the money all the way, and keep saying: people come first, people arrive later. Then it was dark, all over the new house. Read on.

When I arrived at the man's house, I didn't turn on the light, and the elders avoided the room, saying that in order to avoid a "head-on collision" for the first time, the husband and wife sat on the bed in the advanced room behind (pay special attention to the fact that after the new bed was installed, the husband and wife didn't sit, and others couldn't sit). After the bridesmaids turn on the lights, the bride invites the elders out, and after offering incense to the ancestors, she will also eat sweet eggs, winter pink chicken, spring flowers, offer tea, press the tea tray, and then send towels and shoes to the elders. The man thanked the best man, bridesmaid, etc. At noon the next day, a pot of dry rice will be cooked in the new house and covered with a rice towel prepared by the bride, indicating that there is food and clothing.

(3) binge drinking

Xiamen banquet is basically invited by both parties, and it is rarely invited separately. It usually starts from 6: 30 to 7: 00 in the evening. This custom in Xiamen is not good, and it usually starts very late. It's good to start at 8 o'clock, but ours is better, because there is a couple next door who are afraid of influencing each other. They only have 8 tables. When the guests arrive first, they have to wait until nine o'clock. Mom and uncle want to sit at the main table. Generally, there will be some interaction, and the elders of the couple will say some words of encouragement and gratitude before they officially start eating.

In the meantime, the bride changed three sets of clothes and a wedding dress in the hall. Soon after the chicken soup comes out, she will change into a second dress. The sound of the chicken house door is the same as that in the street, indicating that the couple are going out to propose a toast. Thank you for your congratulations. After that, we will send you a new suit before you leave.

Now most hotels offer rooms for one night, so there are fewer people making trouble in the bridal chamber. After the banquet, except for relatives and friends who went to the new house to have a look, they basically went home. Therefore, Xiamen rarely makes wedding rooms unpleasant.

(4) Go back to your parents' home

The third day after marriage is the day when the newlyweds go home. Generally, newlyweds will bring four-color cakes home, and the woman needs to change two to take home for her daughter. The woman also needs to prepare two sugarcane (branches and leaves are wrapped in red paper, which must be placed at the gate before being discarded), a live rooster (commonly known as "leading chicken", now replaced by even-numbered eggs wrapped in red paper), exquisite rice cakes and other sacrifices for the mother beside the bed.

At noon, the woman's house invites a son-in-law. The daughter must return to her husband's house before dark.

From then on, a couple's new life began.