Are men really just controlled by sperm?

My cousin broke up with her boyfriend.

This is her second relationship that has ended this year. You know, it's only April.

She is good-looking and has a sweet mouth, and there are many suitors around her.

She also falls in love easily, but each relationship is short-lived.

She said the reason why she couldn't stay for a long time was that boys always asked for a room, which made her very confused and annoyed.

She really didn’t understand what these boys were thinking about, whether it was her person or her body that they loved.

Sometimes she agrees to open a room, but she can only hold him to sleep, and if she wants to take the next step, she will stop immediately.

This state of affairs was unbearable for her previous boyfriends, which often led to fierce conflicts and ultimately ended in a quick breakup.

The reason for the breakup was either that she doubted the other person's love, or that the other person couldn't stand her "weird" demands.

She lamented, why is it so difficult to find a boyfriend who doesn’t care about me and only loves me.

I joked: I like your body but I don’t like you? Doesn’t your body belong to you?

She said, of course the body is mine.

But if they really love me, they should respect me and love me instead of sleeping with me or hurting me.

I was a little surprised by my cousin's "innocence".

In her opinion, love is protection, sex is harm, and the two cannot coexist.

I don’t know how she came to have this binary opposition between sex and love.

But there is no doubt that this kind of knowledge has caused great trouble to her intimate relationship.

The same is true for one of my college roommates.

She and her boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship and meet once a month.

If they agree on a time, but she comes to visit her aunt unexpectedly, her boyfriend will usually cancel the train ticket and postpone her visit for a week.

Whenever this happens, the roommate will get furious: "Don't you just want to have sex when you come here?"

The boyfriend also has a reason:

< p>"I'm a hot-blooded man, of course I want to do it. Postponing it for a week, my aunt is here, and it will be more convenient for us to go out and play, right?"

The two of them quarreled fiercely, and every time they met, After the meeting, the roommates all said they wanted to break up.

She said that apart from eating, they spent almost all of the two days they met each month in the hotel.

The roommate smiled bitterly and said that she was like a "comfort woman" and fell in love just to satisfy her boyfriend's sexual desire.

This is different from the relationship she wants.

She wants to watch the stars and the moon together, and chat about poetry and philosophy of life, instead of having sex in a hotel every time they meet.

Although her boyfriend is usually very nice to her, he makes videos with her every night, reads the books she reads, and listens to the music she listens to.

Plan travel routes for her, help her find essay materials, and even help her with elective coursework.

But she still wonders whether her boyfriend's kindness to her is out of love or "sex."

My boyfriend believes that making love is something that couples do, and they only have sex when there is love.

He didn't understand why she was unwilling to do it, and sometimes she would wonder if her roommate was cheating on her, that's why she was like this.

Such speculation will trigger endless quarrels.

After the last quarrel, the roommate broke up with her. She said that she never wanted to fall in love with a boy who had sperm.

In the future, I will find a "Platonic partner" who can uplift my soul.

Over the years, my roommates have met some good boys, but after getting into a relationship with them, there are not many that they can’t get enough of.

This made her quite disappointed, unable to fall in love with someone easily.

In this way, the two girls' expectations of "only talking about romance and not having sex" were frequently disappointed, and they were slapped in the face by reality.

Sex is the passage to reality; desire is the instinct of life.

The spiritual world and physical existence should be coordinated and unified, not dualistic.

The pursuit of soul fusion does not mean belittling or denying the needs of the body.

A self-consistent personality and a good intimate relationship can never be separated from the mutual integration and promotion of the two.

Respect your true feelings. Outside of moral judgment, you will see another beautiful existence -

That is love, for the body and for each other. love.

You must believe that making love itself is the most beautiful love affair.