Reveal the 10 big mistake of men picking up girls.

Reveal the secret: 10 man's big mistake in picking up girls

Reading Tip: If you are chatting with a woman, your friend will come to you. Because you cherish talking to this beautiful woman too much, either ignore it or send your buddy away. This is very wrong. You may only know this little girl for a few minutes, or even a few days. You and your buddy may have been friends for 3 years or 10 years. Why do you pay more attention to this little girl?

Reveal the secret: 10 man's big mistake in picking up girls

1. It is not enough to separate your feet when standing, and it is best to separate them by about half a meter.

Standing with your feet together shows that you are afraid of invading other people's space.

2. Use too many gestures when speaking.

Gestures, strokes, etc. It seems to be sign language, which means you are afraid that you can't keep others' attention just by talking. Be sure to wave. Still a foreigner who has nothing to learn in his mind. I think it's cool to learn from foreigners by gestures.

Of course, if gestures are used well and properly, it does have its advantages. However, I see that most people use it indiscriminately and use it too much. Good gestures must be uncommon throughout the conversation. There must be very few times. Only in a critical moment, in order to emphasize something you said, do you use it? And the range is relatively small, not exaggerated. The amplitude is small, but it must be strong and firm. Sometimes you can be as gentle as a gentleman, but you should also be soft and firm.

3. lean toward the woman, or the woodpecker leans forward.

This kind of leaning forward means that when talking to a woman, your upper body rushes forward slightly, leaning forward in the direction of the woman, perhaps to get close to her, or to hear what she says clearly, and so on. The most common reason is that a man leans over a woman without listening to the other person clearly, or the other person's voice is too low, which is a sign of being together. The woodpecker leans forward is to lean forward all the time, then straighten up and then lean forward again. Keep repeating.

The most common reason for this behavior is that every time a woman speaks, you lean forward to hear more clearly or show interest in her words, and then straighten up after speaking. In other words, every time I speak alone, I get together and quit after I finish. What's more, some buddies listened to me and told them not to lean forward. When I was with a woman at home, I suddenly remembered, straightened up at once, and then gradually forgot myself, and leaned forward automatically. This problem of leaning forward is natural, and most people have it. This is a manifestation of putting the other person's social value higher than his own, in order to please others.

This behavior must change. People have an automatic and immediate response in all kinds of behaviors. When someone comes to you, everyone's first natural reaction is to step back or lean back. So, if you want to approach you in the opposite direction, you can lean back slightly and remember that these things should be natural and slight.

4. Catch up with women and catch up with them.

If you talk to a woman and she keeps walking while answering, or she ignores you and keeps walking, then don't catch up with her. If a woman is far away from you, you should also move your body, even more, instead of chasing. Or just stand still. If you want to talk to her again, speak louder and don't follow her. Don't chase her, the more you chase her, the more she will run.

5. tolerate women doing things you don't like and can't tolerate, and you pretend it doesn't matter.

And if an ugly woman or a man does the same thing, you won't appear indifferent. If so, you are giving this beautiful woman special treatment. Why? Oh, because you want to hit on her. You don't think she can see it? Women are naturally more sensitive than men in detecting such things 10 times. These behaviors may be small. For example, when you are talking to a woman, it is impolite for her to walk away suddenly. If she comes back, you will pretend that nothing happened, and this woman will have much lower respect for you.

There are several ways to do this. One is to respond and give her corresponding punishment. A man's punishment for a woman is not to give her your attention and your time. In addition, for example, you may be familiar with or in love, and you don't like some behaviors that women do. You can directly point out to her that one of her behaviors is bad and impolite. For example, you can say to the woman who walked away above, "You know it was impolite for you to walk away like this just now." Look her in the eye. Be serious.

At this time, sexual tension between you will increase. After 4 seconds, you will suddenly smile, touch her with your hand, or hug her, say "don't cry, just correct it", and then laugh again. This not only expresses your dissatisfaction, but also shows your man's ability to deal with social problems, and so on. Her affection for you will increase a lot.

6. Turn your head to the person who told you to be too fast.

Being too eager to talk to others shows that you want attention too much. The message behind it is that there may be nothing to say to you at ordinary times. If your face is facing east and a woman calls you from the south, turn your face to her slowly. Another trick is that when you turn your face from east to south, stop in the southeast direction (that is, at a 45-degree angle) and then continue to turn to the person you are talking to. This is what many very attractive men have been doing. This is a good example of an American film "LawsofAttraction", in which the hero turns his head in the last scene.

