Is there a compulsory abstinence place in Ziyang?

Abstinence from alcohol, like a person's life, requires a process of slow growth. External experience is just a tool, and it can't replace our internal cognition and spiritual thoughts. It can only play an auxiliary role, but it can't replace us as the master. The purer the mind, the stronger the power, and selflessness can enhance our spiritual thinking. The key is to find your own sober path, learn more, see more, think more, feel more, reflect more, be grateful more and act more. Make progress every day, stay away from failure and be close to success. Only in this way can we improve our spiritual thinking. If our spiritual thinking is improved, we will naturally give up drinking, improve and completely change our quality of life. Also realize that it is probably more difficult to get rich by salary than to ascend to heaven, and relying on think and grow rich can shorten the process of your struggle on the road to getting rich.

A sober alcoholic should not dwell on the past if you look back on your life. Don't focus on the difficulties of the past, let go. Whether it is success or failure, whether it is proud failure, it is already the memory of yesterday. Past experiences and lessons and brilliant achievements can be kept in mind. If you are still immersed in the mistakes of the past and haven't stepped out of yourself, you should find a way to solve the dilemma of changing the present. Only in this way can you stay awake and improve your spiritual thinking.

accumulate over a long period of time

First of all, aim at not drinking for one day and accumulate it day by day.

Since I know very well that I can never drink in my life, why should I deceive myself by saying that I only need to stay away from the glass for one day? This is not self-deception, because the goal of not drinking for one day may be the only feasible way for me to stay awake for a long time.

If I decide not to drink in my life, I will mislead myself. Since I know nothing about the future, how can I be sure that I will never drink again?

With the basic goal of not drinking for a day, I believe I can not touch the cup for a day, so I started my journey of abstinence with confidence. I will feel successful at the end of a sober day. This feeling is really good. This makes me want to stay awake for more days (more sense of success).

Use the "24-hour" plan

In our drinking days, we often swear when we are very uncomfortable, "Never again!"

Don't drink. "We vowed not to drink for a year, or told others not to drink for three weeks or three months.

Touch that thing. Of course, we have really tried many times.

When we gritted our teeth and announced our decision, we were serious. From the heart

Say, we really don't want to get drunk again. We have made up our minds. We vowed to give up drinking completely and put

No more alcohol.

However, apart from wishes, the results are always consistent without doubt. Finally, vows and pain

Memories will be forgotten. We started drinking again, and we were troubled by more troubles.

Our forever will never last.

Some people have reservations when they take this oath: we tell ourselves that this oath is just.

It's liquor, not beer. We need to understand this-beer and Portugal.

Wine can also make us drunk, but we only need to drink more to achieve the same effect as spirits. I

Children who drink beer and wine are hurt as much as we used to drink spirits.

Yes, some of us did keep our promises and quit for a long time until the time was up.

..... We drank again, and soon fell into the original troubles, and at the same time had new guilt and regret.

Hate

Because of this experience of repeated struggle, in AA, we try not to say "never give up".

Wine "and" swear to give up drinking ". They remind us of past failures.

We realize that alcohol dependence is a permanent and irreversible disease, and our experience

We were told not to swear for a long time to stay awake. We find it more realistic.

Say more effectively, "I just don't drink today."

Maybe we drank yesterday, but we can't drink today. We may drink tomorrow, who knows?

Were we still alive then? But we decided not to drink for 24 hours. Whatever happens.

Temptation and anger, we made up our minds to try to avoid drinking the first glass of wine today.

Our friends and family are understandably tired of our vows-"This time.

I said I would come, but I could only see us limping home. So we don't care about them.

Swear to each other, this oath is meaningless. We only promise ourselves, after all,

Our health and life are in danger, and we (not our family or friends) need to take necessary measures.

Take measures to keep yourself in good condition.

If the desire to drink is too strong, many of us will divide 24 hours into smaller hours.

Yuan. We decided not to drink for at least an hour-we can tolerate this temporary pause.

I don't feel well, so wait another hour! Another hour! Go ahead. Many of us are from.

