What you need to know about the engagement process

What you need to know about the engagement process!

What is engagement? Why do we need to get engaged?

1. Engagement is the three matchmaking and six betrothal matches in ancient times. It is a beautiful way to tell your relatives and friends that you are getting married.

2. Engagement does not have any legal effect, it is more of a sense of ceremony, a romantic ceremony, adding a beautiful memory and satisfying psychological needs.

3. Engagement is a kind of declaration of sovereignty, telling the world that the other person will be yours from now on! Let the other person feel sincerity.

4. Engagement helps two people face up to the relationship, begin to gradually change their roles, and adapt to everything about the other person.

5. After the engagement, the two families interact frequently and have a close relationship. You can feel the future family atmosphere up close and judge whether this is the post-marriage life you want.

6. Once engaged, you are an unmarried couple, and you can continue to get along with each other. The period from engagement to marriage is also called the marriage cooling-off period, which also gives both parties the opportunity to get along and make a new choice.

Which time and place should you choose?

Time: I have met with both parents, and both parties and their parents have discussed the issue of the RV, three golds, betrothal gifts, dowry, and other betrothal gifts and their general outline. Once the wedding date is agreed upon, you can find a good and auspicious day to get engaged, usually about 6-12 months before the wedding!

Venue: There is no limit to the location, it can be a hotel or home. Determine the time, location, Number of people. It is usually the home court for the woman, but in some places it is the home court for the man!

TIPS:

1. If there are many people, book the hotel in advance as much as possible, and try to ensure that everyone is in the same hall. Don’t separate!

2. If you are planning to decorate in a hotel, communicate with the hotel in advance to confirm the location and space that can be provided for us to decorate. Observe the surrounding environment. A poor background will affect the shooting effect.

Who to invite? How much gift money will be given?

Inviters:

1. Mainly parents, brothers and sisters and close relatives and friends. The wedding banquet is usually hosted by the woman (it may also be hosted by the man, it varies from person to person), and the number of guests is preferably an even number!

2. Invite witnesses (if necessary)

3. Matchmaker

4. Photographer and videographer (if necessary)

5. Master of Ceremony (if necessary)

Engagement fee: Gift money is required in many places It is more particular, as long as the amount is suitable and auspicious. There is no absolute rule. It can be given according to the financial situation of the man's family or the request of the woman. Common gift numbers and their meanings: 10,001 for one gift from a million people; 31,800 for a single gift; 18,888 for a straight gift; 15,000 for a thousand purple dry reds.

What should I prepare for an engagement?

The groom’s betrothal gift:

1. The bride price: discussed in advance by both parties (usually half of the bride price will be given at the time of engagement, which may be slightly different according to local customs) are different).

2. Gift box: Generally placed in a box, it is also easy to carry.

3. Three gold/hardware: gold bracelets, gold bracelets, gold rings, gold necklaces, gold earrings, etc.

4. Diamond ring: Prepare a romantic proposal in advance.

5. Banquet money and matchmaker money: negotiated by both parties.

6. Gifts: Determine according to local customs. Some places pay attention to "six gifts", which means that the couple will live a prosperous life after marriage.

The woman’s return gift: Just prepare it according to local customs!

Clothing:

1. The man’s clothing: mainly suits (the woman buys them for him).

2. Women’s clothing: dress or cheongsam.

3. Clothes of the boy’s and girl’s parents.

What should I prepare for an engagement?

Ceremony items:

1. Wedding decoration (you can also buy it yourself): KT board (engagement banquet date and name), balloons Decoration, pump, welcome sign at the door, plate flowers, small happy words, red tablecloth, other ornaments (vases, customized photo frames, etc. are all acceptable).

2. Engagement letter: It can be made of cloth or photo frame.

3. Bouquet: Usually prepare a large bouquet of roses.

4. Cake: You can customize it according to popular styles.

5. Tea set: Prepare tea cups according to local customs.

6. Customized Coke: Choose according to your preference, it looks great when taking photos.

7. Early Takako Dried Fruit Plate: a photogenic artifact.

Items for entertaining guests:

1. Dessert table: various cute desserts and pastries.

2. Wedding candies and wedding candy boxes: Prepare according to the number of people.

3. Wedding smoke and wine:: Prepare according to customs and number of people.

4. Red envelope.

5. Guests return gifts: sugar + cigarettes according to custom.

What is the process of engagement?

1. On the day of engagement, the man, his parents and his close relatives will go to the woman’s house together with the bride price, jewelry and other items required by customs (11 o’clock) (Be careful to control the time), the man will hand over the betrothal gift to the woman’s mother after entering the house.

2. Sit at the woman’s house for a while and then go to the hotel.

3. The engagement banquet decoration is completed and the photos are taken in advance.

4. The newlyweds and their parents greet the guests at the door.

5. The ceremony begins, the engagement letter is read and signed.

6. The parents of both parties gave a brief speech, expressing their blessings and thanking the guests for opening the banquet. The newlyweds toasted, and relatives gave red envelopes for the meeting. The banquet was over, and the newlyweds and their parents saw off the guests.

7. The man, his parents, and close relatives will go back to the woman’s house to sit for a while, and leave before sunset with a return gift.

Some tips from people who have been there

1. Communicate well with the photographer and videographer. The two protagonists should try to arrive at the hotel one hour in advance to reserve shooting time, otherwise they will wait until everyone is there. It would be awkward to shoot.

2. Remind relatives and friends of the organizer to arrive early.

3. While dressing yourself up beautifully, don’t forget your boyfriend.

4. The engagement ceremony is arranged after the food is served. After the ceremony, everyone clinks glasses and uses chopsticks to eat in one go. This avoids the awkward situation of facing an empty table after clinking glasses.

5. Say hello to the elders at home in advance and ask them to liven up the atmosphere appropriately to avoid awkward silences.

6. Put the diamonds and gold jewelry on the table away immediately after taking pictures, or simply use simulated ones to avoid losing them!