7. Pay more attention to or treat women better than your buddies.

If you are chatting with a woman, your friends will come to you. Because you cherish talking to this beautiful woman too much, either ignore it or send your buddy away. This is very wrong. You may only know this little girl for a few minutes, or even a few days. You and your buddy may have been friends for 3 years or 10 years. Why do you pay more attention to this little girl? By the way, you care too much about her. Afraid of wasting every second with her. Why not? Don't say that.

8. Reckless and unconfident.

You think in your heart that she can't be interested in you, so you deliberately do something strange and self-defeating to invite others to refuse your things and words. So even if women refuse you, you won't hurt yourself, because you can say to yourself, it's not that I can't, it's that I deliberately use these self-defeating words to make them refuse me.

A friend shouted "Beauty, Beauty" or "Come on, Beauty, Smile" at the well-dressed beauty in the street. This is actually because they think it is impossible to get this fashionable woman. The result of these behaviors is often to attract the attention of beautiful women and speed up their escape. It seems that they are also chatting up, as if others dare not do so, but they dare, which is actually the opposite of inferiority. Of course, it's not their fault. This is just normal human behavior. If you can't get it yourself, people will convince themselves that they don't want it, or do something to convince themselves that they really don't want it. Not eating grapes is the principle of acid.

9. Guilt and psychological insecurity are overcompensated. Fear of not being accepted.

There is a street sweeper. The first thing he said when he met someone was how he didn't care about money and material things. Or meet someone with baldness, especially care about others saying baldness, or hair. Or people who have no money but usually like to show off, and so on.

They are all afraid that others will look down on them. In fact, they can't accept some of their own characteristics or facts, so suppose that if they do nothing, others will not accept their problems. In fact, if I ask him what you do, the cleaner says "I'm a cleaner", that's all, not the following views on money and material things. We usually don't immediately think about how this person is so worthless. When he says this, all of us will know that he feels worthless. Just reminded us. Similarly, another example is that someone asked him what he does, and he said, "My name is Huang Cannon. I am a cleaner. I actually like my job very much. "

Talking about these problems too early and telling others in a hurry without asking you is also an excessive compensation for your insecurity. What we have to do is completely accept ourselves, no matter what shortcomings we have, completely accept ourselves and like ourselves. If you are bald, don't say, do you like bald men? As a chat-up, this is not a sign of confidence, but a sign of anxiety. If you think you are ugly or too short, it's not at all.

If you don't do well, you will fail. Such as speeches, exams, picking up girls, etc. Don't say, "I'm so tired that I didn't play well." Something like that Make excuses for yourself. Even if you are really tired and don't play well, don't say so. This is to explain to others why you didn't play well. You explain because you care about others and think you are incompetent and incompetent. So to explain, it is generally good, because of this special reason. That is, to seek the approval of others. But the more you explain, the less respect others have for you. A real leader takes all the responsibilities, even some responsibilities that don't belong to him. Leadership quality is an important point to attract women.

For example, if you wear poor clothes all day, don't say, "I have good clothes at home, all of which are famous brands." Don't mention anything about it.

10. Go back to the previous stage in the process of picking up girls. Many people attracted by our study had this problem at first.

That is to say, we have learned many so-called skills, jokes, tricks and so on to show high social value and make women attractive to you. I also learned a lot of other attractive materials, such as suppression and deliberate misunderstanding. If you and she have passed this stage and are in the stage of mutual understanding, familiarity and trust-building, many of our classmates have a tendency to return to these attractive jokes and suppress her. This will destroy your trust and you will go back to the original steps.

The purpose of attracting materials is to attract women to get to know you and build trust. After you get to this point, you don't need to go back to the previous step. One of the reasons why many people can't help but go back to the previous steps of attracting materials is that they like to constantly create women's attraction to them because they like it.

They may have never been attracted by beautiful women before, but now they have finally learned a few skills to attract women, so they are very happy and have always had the urge to use them. Another reason is that they are not very good at getting to know each other and building trust with women, and they don't know how to do it. As a result, they keep returning to the attractive materials they are familiar with. These are all normal PUA development processes, which have been experienced by people who study this. But the difference is how long it takes you to overcome this problem. Everyone is different about this.