This is how the rehabilitation phase begins. In fact, everyone who recovers from alcoholism comes from

An hour of sobriety began.

This is a simple method, without serving the next glass of wine.

(how about it? Still drinking soda? Are you sure you haven't reached the end of what we mentioned on the first page?

That glass of wine? If you do, this is the beginning of your recovery. )

Maybe you'll have a glass of wine, but now we won't touch it, at least not today, or not now.

Yes What do you say, and then look at the rest of this chapter? )

The "24-hour" plan is very casual. We can start over at any time, it doesn't matter.

Where are we? At home, at work, in a bar or in a hospital ward, at 4:

00 or 3: 00 am, we can decide to start at any time, in the next 24 hours or 5.

Don't touch alcohol for several minutes.

Constantly updating this plan will avoid the weaknesses of "abstinence forever" and "swearing abstinence". while

When the vow of abstinence is fulfilled, we think we have achieved the expected goal, and we feel that we can be self-sufficient again.

By drinking. But "today" is always there. Life is made up of day by day. Today is ours.

Everyone can stop drinking for a day.

At first, we just tried to live today (now), just to stay awake.

Wake up-it really works. Once this way of thinking becomes a part of our thinking, we

It is found that a 24-hour life is equally effective and satisfying for dealing with other things.

take action

Generally speaking, instead of just passively forcing yourself not to do or think about something.

Things, it is easier to turn to actively participate in other activities.

So is abstinence. Just staying away from alcohol (or not wanting to drink) doesn't seem enough. I

The more children want to stay away from alcohol, the more they want to drink, and it is difficult to have any substantial help.

Help! A better way is to keep ourselves busy, no matter what, and concentrate our attention and attention.

Focus on other things that are good for your health.

Many of our members want to know what kind of free time we should have once we stop drinking.

How to send? Once we decide to give up drinking, it is obvious that we don't have to do what we did before.

Can drink carefully, do everything possible to plan and drink, and recover from the influence of drinking.

Come back. So we suddenly have a lot of free time to do nothing, just like a huge

Empty, we must try to fill it.

Most of us have formal jobs to do, however, many of us have given up drinking.

The time left after drinking is definitely going to pass. Therefore, we must cultivate new hobbies and arrange more abundantly.

Color activities, to fill these time, but also used to be addicted to alcohol.

Find a suitable exit.

Those who try to change old habits know that old behaviors are forcibly stopped by the new generation.

And doing nothing, it is easier to achieve the goal.

When we first quit drinking, some people will experience a brief lack of imagination, which is a kind of

A curious and real state.

People are curious because most alcoholics can show it when they drink.

An extremely rich imagination. As long as it is for drinking, we can spend less than a week.

Make up some reasons (excuses) that others will never think of in their lifetime. A: Yes.

Normal people will have a very legitimate reason to drink, but for a person who has no alcohol problem,

Say, whether you drink or not, you never need any high-sounding reasons! )

When we stop drinking, there is no need to find reasons for ourselves to drink, but our brains seem to.

Also stopped, never recovered. Some of us find it difficult to figure it out without drinking.

What to do. Maybe it's because we just changed our drinking habits or suffered from alcohol for a long time.

After that, our thoughts need a rest to return to normal. For whatever reason,

This unresponsiveness will gradually disappear. After a month without sleep, I

Children can feel obvious improvement; After three months, our minds will be clearer; To the first one

In two years, the promotion is even more amazing, and our inspiration seems endless, better than before.

But when we gave up drinking for the first time, we were always in a seemingly exhausted Jiang Lang state.

We often hear some members ask, "What should we do?"

Some of the activities listed below can be used as the beginning of this stage, although it is not like exploration.

That's very exciting, very exciting, but it contains all kinds of activities, which is enough to fill in.

Make up for the free time at the beginning of abstinence. When we don't need to work or be with people who don't drink

When you are together, you can choose to use it, and you are sure that it is very effective-this is what we do:

1. Take a walk-especially to a new place you have never been. Go to the park or country road for leisure.

Walking slowly, but not a tiring March.

