My husband cheated on me, and the hotel waiter wanted to divorce me.

My husband cheated on me, and the hotel waiter wanted to divorce me.

Letters from netizens always thought that they were very happy. Love 1 year, married for 5 years, and finally got together. There is no other relative in this city, only him. Now I have a 30-month-old child.

New Year's Eve began to feel something was wrong, and my husband (who still calls him that) began to be indifferent. He felt strange and asked him what was wrong. He didn't say anything.

On the fourth day of Valentine's Day, at two or three o'clock in the morning, they had a showdown in the fireworks and firecrackers to meet the god of wealth. At first, I said, no feelings, broken, I said it doesn't matter, there are always twists and turns in marriage, let's move forward together. Go ahead, get a divorce. Let's get together and part. I said, how can I give up? We face this problem together. After 4 o'clock in the morning, I finally said that I was having an affair. In 1989, I worked as a waiter in a hotel when I was on a business trip.

The first reaction was that he was just a flash in the pan. Later, she told me that her woman had been talking about it all her life. At that time, I broke down, cried and hurt myself. I'm so excited, call my mother.

Because I live with my in-laws, I can't hide.

The next day, he said, think clearly, this is probably just an episode in marriage. Tell mistress to break up. San Xiao is on the battlefield, cutting his wrists and sending photos, eager to live. He's scared. I said, I want a divorce, a dead end. I'll leave it to you. I know I shouldn't have said such things at that time, but I really couldn't help it at that time.

Later, he said, don't be too intense, lest the woman can't stand it and slowly alienate. Then there are all kinds of calls, WeChat contact. I didn't take the initiative to talk to me when I got home. I don't care. I talk to him in all kinds of boring ways. Occasionally, all the people who communicate are children. Now at home, the woman calls, but he usually doesn't answer, but sends her a text message. My heart hurts. My child saw me crying two days ago and was a little affected. I have a fever today. Sleeping at night was very stable, and I would get up in the middle of the night to find my parents these two nights.

It was fine a few days ago, and I was still thinking that our life was quite good, and we basically didn't quarrel. And asked him if he was too immature and selfish. I just think I really want someone to talk to. At present, only my parents and 1 friends know about it. I just think my question is whether I still have illusions about marriage and love. Actually, I just need to live. What should I do?

Netizen: the fly is gently put down.

Pan Xiao answered your friend, Hello. Now, your husband is still in the second love affair, and the freshness and excitement of the affair are still rising. The more you give him resistance, the more he feels that true love is coming. The previous marriage was just an illusion. Therefore, now you should use static braking. If you blindly make impulsive behavior, it will not only have a good effect, but will accelerate the breakdown of marriage.

As you can see from your letter, your husband is still a little rational, but he still attaches great importance to mistress at this stage. Therefore, mistress sabotages your's marriage through self-harm or encouragement. In this case, the more impatient you are, the more you resist, and the more you let mistress succeed.

Pan Xiao suggested, first of all, don't be indifferent to your husband. When he comes home from work, he should treat it warmly, seemingly ignoring the matter itself, so that she can feel your gentleness and thoughtfulness, because then he will see the bad of mistress. Second, don't think that a married woman needs to be a yellow-faced woman. Women also need economic independence and constantly improve their abilities, which is good for you and your children. Third, go out with my husband and children to enjoy the weekend, go shopping, watch movies and eat together, which not only increases the atmosphere of family enjoyment, but also makes my husband feel the warmth of the family and return as soon as possible.