Can we not change the words at the wedding?

First of all, you have to figure out one thing, whether to choose superficial perfunctory or inner acceptance.

Changing one's mouth is indeed a false gift, but it has a history of thousands of years and has developed to the present, just like the New Year. Obviously, it feels trite, but people still celebrate the New Year, because it is a habit of China people. The same is true for changing your mouth. On the wedding day, basically all your relatives and friends were present. If you really don't want to change your mind, that's fine. It's just that relatives and friends will talk privately, and your husband and his parents will lose face.

Changing one's mouth is the simplest and most basic etiquette. Call your parents. If the subject doesn't want to call, it means that you don't accept your husband's family. Since we don't accept them, we can imagine our married life, and the friction will inevitably continue. Don't think that married life will gradually get familiar with each other and adapt to each other. It's basically difficult, because you have rejected your parents-in-law from the moment you entered the door.

Changing tea means that both husband and wife come to their parents' table and offer tea (or wine) to their parents to thank them for their parenting. In traditional Chinese weddings, it is an essential process to worship Gao Tang instead of tea.

In traditional Chinese weddings, it is an essential process to worship Gao Tang instead of tea. Although there are not so many rules in today's wedding, newlyweds always change their mouths to offer tea to their parents. The order of tea worship is to respect parents first, then grandparents.

The teacup is a traditional bowl in China. At the wedding, couples offer tea to their elders (parents) with a pair of cups.

When offering tea, in addition to tea, two red fruits are added to each tea bowl, which means "feel at ease". It is best to use "Jingting Green Snow" produced in Xuancheng, Anhui Province, which means "loyalty". Generally, two pairs of tea cups should be prepared, and it is best to choose a festive pattern. You can ask your parents for advice when choosing. After all, they are the protagonists in this link.