How much do you know about how to effectively prevent teenagers from "deviant behavior"?

Learn to use it? Emotional ABC theory? , effectively prevent teenagers? Deviant behavior? !

In April, the opening of schools in various provinces and cities was in full swing. On April 23, a seventh-grade girl from Huiyuan Middle School in Langxi County, Anhui Province fell to her death. On April 26th, a 17-year-old senior one boy from Chaohu (Chaohu No.1 Middle School) in Anhui Province fell to his death (suspected of excessive pressure).

In May, there were three consecutive incidents of children jumping off buildings in a certain place in Anhui!

①: Around 0 pm on May 3rd 165438+, Nanling County 15-year-old girl? Depression? Go to the roof to commit suicide;

②: Coincidentally, at about 6: 22 pm on May 5, a boy of 16 years old in Wuhu County stood on the roof with emotion and tried to commit suicide by jumping off a building. Will the children standing on the roof be afraid? Fortunately, with the concerted efforts of Qi Xin, the police, security guards and firefighters, the last two incidents saved the day and the alarm was lifted in time!

This kind of tragedy happened one after another, forcing me to stop and think? How can we stop teenagers from deviant behavior? Avoid more and more teenagers because? Accumulate emotions and create stress? And then committed suicide.

Because of single life, teenagers have many stressors in family, school and social environment. The expectations of parents and teachers, school and social atmosphere will directly or indirectly affect them, and have an impact on their physiology, psychology and behavior. In the process of coping with these influences, if the coping strategies and handling methods adopted by teenagers who feel at a loss are inconsistent or conflict with social norms and social expectations, deviant behavior may occur.

Once deviant behavior occurs, it is possible to get out of the control of independent consciousness and do things that hurt yourself and others.

February 23, 2004, Ding Xin Campus, School of Foreign Languages, Yunnan University, dormitory 3 17, Building 6 for boys? Four male bodies? Broke the past calm in the border areas. After investigation by the police, another 23-year-old student in the dormitory, Ma Jiajue, was suspected of committing a crime and had been missing for several days. Subsequently, the Public Security Departments of Yunnan Province and Guangxi Autonomous Region launched the National Wanted Order (A).

Until the evening of March 5, 2004, Ma Jiajue, who had been absconding for nearly a month, was arrested in Sanya. On June 7, 2004, Ma Jiajue was sentenced to death for the crime of intentional homicide. After the trial, Ma Jiajue was immediately taken to the execution ground for execution.

Today, after 16, why review it again? Ma Jiajue killed his roommate? Events? It turns out that Ma Jiajue * * * has five roommates, and the only roommate who survived is called? LAM Raymond? Just because I gave Ma Jiajue care and food when he was lost, it became such a joke by netizens? A meal, leaving you alive? !

According to later? Survivors? LAM Raymond's description of Ma Jiajue: This person is withdrawn and extremely autistic, and it is difficult to get along with him in collective life, and he has a bad temper.

It is worth noting that Ma Jiajue killed four roommates. Is this his idea? Friends? Just, because at the time of playing cards and one of my roommates (Shao Ruijie) quarrel, the fuse of the whole thing is Shao Ruijie very angry:

I didn't expect you to play fake cards. You are too bad. No wonder Gong Bo (another roommate killed by Ma Jiajue) was so angry that he didn't invite you?

Ma Jiajue, who was not confident, was completely knocked down. He felt that his last dignity had been trampled on. Living in such a closed environment, his mental stress is even greater, so he started to move? Kill the heart? .

What is deviant behavior? What Ma Jiajue did was typical. Deviant behavior? He decided the life and death of five roommates with a bowl of rice and a sentence, which runs counter to the requirements of building a legal society.

The emergence of deviant behavior is determined by this factor: ① the collective environment in which it is located is not to be seen;

②: My personality is closed, I don't like talking, I don't like making friends, and I can't communicate with people in time to relieve my depression;

③ Psychological distortion, behavioral violence, and no better way to deal with the problem;

4 wrong outlook on life and values.

As college students, knowing that they can't do it, knowing that they can't escape the punishment of the law, they still seriously violate the criminal law. Isn't this one of them? Suicide? Really?

Are you online? Ma Jiajue incident? Yes,? Roommate taunts? It's just a fuse What's the real reason for the whole thing? Ma Jiajue's long-term psychological pressure is too great? .

Learn from a painful experience! who is it? Social animals? How to effectively relieve physical and mental stress and eliminate negative emotions is very important in the healthy growth of teenagers.

