He Han and Tang Jing have been together for ten years, why didn't they get together in the end?

American psychologist Sternberg proposed three elements of love: passion, intimacy and commitment. These three components constitute seven types: fond love, infatuated love, empty love, romantic love, partner love, stupid love, and perfect love. He Han and Tang Jing have been together for ten years, why are they still so difficult to achieve success? Is it because they don't have each other in their hearts?

When He Han celebrated Tang Jing's promotion, he only said one word to Tang Jing, and Tang Jing left sadly. For a woman as outstanding and strong as Tang Jing, what words can break her psychological defense? He Han said: "I have a cold today and can't drink, so I can only drink tea instead of wine. Congratulations to Tang Jing for her bright future." With this sentence, Tang Jing told Zijun that He Han wanted to break up with her.

As we all know, Tang Jing was promoted because of Adam's case. Tang Jing went to find Adam with the letter He Han gave her. At that time, Adam said this to Tang Jing: "I am He Han's client, but he is my friend. How many times have I had to get drunk and unconscious because of social events? It was He Han who picked me up and dropped me off in the middle of the night. I went back to the hotel, but he never told anyone. You all thought that his success at work was due to cleverness, but it was not true. It was also about friendship."

In fact, for Adam, He Han just met his psychological expectations and met his standards for cooperation and making friends. Not only is he capable, but he has a human touch. What's Tang Jing's mentality here? Subconsciously, Tang Jing was unwilling to trust He Han. After ten years of relationship, the two have never achieved success. Vivian is a thorn in their psychology, but not the main factor. Regarding Vivian, one of them tried their best not to admit it, and the other tried not to believe it (in fact, nothing happened between He Han and Vivian).

So when He Han wished her a successful promotion, Tang Jing's mentality may be like this: She thought that Adam's case was He Han testing her. If she found Adam, it would mean that she chose to give up on them. feelings between. In fact, He Han didn't think so mentally. He just didn't want Tang Jing to be embarrassed in Bianti, so he asked Adam privately to hand over the case to Tang Jing. In order to make He Han happy, Adam finally signed a contract with Tang Jing and took the responsibility on himself. On the body.

Some people may say that their psychological world is so complicated. Are feelings important? Is work important? In Tang Jing's mind, she may have decided that her job is better than He Han's at the moment. In addition, the topic between the two besides work is Zijun (this is probably one of the reasons why He Han empathizes with Zijun). In the end, the most important passion between them was missing. From a psychological perspective, passion refers to emotional fascination. Love without passion leaves only rights and obligations. In the relationship between He Han and Tang Jing, it can be said to be companionate love.