Zhiming is married. Where's Chunjiao?

The wedding news from Shawn Yue appeared in the circle of friends within a few minutes. I'm afraid netizens will start shouting again. Where's Chunjiao? I don't think anyone knows what to do.

Actually, I'm afraid the marriage of celebrities has nothing to do with us, but people can't help recalling their love and marriage works, just like Shawn Yue's "Meiji and Chunjiao" trilogy.

"Chun Jiao" and "Meiji" are common sayings in Taiwan Province Province, referring to men and women in love. Although this kind of movies often don't understand the truth of giving up when they are too good, one is not as good as the other, but the variety of the first movie is still worth pondering. More interestingly, it also exposes some problems that both men and women cannot escape in this marriage and love market.

Zhiming and Chunjiao, like many young men and women in China, never seem to be able to say I like you, which seems infinitely simple in the west.

Even the news of confession should be concealed.

Chi Ming's message to Chun Jiao:

This sentence must be written backwards to make people feel close to the truth, which seems to be an irony of reality. In our world, love stories are things that need special media to convey. Not only should you speak English and send short messages, but you should also use inverted sentences to package your true feelings. Because we will be so afraid of truth: afraid of nudity, afraid of exposure, afraid of being rejected by others.

Chunjiao and Zhiming finally got married, but the last two people's explanations about when they liked each other were ironic. Zhang Zhiming said that the moment she fell in love with Chunjiao, Chunjiao said she would go with him on her way back to the company, but later found out that their company was not in the same direction. He said:

This sounds like a shy and lovely explanation. If you think about it carefully, you will find it extremely ridiculous. Only when you find that I like you can you like me? What sacred logic? Zhiming, your ability to know and judge yourself is really pitiful. Besides, you can only like others if everyone likes you. Is there anything in this world that you think is worth pursuing?

Zhang Zhiming's mentality is very representative among men. Think about the girls around her, no matter how beautiful, if they don't show their affection for someone at the early stage of understanding, I'm afraid this person will never become her boyfriend. Men's superficial "pursuit" is often based on the initiative of women in reality.

Imagine if you were Xu Chunjiao, you really fell in love with Zhang Zhiming at first sight, but if you didn't invite him to go with you when he was leaving, the whole romance movie would probably come to an abrupt end.

Maybe you will say that Zhiming's answer is not true, in order to leave some "face" for himself and deliberately explain his true love in this way. But isn't this more terrible? It is beyond the chart to interpret one's intentions and decisions as the inducement of false self-esteem by others. I'm afraid it is appropriate to use this to explain "straight male cancer", which can be directly included in Xinhua dictionary.

And there are more such men. Girlfriend didn't catch up because of high vision, quarreled together because there were too many things, and broke up because there were too many things and demands. You should have heard many such examples. In fact, girls don't necessarily want their boyfriends to be rich and famous, but sometimes they want him to be more responsible.

Let's see how Chunjiao likes Zhiming. Chunjiao and Zhiming stayed in a hotel called Man Chun during their affair (hence the name ...). At that time, she was suffering from asthma, and Zhang Zhiming took care of her and didn't rush to sleep with her. Before going to bed, she said, "I can rest." Zhang Zhiming hugged her and said, "Some things don't need to be done all night, and we are not in a hurry." Chun Jiao turned her back on him and smiled sweetly. She said:

She believed in his character from that moment on. This clip is really comforting. Many girls have made up their minds because of this moment. However, who would have thought that the film appeared the most shocking fragment at this moment! Just when everything was perfect, Chunjiao looked happy and Zhiming was crowned as a "good man", Zhang Zhiming's reply was: "Actually ... I wanted to ... but ..." So the clip went back to that night and solved the mystery: Zhiming was hit by the rearview mirror when he got off the bus before entering the hotel! He explained:

How come such a slap doesn't hurt! This slap hit Chunjiao's dream and tried to break up the audience's fantasy of love. At the same time, it is also a painful understanding. Men in idol dramas never exist, and women's desire for love is often poured cold water on reality.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think Yu Chunjiao is a woman trapped in Korean dramas with only dreams. She is actually very ordinary and practical, which is exactly what makes people feel helpless. A down-to-earth woman like Yu Chunjiao will also find at some moments that all her seemingly reasonable expectations and judgments about men are as illusory as utopia. What about the girls who are really stuck in Korean dramas?

Shawn Yue is married, and many netizens are asking, where is Chunjiao?

In fact, in reality, Zhiming's marriage seems easier than Chunjiao's. Some experts predict that by 2020, the number of "leftover men" in China will reach 30 million. But we always feel that there are many more leftover women around us than leftover men. Last year's study in the Green Book of Population and Labor showed that the change of educational structure led to the imbalance of urban marriage market, which affected the most educated female group to a greater extent.

The author has just pointed out that both men and women have some psychological problems in marriage. However, women with higher education are the most affected, which is inseparable from gender discrimination.

The marriage system under the condition of patriarchal society is still benefiting men more or less. Being single looks miserable. Its essence is that one's living ability is too poor, and one can't take care of oneself without other people's services. Moreover, even if men get married late, they don't have as much age pressure as women, which is also part of gender discrimination.

On the other hand, leftover women seem to be lonely. In fact, many people live a delicious life, and most of the reasons for unhappiness are the pressure of external public opinion, not from their own hearts. This is why many women are still single when facing the door of marriage.

So what should Chunjiao do? Chunjiao may still be waiting for you. Give her more time. Maybe Chunjiao doesn't need you to think about what to do for her at all. Please don't worry.