2. Reading-But some of us find it difficult to concentrate on reading after the initial abstinence period.

Miscellaneous books

3. Visit museums or art galleries.

4. Exercise-swimming, playing golf, running, yoga or other exercises recommended by the doctor.

Move it.

5. Set out to deal with the housework that has been neglected for a long time-organize the wardrobe, dresser and put files.

Filing in different categories, answering letters, nailing pictures or dealing with things that we have put off for a long time. but

When doing these things, we must pay special attention to moderation. Although the cabinets, attics,

Basement, storage room and parking lot seem simple, but if we work all day, we will

You will become tired and messy, and you may still not be able to finish it at once. So we are each other.

Will remind each other: don't be greedy, do what you can. Don't clean the whole kitchen or tidy place at once.

There are files, but clean one drawer or folder at a time and do other work another day.

6. Try to cultivate a new hobby-choose something that is not too expensive or demanding and purely entertaining.

Recreation, refreshing, no competitive pressure activities. Many of our candidates

I chose activities I had never thought of before, such as bridge, opera, singing, writing, tropical fish,

Embroidery, crossword puzzles, carpentry, basketball, cooking, bird watching, amateur performance, leather carving, gardening, Kyrgyzstan.

He, movies, dancing, sailing, stone carving, potted plants, collection, etc. Many people find that they are now

What I really like is actually a hobby that I have never considered trying before.

7. relive the fun of the past-some are still hidden in our memories, but they may be forgotten somewhere.

A long-forgotten watercolor painting, a set of embroidery tools, a handmade style that you haven't polished for years.

For some of us, piano, table tennis or go, collected tapes, reading notes and so on. Very important.

Digging up these nostalgic objects again and dusting off the heavy dust on the surface can bring infinite emotion.

And it will make us want to continue these hobbies. But if you think it's no longer suitable for you, give it up.

Give up.

8. Take classes-have you always wanted to learn Japanese or Russian? love history

Or math? Want to know about archaeology or anthropology? Then go to correspondence, TV University or Chengdu.

Personal education (just interest, not necessarily credit certificate). There are also many places where it is only a week.

Why not give it a try if you want to take a one-day course? Many members find that attending classes can not only broaden their horizons.

Vision can broaden the field of life.

If you are tired of the content of this course, don't hesitate to quit immediately. You have the right to decide to stop.

Anything that does more harm than good. Learning to give up is not good for yourself or is not positive, positive or unhealthy.

Only with meaningful activities can we have the courage to face it again and have the opportunity to enjoy drinking.

A new dimension of life.

9. Volunteer to do some useful services-many hospitals, children's service institutions, and teaching.

Social and social welfare organizations are in great need of volunteers to provide various services. We can have many choices.

Choices include reading to the blind, going to church to help post letters and collecting petitions. Just asking.

Hospitals, churches, government agencies or non-governmental organizations can get such information. We found that,

When we can contribute to others, even if it is only a trivial service, we will do it.

I feel particularly useful, even when talking about the process of participating in these activities and related information, we

You will also feel very interested and devoted.

10. Dress yourself-In the past, most of us didn't care about our image. haircut

A new hairstyle, a new dress, a new pair of glasses and even a new tooth will be unexpected and surprising.

A pleasant effect. In the past days, we deliberately decorated our appearance, when we

A few months after waking up, it seems to be another chance to appreciate yourself.

1 1. Relax and play-not everything we do in our daily life is necessary.

We should be proactive, innovative and change, although it is valuable and can improve ourselves.

But many of us realize that it is also very important to maintain a moderate balance. We also need to do something.

Purely for fun activities, such as your favorite hot air balloon, bubble gum, zoo and comedy.

Movies, rock music, detective stories, sunbathing, sledding and so on; If you don't like them, go to them.

It has some fun activities that have nothing to do with drinking, just to reward itself.

12. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _, please fill it in yourself.

I hope the activities listed above can inspire you and make you have some different ideas.

Row. If so, very good, enjoy it.

However, it must be noted that some people always go too far and take part in too many activities at once.

