“At the wedding, the best man forcibly kissed the bridesmaid and was beaten.” The bride was furious. What do you think of this?

"I will never be a bridesmaid again, because it is really terrible." A few days ago, netizen Xiaohan said this to me in fear.

Xiaohan said that being a bridesmaid is not only thankless, but also involves various dangers, because she experienced all this as her best friend and bridesmaid last month. After being a bridesmaid, Not only was she extremely angry, but she also completely broke up with her best friend.

Xiaohan said that when she heard that her best friend wanted her to be the bridesmaid, she was very happy and thought that she could be a bit happy, but she didn't know that everything was different from what she imagined.

At the wedding scene, the master of ceremonies said that the best man and bridesmaid wanted to play a game to liven up the atmosphere. At that time, Xiaohan saw that the best man opposite him looked honest, so he did not refuse. But who knew that the best man opposite him took advantage of the opportunity? He forcibly kissed her while playing a game, which made her very angry, so she slapped the best man on the spot, and then yelled at the best man for being disrespectful, because at that time, everyone's eyes were on the stage, so she This slap stunned everyone present, and everyone stared at her.

Xiaohan said that she felt particularly wronged at that time and wanted to ask her best friend for help and ask her to apologize. But when she saw her, her best friend not only did not comfort her or speak for her, but instead Angrily said to her: "Don't ruin my wedding, please be patient for now, we will talk about this later."

Hearing what his best friend said, Xiaohan got angry on the spot, took something next to him, hit the best man on the head, and ran away crying.

Because of this incident, her best friend called her that day and scolded her, saying that she had ruined her perfect marriage and that she would hate Xiaohan for the rest of her life. Many people even said that Xiaohan was too impulsive. No matter how big something happens, you can't make a fuss at someone else's wedding, because it's a major event in someone else's life.

After hearing these words, Xiaohan felt particularly aggrieved, so she asked me: Did she really do something wrong?

The editor has something to say:

In my opinion, I don’t think there is anything wrong with what Xiaohan did. Everything she did was just to protect herself. Anyone is qualified to make irresponsible remarks.

As for Xiaohan ruining her best friend’s wedding, I don’t think it is Xiaohan’s fault at all, because the cause of all this lies in the unruly best man and Xiaohan’s best friend. She is selfish, so Xiaohan cannot be blamed for all of this. Xiaohan's best friend deserves all of this.

In addition, for Xiaohan, it is a good thing that her best friend breaks off the relationship with her, because a selfish woman like her best friend is not worth getting to know at all, and is not considered a good friend at all. Good people.

Those who say that Xiaohan shouldn’t make a scene at other people’s weddings actually just stand and talk without pain, because it didn’t happen to them, so they can say those sarcastic words. If this happened to their daughter, I don't think they would say these words.

I think Xiaohan’s approach is correct. As a woman, you should protect yourself in this way. Otherwise, you will only be hurt more severely, because good people are bullied, and Ma Shan Being ridden.

There are actually many things like wedding troubles. Not only the bridesmaids are vulnerable, but even the bride cannot escape from them. I still remember the previous short video of "Drunken father-in-law forcibly kissing his daughter-in-law at a wedding", with the accompanying text saying: "At a wedding at an international hotel in Yancheng, Jiangsu, the groom's father drank too much and forcibly kissed the bride"!

When I first saw this video, I was very surprised and thought it must be impossible because it was so outrageous.

But who knew that not long after, the groom said: "It was just a kiss on the face, there was no fighting. This is local custom."

What I mean is that this kind of thing is actually very common. Our family members think it’s nothing, but you netizens are the ones who made a fuss. In the end, we even sent a lawyer’s letter to the netizens. Then this matter was settled.

In my opinion, the main reason why such vicious marriage troubles are becoming more and more common is that women have a poor sense of self-protection and always make big things into trivial matters. mentality, which encouraged the arrogance of those people.

In recent years, there have been more and more cases of malicious "marriage troubles" and disrespect for women among the people. As for why these things happen, it is because many women lack the safety awareness to protect themselves and have no bottom line tolerance in the face of harm, which makes the perpetrators intensify their efforts and cause more and more victims.

There are even many men who label these harassments as "hilarious". In their words: "If women don't cooperate with them, if they resist and protect themselves, then they can't have fun." Get up, we can’t afford to make a fuss.”

To be honest, whenever I hear these words, I get extremely angry. I even want to pull these people out, beat them up, and teach them how to behave with integrity.

We understand that weddings need to be lively, but lively does not mean being vulgar. The wedding was originally a lively event, but it was precisely because of these malicious incidents that everyone could not be happy.

In the past, getting married was a great event. Active participation could bring some joy, and everyone was willing to participate. But now, due to the increasing number of malicious incidents such as "marriage troubles", more and more women are afraid of being invited to be bridesmaids.

Many women around me have asked me: "Can women still be bridesmaids?"

To this question, my answer is yes, because after all, there are only a few cases of malicious marriage troubles, and most weddings are normal, so it is okay to be a bridesmaid.

But before becoming a bridesmaid, I hope all women should understand these three things.

1. Are there any malicious customs in the bride and groom’s hometown? If so, refuse them directly. Don’t think that this will damage your relationship, because this choice will not only ensure that you Emotions can also protect your own safety.

2. Get to know the friends around the groom. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together, and if the groom’s friends are not serious people, they must directly refuse to be bridesmaids.

3. Before becoming a bridesmaid, you must be aware of safety, have someone who can guarantee your own safety, and be honest with them about the standards and principles you can accept. If they cannot do it, then Simply refusing to be a bridesmaid is the most correct decision.

In my opinion, for women who are good friends and bridesmaids, the most important thing is to protect themselves from harm at the wedding scene, so be brave when facing the coming harm. Protect yourself well. You must know that blindly tolerating will only make the other party worse.