In the next life, I wish you to be a person who is afraid of death.

Original title: The body of a 22-year-old female teacher lost in Weizhou Island was found: In the next life, I hope you are a person who is afraid of death.

I believe you know something about the news of the lost girl in Weizhou Island, Guangxi.

One week, two girls from different regions lost contact with Weizhou Island.

They are a 22-year-old teacher in an educational institution who just celebrated his birthday three days before he disappeared. A person of 19, who failed in the college entrance examination this year, is going to repeat his studies and apply for a better university.

The two lost contact from the end of August to yesterday, and there was no news for more than half a month. Both families are sure that their children will not commit suicide.

Just as netizens prayed for the two girls, at noon today, the bad news came.

According to the police report issued by the WeChat account of Beihai Public Security Bureau, a body was found at the seaside of Beihai. After verification, the identity of the body was Dragon Mole, a 22-year-old female teacher.

After investigation, it was not found that the dragon mole was involved in pyramid schemes and other illegal and criminal acts:

As soon as the news came out, it went on a hot search in Weibo. Although everyone is psychologically prepared in advance, when they really see the news, they are still somewhat unacceptable.

After all, it's a pity that a beautiful 22-year-old girl left quietly at this age after only a quarter of her life journey. The infinity of the rest of her life may disappear with her death. In any case, you can't help sighing.

Long nevus

However, all this, in fact, has long been a clue. Judging from the chat between her mother and netizens, the police suspected that she had suicidal thoughts before she died:

Before leaving, Mole told his friends to take good care of his mother and cat, and said in a playful tone, "I want to jump into the sea".

On the night of her disappearance, she was seen crying by the roadside. The innkeeper of Weizhou Island even saw her smoking silently on the roadside with two cigarettes in her hand. For this, the family members with moles showed great surprise. "She never smokes at home, and we didn't know she would smoke."

The uncle with a mole revealed his niece: "She belongs to work and works as a teacher in an educational institution. A little depressed, some pressure at work. "

On the last call before losing contact, Nagano called a netizen and talked for 7 minutes. Since then, there has been no news. After checking with the police, no doubt was found.

According to netizens, when Chang nao talked with him, "there was no abnormality in mood."

This was confirmed by a mother with a mole. In her opinion, the possibility of her daughter committing suicide is very small:

"After going to Weizhou Island, she called me and told me that she wanted to go out for a walk. I wanted to travel with her, but later she told me that she had contacted her friends there. But when we checked her phone records, we found that she did not contact local friends. "

"She has always been cheerful and committed suicide. I don't think she should, without warning. There may still be pressure at work, but she didn't show it in front of me. "

Although, the family members of the long mole have always insisted that their daughter is outgoing and lively, and it is impossible to commit suicide. But judging from her behavior a few days before her death, the girl was not as optimistic as her family said.

For example, she never showed unhappiness in front of her mother, but ran to Weizhou Island alone and cried on the side of the road.

For example, she never smokes in front of her family, but silently smokes in a strange city.

For example, she is lively and cheerful in front of her friends, but her uncle says she is depressed.

We don't know why this seemingly sunny and confident girl chose to cry when she was alone; All we know is that the girl didn't tell her family about her inner pain. She chose to find a place to release her pain, but it seems that she failed.

What we see is that the girl tried to save herself, but she didn't save herself after all.

The last scene we know is that when the girl walked out of the inn, she only took her mobile phone and umbrella, but didn't take out her ID card and clothes.

A netizen left this comment:

"People die in different places every day. I just think it's a bit bleak for a girl to dress neatly and commit suicide alone at night. "

I can't imagine, if this is her true state of mind at that time,

How desperate she must have been before she decided to go this way.

At the same time, He Hongyu, a 0/9-year-old girl from Pingxiang, Jiangxi, also lost contact in Weizhou Island.

Unlike the 22-year-old mole, He Hongyu left a suicide note in the hotel and told his family directly that there was no need to waste time looking for her.

He Hongyu, a girl from 19 senior three who lost contact in Weizhou Island.

She wrote in her suicide note:

"In fact, I have been longing for death since I was ten years old. I always wonder why I exist and why I was born. Nothing is your fault. I always feel out of place in this world. This is the best place I have chosen. I hope you can have a good life.

Well, maybe I have something else to write. I don't remember because I was in a hurry. Finally, I'm sorry, mom. It will make you sad to have a monster like me, but I'm really not fit to live in this world. Don't waste resources looking for me. "

He Hongyu's suicide note

Between the lines of this suicide note, there are depressed emotions. Although He Hongyu has been missing for 24 days, her family still doesn't believe that she will commit suicide.

Because in their eyes, He Hongyu is also an optimistic and lively girl like a mole:

"Our family, her cousin and some of her best classmates don't believe that she will commit suicide. She taught herself Japanese and learned to dance before. She is very embarrassed about life and wants to say that when she goes to college, she will practice dancing and improve her temperament. "

Today, He Hongyu's whereabouts are still unknown. As for the truth of the matter, the police are fully investigating, so don't jump to conclusions easily.

I really hope that girl is just joking. She is still alive and well in one place.

However, despite this, just looking at these two cases, I found a very worrying truth:

To outsiders, both girls are normal girls. They are as lively, cheerful and confident as sunshine, but secretly, no one knows that they will live in such pain and despair.

Especially the girl with a mole, if it wasn't revealed by my uncle, everyone wouldn't know that this girl has depression, probably smiling depression.

What is smile depression?

This kind of depression is an atypical form of depression. Because of the need of work, face and etiquette, people with smiling depression smile most of the time, and even have a good sense of humor. But behind the mask of smile and optimism, it is full of worthlessness, incompleteness and despair.

These people are the best actors. They may seem to have good social skills, or even "pistachios" in the group.