We have a good way to help you stop, and that is in chapter 18 of this book.

Take your time.

Remember the last time you got drunk?

Literally, we mean "getting drunk" rather than "drinking".

For most people, "drinking a glass of wine" has long meant a happy time for friends to laugh and laugh. Based on the different ages of each of us, based on the environment around us when we first drank, we all have all kinds of memories and expectations (sometimes anxiety), which reminds us of a cold beer, a cocktail, gin and tonic water, whisky and beer, a sip of red wine and so on.

Over and over again, in the early drinking process of most people, the expectation of alcohol can always meet the actual needs of drinking.

If every time is just right, we will naturally think that "drinking a glass of wine" is a pleasant experience, which not only meets our own needs, but also does not exceed the norms of religious customs. At the same time, it satisfies the desire, caters to the etiquette of social occasions, and helps us relax, cheer up and realize our different pursuit goals. For example, a 55-year-old Finn, when someone asks him for a drink, can't help but immediately think of the warmth brought by drinking a glass or two of brandy or vodka in cold weather when he was young.

If she is a young woman, she may immediately think of a gorgeous crystal cup filled with champagne, fragrant clothes, intimate friendship and romantic atmosphere, or a young man with jeans, beard and long hair at a rock concert, taking out a bottle of booze from a bag full of bottled wine, with flashing lights and smoke, and everyone screaming and screaming, which is exciting. A member of AA said: "Have a drink" is almost synonymous with eating pizza and drinking beer.

Another 78-year-old widow said that when she was in a nursing home, she often couldn't help but think of the habit of drinking a glass of sherry before going to bed. Although this kind of drinking is very natural in our minds, it is misleading in our current situation, and this is also the way some of us start drinking.

If this is the process of drinking, it is unlikely that we will deteriorate into a drinking problem in the future. However, if we look at the process of drinking fearlessly, we will find that no matter how hard we try, there has never been such a perfect and magical moment in our last few years or months of drinking.

On the contrary, we have repeatedly found that our actual drinking amount is far greater than this, which always leads to some kind of trouble in the end. Maybe we just feel a little guilty about drinking too much in private.

But sometimes it will turn into a fierce quarrel, which will affect your work and even lead to serious diseases, accidents, or legal and financial problems. So, when a suggestion of "drinking" appears, now we try to recall the whole process from the beginning of drinking to the last poor drunkenness and hangover.

General friends invite us to drink, which generally refers to the way of entertainment and a cup or two of tasting.

But if we carefully recall all the details of the pain caused by the last drunkenness, we will not be confused by the long-standing impression of "drinking a glass of wine" in our minds.

Now we can frankly admit that in terms of our real physiological reaction, we are quite sure that a cup of yellow soup means that we will get drunk again sooner or later, which will bring a series of troubles.

Drinking no longer means music and joy to us, but memories of illness and regret. A member of Alcoholics Anonymous once said, "I know that if I go to a bar for a drink now, it will never be the same again, just spend a little time and some money."

This drink will exhaust my bank account, my family, my house, my car, my job, my reason and even my life. This is really too big, too expensive and too risky. "

He remembers the last time he got drunk, not the first time he drank.

Abandon old ideas

In the past, during drinking, we accumulated some deep-rooted ideas from life. Even after we stop drinking, they can't disappear like magic.

Although we are far away from the days of leading a drunken life, the disease of alcohol addiction still lingers. Therefore, we find that if we can try to get rid of many old ideas that are budding again, it will help us to recover.

And these old ideas do happen again and again. The goal we strive to achieve is to regain a sense of relaxation and freedom from the shackles of old ideas in the past. Many of our past thoughts and habits.

The concept it forms limits our autonomy.

When we look at it carefully with brand-new eyes, it turns out that they will only crush us and are useless. We don't need to stick to it any longer, unless it is proved to be useful by clear tests and it really works.

We can now use very specific standards to measure the current practicality and authenticity of an idea. We can say to ourselves, "I often think so when I drink." Does this mode of thinking help me stay awake now? Is this kind of thinking good for me today? " Many of our old ideas-especially those about alcohol, drinking, drunkenness and alcohol dependence (or alcoholism, if you agree with this wording)-are either worthless or actually self-destructive, and it will be a great relief to get rid of those ideas.