Emotional ABC Theory The application of emotional ABC theory in group communication was obtained by American psychologist Alice after many years of psychological counseling practice. Its main point is that people's emotions are not caused by an induced event itself, but by the explanation and evaluation of the event by people who have experienced it. In the ABC theoretical model, A refers to the activation event; B refers to the corresponding belief of an individual after encountering an induced event, that is, his view, explanation and evaluation of this event; C refers to the consideration of individual emotions and behaviors in specific situations. Alice, a famous American psychologist, analyzed the Ma Jiajue incident: a cause event: Ma Jiajue was indifferent and was mistaken for playing cards? Fake? No excuse, think there is no need to excuse;

B personal belief: being considered a person by roommates? Too fake? , dignity is insulted;

C behavior results: more and more avoidance of communication, violence leads to four roommates? Death? .

In general, people often think that people's emotional response is directly caused by the induced event A (that is, the occurrence of event A directly leads to the final result of behavior C). Emotional theory ABC clearly points out that induced event A is only an indirect cause of behavior results under the influence of emotion; What is the behavior result C? Naturally? Root cause.

In a nutshell, that is to say:

People's emotions are mainly rooted in their own beliefs, as well as the evaluation and explanation of life situations. ?

So, if time goes back to 16, if you want to change it? Ma Jiajue killed his roommate? This kind of behavior should start with changing Ma Jiajue's belief, and help him to know himself correctly, rebuild himself, accept himself, establish self-confidence and face life with positive emotions through psychological and behavioral counseling.

Of course, what has happened is a foregone conclusion and cannot be changed, but we should learn a profound lesson from it, and teenagers, parents and friends should realize this? Emotional ABC theory? The importance of avoiding such incidents from happening again!

Theoretical practice of emotional ABC

People and things: There is such an excellent, taciturn and emaciated student in my class who often asks for leave to hang water in the school hospital. The more natural times, the more backward the course, and the harder he studies.

One day after physical education class, he dragged his tired body to me and said with red eyes. Teacher, I don't want to go to school! ? Ask again and again, I ask? Why? ? It really surprised me that he never spoke again. Now I think there may be more office teachers. What? Dare not? Go ahead.

Then I took him to a remote place in the school playground. He got it off his chest and finally knew the reason.

It turns out that it is unpleasant to associate with classmates for a long time. Because of personal physique, a group of students in the class like it? Join the fun and be naughty? Naughty classmates nicknamed him? Sick seedling, scholar? . In physical education class just now, because of the class. Fun 4? 100 meter? In the relay race, when he handed the stick, he didn't hold it steady, dropped it and lost the race. Four people in the same group were arrested. Punishment? Do 10 push-ups and get rid of the other three people in the same group? Blame? .

He himself apologized for his mistake, but a student next to him said: Don't study, hurry home and exercise! ? Let him feel that his personal dignity has been insulted.

Let's get together as soon as I know the ins and outs, okay? Emotional ABC theory? Analyze this:

An induced event: weak constitution, dubbed by classmates as? Sick seedlings?

B Personal belief: What do you think you really give to others? A scholar with no hands to tie a chicken? Without self-confidence and dignity.

C behavior result: escape from the group and want to drop out of school.

The key to the problem is around? Scholar? If we can change his understanding of this word, we can help him get rid of it? Dilemma? !

I asked him: Do you hate scholars? ?

He nodded silently.

I asked him: Why? ?

He said:? Scholar? In his opinion, is it? Nerd? I can do nothing but read, and I can't even lift a bucket of water. Students just think I'm too much when they see that I only study and don't play with them every day? Scholar? I've always been worried about this. ?

I asked him: What does a scholar essentially describe? ?

He blurted out:? A scholar?

I said:? Isn't that enough? You are a student, that is, a scholar. In the past, scholars were a kind of honorific title. Only those with high education can be called scholars.

He smiled and nodded and said, yes, I am a student and study hard. My task is to get into a good university and be the first, what's more, their grades are not as good as mine. I won't compare my shortcomings with others' strengths. There is no comparison at all, and there is no significance of comparison. Besides, I gave other people nicknames ...?

He has changed since he changed his negative attitude. While studying hard, he paid more attention to physical exercise and arranged his schedule scientifically. Is he real now? Fame and fortune? , more popular with classmates.

Seeing him join the group made me more convinced? Emotional ABC theory? How practical!

Conclusion Through the theory of emotional ABC, teenagers can be quickly and effectively guided to "positive beliefs"? Treat? Adverse events? , timely resolve worries and relieve physical and mental stress. Adolescent students, in particular, are faced with heavy academic pressure and the expectations of their elders, and it is inevitable that they will sometimes fall into confusion and confusion. This is a normal phenomenon, and everyone must go through the process of growth.

But, how to do it? Lost? Success is especially important!