However, only they know that their "smile" is not a true feeling from the heart, but a burden, which belongs to a kind of "forced smile" and becomes emotional depression over time.

Compared with general depression, smiling depression can be said to be fatal, because on the surface, outsiders can't see their true hearts at all, because their smiles are always full of vitality and even give people a special attraction.

They are afraid that their negative emotions will bring trouble to others and that their good image will collapse in front of others. Because in their eyes, depression is a very shameful thing.

Therefore, they choose to try to maintain superficial optimism and suppress their inner pain.

It is precisely because they can't really digest their negative emotions, but choose to accumulate them in their hearts, so they usually erupt without warning.

Two years ago, Linkin Park's lead singer Chester Benington was found hanging himself at his home in California. He is only 4 1 year old.

After his death, his wife posted a photo on social networking sites, in which he wore sunglasses and looked very happy.

But no one expected that he ended his life at home only four days after taking this photo.

The news of Chester Benington's suicide broke down his fans. The man who encouraged them to work hard with countless classic rock songs finally left this world in the most extreme way.

Many people can't understand his suicide, but no one knows that Chester Benington has been suffering from depression for many years. In countless late nights, Chaste, who suffered from insomnia, said to his wife, "I feel a little tired of living, but I still want to try my best to live."

Unfortunately, Chaste, who wanted to bring positive energy to fans, suddenly felt unable to keep up at the last minute.

Think of a sad sentence:

"People who really want to leave, as long as they pick a sunny afternoon, pack up their coats that they wear most often, and never come back when they go out."

This seemingly understatement may be the most polite way to say goodbye to people with depression.

Because they don't want to drag anyone down.

Depression has become a disease that cannot be ignored at will, but many people often choose to escape.

According to the statistics of the World Health Organization, there are 350 million depression patients in the world, and 90 million depression patients in China.

In this group of people, every 40 years old, one person chooses to commit suicide.

In order to verify the authenticity of this data, Jia Jun made a small survey in the last article. We asked a question in the voting column: Have you ever thought about suicide?

We didn't expect the final result to surprise everyone so much.

Our anonymous poll shows that 20% of people said that they "had this idea and often had this idea";

43% said that "there was once, but now there is no more";

Only 38% of people said that "my friends around me are optimistic and I live happily":

From this small survey of more than 8,000 people, we are surprised to find that as many as 63% people have suicidal thoughts. Another 20% people often have this idea.

I dare say that among these 20% people, there must be many potential depression patients. They may not find their own symptoms yet, and spend every day in contradictions; Or have this awareness, but dare not go to the hospital for examination.

Because in many people's minds, depression is still a "shame" disease. They would rather escape the fact that they are sick than admit that they really have depression. They would even rather die than be treated for this disease.

This is why many people will suddenly commit suicide at some point. When their relatives deal with the aftermath, they know that he/she may suffer from depression.

But more people don't understand why they want to commit suicide when they are alive.

There are even many people who will use an ironic tone to persuade their depressed friends:

"You are just melodramatic. I just want to open a little. "

"Look at you, are you full? What are you thinking all day? "

"You said you guys, have nothing to worry about. We, the older generation, managed to survive. "

As everyone knows, it may be one or two irrelevant words that crushed the last straw of depressed patients.

Because people who say these words don't know that depression is a chemical disorder of the brain, and it can't be cured by adjusting the mentality.

They take it for granted that depression is just moaning. As long as you want to drive a little, no problem. Some people even say malicious words directly, "if you don't want to live, you will die."

On Douban, a netizen said something he met:

One day, he was in a QQ game group, and a player suddenly said, "What if I don't want to live?"

Everyone else in the QQ group is shouting "Go to hell", and the player silently answers "OK".

However, this netizen noticed something wrong with the player. Later, he tried every means to add this player's QQ, only to know that this player has severe depression. He has tried to cut his wrist many times before, and this time he is going to burn charcoal to commit suicide.

Those who think it's okay to joke are crying for him to die.

Finally, the netizen said a paragraph and got many people's top posts:

"In fact, this player didn't make up his mind when he said he didn't want to live, but after seeing others say so, he really took action. I just happened to receive his distress signal.

I want to say that although this is an era of freedom of speech, before you say your next sentence, can you think about whether this sentence will hurt others, or whether you can try to give some comfort when others say that he is going to die, because maybe you can really save a life. "

I'm impressed.

Finally, I want to say:

It is not too difficult for people who want to help people with depression.

Because what they lack most is companionship and listening. As long as you stand by them firmly and tell them that you will always be with them and listen patiently to their true thoughts, they will have the courage to live again.

Even a kind word and a gentle understanding can arouse their suicidal thoughts.

For people with depression, I want to tell you-it's really not shameful.

Because depression, like a cold, is just a common mental illness. As long as it is actively treated and controlled, it will not have much impact on work and life.

Similarly, I want to tell you that it is not a terrible or even shameful thing to crash occasionally.

I know very well that we are in this era and have to face too many problems.

We have to face high housing prices, tons of work pressure, family pressure, and the popularity of funeral culture often makes us breathless.

I also know that many people want to cry, but they can only endure it; Many people want to escape from the present, but reality tells us that you can't escape.

Gradually, we can only learn to submit to humiliation and work hard. Emotional catharsis has also become a luxury, because there are always people preaching in our ears: how can adults control their lives when they can't even control their emotions?

But what I want to say is, if adults can't even release their emotions, how can they face a more difficult life in the future?

Therefore, learning to release emotions is a compulsory course for every adult.

Only by learning to be kind to your emotions, releasing and accepting them, can you temper a heart harder than diamonds in your fucking life.

Finally, tell everyone:

Although life is hard, I hope you can learn to be afraid of death.

Because your life is really precious!

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