Perhaps a few examples are enough to illustrate the benefits of abandoning these old and useless ideas. When we are teenagers, for many people, drinking is an oath, indicating that we are no longer children, or that we have grown up. We are smart, mature, experienced or strong enough to disobey our parents and other authorities.

In many people's minds, drinking is always inseparable from romance, sex, music, success, superiority and luxury. If the school teaches anything about drinking, it's usually just the danger to health and the possibility of losing your driver's license-not much else.

At the same time, many people are still quite convinced that any drinking behavior is completely immoral and directly leads to crime, pain, humiliation and death. No matter what we used to feel about drinking, positive or negative, it is usually strong, emotional and far more than rational. Maybe our attitude towards drinking is just an unconscious and unthinking acceptance of other people's opinions.

For many people, drinking is a necessary and harmless part of social occasions, and it is a pleasant leisure activity between friends at a certain time and place.

Others may think that drinking is necessary for eating. But now we ask ourselves: If we don't drink, can't we actually enjoy friendship or food? It's the way we drink

Help improve your social relations? Can this improve our ability to enjoy food? Whether for or against the idea of getting drunk, the resulting reaction is even more extreme. A heavy drinker may be regarded as just having fun or just losing face.

For various reasons, the idea of getting drunk often makes many people feel disgusted. But for some of us, this is a state of longing. Getting drunk is not only to meet other people's expectations, but we also like this feeling. But at the same time, there is another influencing factor, which is the public's neglect of social celebrities.

Some people can't tolerate people who have never been drunk, and some people look down on people who are too drunk. As far as the conclusions found in health care today are concerned, the impact of changing these attitudes is still quite limited. When we first hear the word "alcoholic", most of us associate it with people who are old, ragged, shivering or begging, or people who get drunk in slums.

Anyone who has a full understanding of this problem now knows that this is all nonsense. However, despite this, when we first tried to stay awake, the vague concepts left over from our past still bothered us.

It blinds our eyes and makes it difficult for us to perceive the truth. But in the end, we finally become willing to accept that changing our past ideas-only possible-may be a bit wrong, or at least it can't fully reflect our personal experience. When we can convince ourselves to look at the past experience honestly and listen to other ideas different from ourselves carefully, we can face a long list of information that has not been examined in detail in the past with an open mind.

For example, we can look at the narrative of science majors: alcohol is not only a delicious drink to quench thirst, but also a drug that can change ideology. We know that drugs exist not only in drinks, but also in food and various drugs. And now almost every day, I can read or hear the multiple harms caused by some specific drugs to the human body.

Harm (including heart, blood vessels, stomach, lungs, mouth, brain, etc.). This is a situation that we have never doubted before. Pharmacologists and other addiction treatment experts now believe that alcohol, whether used as a drink, stimulant, sedative, tonic or sedative, can not be completely regarded as safe. But in each case, it may not directly lead to physical injury or mental fatigue.

Obviously, most people can use it gracefully, without causing harm to themselves or others. We found that drinking can be regarded as taking medicine in medicine, and getting drunk is like taking too much medicine. Drug abuse can directly or indirectly lead to various health, mental, family, social, economic and work problems.

We can start to see the consequences of alcohol for some people, instead of most people just thinking about what drinking brings us. We also found that anyone who has a drinking problem may be in what we call a "drinking" state.

The target of this disease is regardless of age, belief, race, sex, intelligence, background, mood, health, occupation, family status, physical fitness, eating habits, social or economic status or other general personality. The question is not how much or how you drink, when and why you drink, but how drinking affects your life-what happens when you drink.

Before we realize that we have this disease, we must first walk out of an old and boring misunderstanding: it is shameful and cowardly to admit that we can't control our drinking capacity (if we ever control it).

