Is it normal to be unhappy before marriage?

Getting married is a gratifying thing, but getting married is a troublesome and trivial thing. Therefore, many brides-to-be and grooms-to-be will be unhappy ~ the reasons for unhappiness come from all aspects. We must find the root cause, communicate more and welcome a new life happily! Marriage is not just about two new people, but the integration of two families. However, if there are more people, you think that there are more things, and there will always be something. Some people are not satisfied, find something to do. The two newcomers should communicate with their families calmly and patiently. Many details before marriage, such as booking a hotel, booking a wedding company, and taking wedding photos, as a newcomer, should have a certain opinion in their hearts. It is necessary to listen to opinions, but don't listen to too many opinions, which will lead to your confusion! Many newcomers often suffer from premarital phobia before getting married, and they have no feelings before, but when they think of spending the rest of their lives with this person, it is inevitable that there will be a few more question marks: Is he trustworthy? Will she get along well with my mother? Two people should open their hearts to communicate, and the newcomers themselves should think rationally and make the right choice. Is it normal to be unhappy before marriage? Don't get married easily if you don't consider this before marriage. Many people think that marriage only needs mutual love, and nothing else is important. After this kind of marriage, these indifferent others are the biggest factor of marriage failure. When most people register with the Civil Affairs Bureau, they have no concept of marriage. They think they just got a certificate. If you are unhappy, change your license. The understanding of marriage is very low. Many men and women have great hopes for their married life. How romantic, how everlasting? Men and women with too many ideals often live worse than men and women without ideals. Now is not the time to live in poverty and support yourself in poverty. Now even if you think about it yourself, you don't have this condition. Therefore, many men and women with poor conditions find that the pressure of marriage is too great after marriage. When it comes to economic issues, men will avoid talking about it, or talk far away just because they don't want to talk to you. He only cares about your current feelings, whether you are happy or not. Women must handle and coordinate the relationship between work and family before getting married, for fear that they will be at the end of their tether in the future. In China's traditional concept, the idea that men are the masters and women are the masters has always existed. Therefore, women must consult with men before marriage, and know how to safeguard their legitimate rights to work normally after marriage, because marriage is really a very serious matter. If two people's feelings are not to the point of marriage, they will not be happy if they are reluctant to be together. A woman should never give up her job or career and lose herself completely because of marriage. A woman must deal with her mother-in-law before getting married. Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for two families. A woman should never count on her mother-in-law. They really think of themselves as their own daughters. If they find that they are not suitable for each other in the process of getting along and can't produce true love, it's not too late to break up now, at least there is no burden of marriage, so be careful when getting married. We really want to be with someone, we can get along slowly, and then cultivate our feelings before getting married, which is better. Love is just icing on the cake, not something you have to do. There is no shame in being single, and there is no glory in being in love. Do you want to start a relationship and listen to your heart? When you get married, you need to find someone who loves each other, lives together and can be happy. Can't cope, can't fantasize too much, unrealistic. Is it normal to be unhappy before marriage? 1. Why do you feel uneasy before marriage? 1. Uncertainty factors are uncertain about feelings: marriage means a lifetime, and when you get married, you will think more about whether the other half is your lifelong partner. Uncertainty about future life: uncertainty and fear about future life will be manifested as irritability, depression and tension in life. Will haggle over trifles in life. It is well known that people in their twenties and thirties can't get married without any savings. But now many people in their twenties and thirties have poor family finances, and they still stay at the level of earning some living expenses by working, so they can't spend money on marriage at all. With the growth of age, when their economic time is not long, they gradually form anxiety and panic before marriage. 3. Premarital preparation is cumbersome. The preparation before marriage is too complicated and busy. The wedding day is approaching, and there are still many things unfinished. The couple feel tired and anxious. 4. Worried about married life, I have no confidence in married life, such as worrying about my husband changing his mind and not getting along well with my mother-in-law; Don't want to do housework; Worried that marriage is the grave of love; Worried about not being free after marriage and so on. Second, the mood before marriage is always unstable. Why are you anxious about getting married? This scores people. People have different ideas about life and value, so everyone will have their own ideas. Some people want to get married and start a family as soon as possible, but those who want to get married and start a family as soon as possible are often anxious. Before deciding to get married, it is best to objectively analyze the situation of both parties, such as their personality, work and family status. Know each other's strengths and weaknesses, and know what you want, so as not to regret finding many "new features" in each other after marriage. Just relax。 Although marriage is sacred, don't put too much pressure on yourself because of marriage. In addition to seeking the help of a psychologist, you can also decompress yourself by taking a bath, exercising, listening to relaxing music and practicing yoga. Why are you upset before marriage? Many new couples should be very happy before marriage, but they will feel anxious when they think of many problems that may occur in their married life. It is normal that they are always unstable before marriage. Everyone should adjust their emotions in time. Is it normal to be unhappy before marriage? 4. What was your mood before marriage? 1. Most newcomers feel nervous and anxious when they are happy. Facing the approaching wedding day, I always worry that the other party will not love me as much as it does now, and I am afraid that my married life will be unhappy. 2. Newcomers' anxiety before marriage is easy to lose their temper, especially in front of acquaintances. Sometimes they know they can't lose their temper, but when they hear about getting married, they get anxious and can't control their anger. 3. Of course, most newcomers will be anxious by complicated weddings occasionally. This is a normal phenomenon. As long as you adjust your mood, it won't have much impact. Therefore, it is very important to adjust your emotions before marriage. Second, how to adjust feelings before marriage 1. When people feel anxious and irritable, don't think about anything. You can run or play ball outdoors. Moderate exercise can not only exercise, but also relax the body and mind, relieve anxiety and make yourself more energetic to do the next thing. People tend to devote themselves to what they are interested in, so when you feel anxious, you might as well put down your work and do what you are most interested in. When you finish what you are interested in, you will find that the anxiety has been eliminated. The best way to relieve stress is to vent your emotions, tell your relatives or good friends about your anxiety and tension, adjust your psychological balance, or cry alone in a suitable place to vent all your negative emotions. If you feel upset when dealing with the wedding, you can divert your attention and look at the scenery outside the window, or you can walk around before dealing with it to relieve the pressure. Bian Xiao concluded: The above is what the mood before marriage is like and how to adjust the mood before marriage. I hope it helps to aim at couples. Before getting married, the couple must ensure that they have enough rest time and keep a happy mood before getting married, which is conducive to the smooth progress of the wedding.