Will renting a house for a long time affect my mental state?

Mentality is something that depends on self-adjustment. In fact, the mentality is often accompanied by comparison. Comparing one person to another will lead to death, and comparing goods will lead to throwing away. This is also true when it comes to houses.

I think back before the housing reform, when every family lived in their husband’s house, even though they were unhappy in one way or another, their mentality would not be unbalanced because of renting a house, because the neighbors on the left and right were the same. But after the real estate market became active, as the income gap between people widened and the changes before and after buying a house, comparisons led to changes in mentality. Just imagine, when your childhood friend or colleague or friend buys a big house or a new house, and you are still renting, will such a comparison affect your mood? Another kind of comparison is vertical comparison, which will make you regret the psychological changes. For example, if you gritted your teeth and bought a house and bought a car a few years ago, now the house prices have risen sharply and the assets have increased sharply. But the reality is that you haven't bought a house, you are waiting for the price to drop or you feel that renting a house is less burdensome and less stressful. This kind of regret also has a relatively large impact on the mentality.

Of course, if you are an optimistic person, you have a stable career and a good income. Renting can also be an option. As long as you look at your choices optimistically, don't blindly compare, and keep a peaceful mind, it's good.

You see, some foreigners just live in renting a house for the rest of their lives, and they are happy and have no mental imbalance. In a country like Singapore where 80% of HDB flats are rented, people have a very good mentality and the quality of life is quite high.

Of course, from the perspective of asset value, I still want to advise capable young people in big cities to work hard as soon as possible, increase their income, and buy a car and buy a house as soon as possible. Because the demographic dividend and policy dividend of first- and second-tier cities are not over yet, and the increase in urban resources and asset value brought by houses is obvious.

You can’t live in long-term renting, only if you are poor.

Mango mentioned this problem in an issue of "Friends Please" at the beginning of the year: A girl said on the radio that she planned to have a child with her husband. The husband thought it would be better to buy a house and stabilize it, but the girl felt that renting a house was not good. fine. In the program, Yi Yang Qianxi talked about the experience of renting a house at home when he was a child. The general idea was that he didn't think renting a house was good when he was a child. As long as your parents give you enough love, renting a house is also warm.

Xie Na also said that she has always rented a house. At this time, all the comments on the barrage were "The house you rent is worth XX million a month." We often see celebrities saying that they have been renting instead of buying a house. It is widely known that Venus spends up to one million in rent every year and lives in the presidential suite of Shanghai Jinjiang Hotel all year round.

Will renting a house like this affect my mental state? No, their wealth and income are enough to give them a sense of security, and renting is the more comfortable way they choose.

Therefore, when facing this problem, we must first clearly understand the main contradiction of the problem. Renting is just a form. The difference is that some people choose this actively, while more people choose it passively. When this "passive" emotion is magnified, it will deepen people's sense of uncertainty. This sense of uncertainty is panic about the future and doubt about oneself. Over time, I feel that only when I have a house can I have a home and a sense of security.

But is this really the case? After buying a house, you don’t dare to resign, you’re afraid of not having a job, you don’t dare to spend money recklessly, and you’re afraid that you won’t be able to pay off the mortgage, which also affects your mental state.

There is a saying that is often mentioned: "The house is not your own, but your life is." Of course, a house can give a person a place to stay for a short time, but if there is nothing in his heart to rely on, he will never be there. It's empty. The sense of security in the heart comes from sufficient personal ability, strong and confident inner strength, and love.

Only when your personal professional abilities gradually become stronger can you be given the capital to gain a long-term foothold in society. A strong and confident heart can help you resist difficulties in life and deal with current difficulties correctly. And love from family, friends, lovers, and even love from yourself will make you feel secure and not empty at all times.

"The reason why people suffer is that they pursue the wrong things." When you find the really right thing, renting a house is just a formality for you.

First of all, let me conclude that long-term renting will not affect your mentality. Some wealthy people will also choose to rent for a long time, such as staying in a five-star hotel for a long time.

Some long-term business trips also involve renting in hotels. But this will not have any negative impact on the mentality.

What really has a greater impact on the mentality is to remain in a state of poverty or poverty for a long time. In this state, even if you have your own house, it is not conducive to your physical and mental health development.

I know many people who own three or more apartments. For the sake of convenience, they will rent out their houses and rent a house in the most convenient location for them. This is a very unique concept of separation of residence and residence. If you have any troubles in this regard, you can send me a private message.

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If you often work outside and find a new house when you change jobs, you will definitely not feel any sense of belonging. If you already have a family and a career, it will be inconvenient to rent an apartment for a long time while working outside. If a child does not have a house, he will have to pay temporary tuition fees of tens of thousands a year if he needs to go to school in a first-tier city. It is not cost-effective to pay long-term tuition. If children do not go to school in first-tier cities, their children will not be able to keep up with their education in their hometown. Most importantly, they will lose the company of their parents and become left-behind children.