Weak? In fact, we need considerable courage to face up to this cruel reality. There is no reservation, no cover-up, no excuse, and we don't have to deceive ourselves. Although it doesn't seem like boasting, frankly speaking, many of us fantasize about being world champions. In the process of recovering from alcohol addiction, we will also be covered by some wrong ideas. Just like millions of other people, seeing a person die because of drinking with their own eyes, they will be very surprised why this alcoholic can't stop drinking with his own willpower.

This is another outdated concept, and we will always remember this concept, mainly because many of us have been exposed to some typical cases of super willpower in our early years, perhaps because our family or neighborhood has had legends. After years of bohemian life, he became notorious, but suddenly he changed his lifestyle and gave up alcohol and women. At the age of 50, he turned over a new leaf and became a model of decent behavior and honesty.

This naive idea that we can follow suit when we are ready is a dangerous illusion. We are not anyone else. We are just ourselves (we are not grandfathers who drink a big bottle every day and live to be 90 years old). ) Now we are very sure that overcoming the problem of alcohol addiction by our own willpower is as effective as treating cancer. We have repeatedly confirmed this from our own experience.

Most of us try to solve it alone, whether we want to control our drinking or give up drinking, but no matter how hard we try, we can't achieve lasting success. Even so, it is not easy for us to frankly admit that we need help. Because this seems to be a sign of cowardice.

Yes, we are deeply lost in another. But in the end, we ask ourselves: if we can gain and use more powerful power, will we be wiser than working in vain alone, especially after we have repeatedly proved that it doesn't work? If you press the switch, you can turn on the light. We think it unwise to continue trying to grope in the dark. We can't be fully awake ourselves. This is not the way we learned to stay awake.

At the same time, fully enjoying a sober life is not a job that one can complete alone. As long as we can consider a few ideas different from the old ideas, even temporarily, we have made the right decision and entered a happy and healthy new life.

Originally, we were convinced that this would never happen, but now this change is happening among our thousands of members.

Past experience shows that if we can seriously follow the following suggestions, we can minimize the impact of this problem.

1. As an alcoholic who is still recovering, you will unconsciously react to that uncomfortable feeling and seek relief from chemicals, and often tend to take more doses than usual. Therefore, when we feel pain or discomfort in our daily life, we should try our best to find non-drug solutions.

Please remember that the best protection against drug abuse and relapse is to actively participate in the rehabilitation program of A.A. 3.A.A members can't play the role of doctors. You should be completely honest with yourself and your doctor on the issue of drug use.

If in doubt, please consult a doctor who has experience in treating alcohol addiction. 6. Confess your alcohol addiction to any doctor or dentist you consult, and this trust will be respected and most helpful to doctors. 7. If you have ever had side effects on prescription drugs, please inform your doctor immediately. 8. If the private doctor refuses or fails to identify the special sensitivity of alcohol addicts to sedatives, antipsychotics and stimulants, you can consider changing doctors.

Some alcoholics need medication.

When we realize the danger of relapse, we also know that alcoholics are not immune to other diseases.

Some of us have to deal with depression that may lead to suicide; Schizophrenia, bipolar disorder or other mental and physical diseases that sometimes require hospitalization. We also have epilepsy, heart disease, cancer, allergies, hypertension and many other serious diseases.

As many alcoholics find it difficult to use drugs, some members hold an opposition position that no one in the A.A. group should receive any drug treatment.

Although this attitude is undoubtedly a problem for some people to prevent relapse and addiction, it means disaster for others. Aaa members and many of their doctors have described cases in which other aa members told depressed patients to throw away pills.

But the only result is the recurrence of depression and all kinds of difficulties, sometimes even suicide. We also heard that patients with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, epilepsy and others who have to receive medication were discouraged from taking prescription drugs by other well-meaning alcoholics anonymous members. Unfortunately, the advice of these non-professionals often leads to the deterioration of the situation of these victims, as serious as before.

More importantly, they feel very guilty, because AA opposes the use of all drugs. Now, we know very well that just as it is wrong to support or lead any alcoholic to become addicted to drugs, it is also wrong to deprive any alcoholic of drug treatment to alleviate or control physical diseases and emotional problems.