How to treat the huge cash bride price at the engagement ceremony of a villager's daughter in Poyang, Jiangxi Province?

It is reported on TV that the daughter of a villager in Poyang, Jiangxi Province presented a huge cash bride price at the engagement ceremony. It is undeniable that there has been a custom of receiving bride price for children's marriage since ancient times. The more bride price, the richer the man's family. But I think the bride price has changed now.

First, in the old society, women went out to work, and everyone in the family wanted their daughter to marry a good family and have a good life. If the married daughter throws water, the married woman will not contribute to the family and go back to her family to eat and live. It is indeed a loss for parents to raise a daughter to have children and help others with housework. Only in this way can the bride price be said, that is, the man compensates the kindness of the woman's parents, and the bride price is the income paid by the woman's parents. In fact, this custom is no longer applicable in modern society.

Second, local customs are different now, and some places attach great importance to bride price and gift money. It is believed that a generous gift represents a person's cherish for his daughter and the strength of his family. As a result, people regard marriage as a business, rather than the emotional basis of both men and women. The woman's parents often ignore the feelings of the two newlyweds and blindly ask the man to take out the bride price that he can't afford to marry my daughter. I've heard a lot about this, and it's common to hit a mandarin duck.

Thirdly, in modern society, I think marriage based on feelings is very precious, so don't put the bride price in the horizontal bar. If the man has the strength, that's good. He won his bride in a glamorous way, and the family also showed the outside world that their daughter married a reliable good family, and everyone was happy. If the man is not particularly strong, I think we should do what we can, and don't ruin a couple by following the old rules.

Fourth, we are married women now, and it is no longer the time to marry Han and dress and eat in ancient times. Women are economically independent, their parents have pensions, and they don't need children to support them. Daughters can go home to visit and take care of their parents at any time. The bride price has lost its original meaning and has become synonymous with showing off. No parent is counting on her daughter's bride price to live.

I think the huge bride price on this news is a show off, not to mention whether the man has the real strength to prepare gifts for the woman's parents. As far as I know, many of them are borrowed to save face, and the money will still be paid back after the wedding. This behavior is not desirable. It is the happiest thing for a couple to be congenial and get the blessing of their parents. At a higher level, we cannot encourage this trend. When we get married, everyone keeps up with the joneses, especially the woman who doesn't give a high bride price feels that her daughter has been wronged. This wind of comparison blows up, which invisibly increases the economic burden of the man's marriage. The number of births in China has been greatly reduced. It would be embarrassing if a couple can't get married because of the gift money.

Wedding gifts should be done according to one's ability, and respect and affection for his wife cannot be completely quantified into money.