Excuse me: What are the wedding customs in Yangchun, Guangdong?

The wedding customs of Bajia in Yangchun

Red envelopes are essential for Bajia people to get married. These red envelopes are used when going out. There are many types of these red envelopes, and each one has a different meaning. And you need to write some words in the red envelope: gift money, sister's money (this will be used when you go to the bride's house, I believe everyone also grabbed sister's money when they were young). A big red envelope of about 100 yuan should be used in red. Make a big red envelope out of paper. Qi Umbrella (it means opening an umbrella, like a red envelope tied on an umbrella), Qi Pa (I wonder if it means lifting the hijab?), Shusi, Chef, Zhu Men (can't remember so many, there are probably dozens, generally Old people all know) and so many red envelopes,. These are probably the money that Xinlang will give when he goes to pick up the bride. It won’t be too busy if you prepare them in advance. It is a habit of Bajia people to receive gift money before they prepare to eat in the evening, but it is a gift that is not received when it comes to others, hehe. . . When receiving gifts from relatives, you must return some gifts. I made a fortune that night and collected the gift money on his behalf. I also had to remember it in a small long book. Of course, I won’t remember it like the old people in the past because I don’t know how to remember it. Understand, everyone said that if you know who is coming, just how many will be there, it’s simple. Strictly speaking, you need to hire a profiteer. The old man will clearly write down how many rice bars he has, where he is a relative, whether he has bought a shirt, whether he has money to buy a shirt, how much gift money he has, etc. I also saw this from the woman’s side, and it was written very clearly. At the banquet in the evening, there were a lot of dishes, and the chef's skills were also very good. I started eating like crazy after being hungry all afternoon, and it seemed I couldn't eat much. It makes you feel full when you see it. It's greasy and too oily.

At eight o'clock, everyone discusses how to pick up the bride tomorrow, who should pick her up and who should be her companion (Xinlang decides), how many people will be there, how many seats should be held, etc. We discussed it for a long time while picking up the bride. Because Xinlang didn’t know it at the time, he invited two friends to be guests of Langlao (he had to carry two loads of rice bars from the man’s house to the woman’s house, and Xinlang wanted to give red envelopes). But there were too many people, and maybe not that many people could be seated when they came back. (This is how many people are required to pick him up. When he comes back, two more people will pass by the man's side, or half as many people, and some dowry will have to be collected, so I'm afraid I won't be able to sit down). So everyone decided not to go to Kelang Lao, and his friend is a boy, so he is not suitable. He only needs a wife. Girls are unlovable. These are very particular. The wife must not be a family member of the man, and must have been married. (This must be prepared beforehand). Finally decided to call the wife. The wife and the companion can carry things in, without the guest. It will be easier in the car.

It is necessary to set up the bed after twelve o'clock in the evening, and to post on the wall auspicious money such as the "bed-setting auspiciousness". The bed is also very particular. The person who sets the bed must have a son. Daughter, there must be an old man above her, and the two parents-in-law have to work together to help Xinlang set up the bed and other habits, and the pregnant woman cannot participate. If there is a pregnant woman at home, it may be unlucky for the pregnant woman to watch the bed being laid. There is no need to make a quilt or a mat when laying the bed. The cabinet cannot be placed at the foot of the bed, and it is best not to face the bed, etc. . . These are all the preparations made the night before.

I got up very early on the morning of the 29th because my fiancée asked me to take wedding photos for him. It wasn’t just a matter of one or two, but the entire process, and there were professionals on DV. Xinlang must wear a new suit (shirt and trousers) and tie, so that he looks energetic and refreshed. The floats quickly arrived at the door, ready to greet the bride. Each float must have a red envelope hanging in front of the front. In the morning, we had to take a seat before setting off. We simply cooked some lean meat porridge and everyone could eat a little before setting off. Those who set off were all ready. Xinlang gave a red envelope to everyone who set off. When picking up the bride and Banlang (Kelang guy), they first had to carry the rice bar into the car. Xinlang and Banlang were ready to go together in the hall. Come out and start shooting DV. Xinlang and Banlang took a float, and we took another car. Because Yangjiang is far away from Yangchun Bajia, we set off at nine o'clock in the morning. Also, Xinlang must bring an umbrella. I don't quite understand Xinlang's umbrella (why do you need to bring an umbrella?).

We arrived at the bride’s house at ten forty. During this period, the friend's door can create some atmosphere, and the bride's friends can hold off on opening the door, waiting for Xinlang to promise something, etc. . . But we didn’t do this because of time issues.

After Xinlang got off the bus, he had to hand over his umbrella to the bridegroom at the gate. I heard that an eldest brother cannot give a younger sister a gift. I wonder if this is a habit? After the bridegroom takes the umbrella, the bride should give a red envelope to the bridegroom, and the Kelang guy should carry the things. The side with the chicken will go in first, and the rice bar without chicken will go in the tail. The woman's family members took the rice sticks and were about to worship the gods. Xinlang handed over the red money that had been sealed last night to the woman's gift recipient. After all this was done, they were ready to have a feast. The bride can only eat it in her boudoir. After eating, I was ready to go out. Before going out, a table has been prepared in the middle of the hall, and a footbath is placed under the table. A nest is placed on top of the footbath (used to make things such as seals, sujiaozi, etc.), and there are more than a dozen pairs placed on top of the basin. Chopsticks (I don’t know how many pairs there are). Place two fire and water lamps on the table and light them. A bridal umbrella. There are several red envelopes on the bridal umbrella. There is a nest cover in the bridal umbrella. There is also some white rice inside the nest cover. On top of the white rice, there are some: two eggs, two red ropes, and two copper jingzi. , two flours (this is used for plucking hair, rubbing it on the face can make the facial hair collapse less painfully, it is not the flour you eat, actually I don’t know what it is called, let’s just call it flour) two red envelopes, Two combs. There were also two pairs of towels placed beside the nest, and two red envelopes were included with the towels. In front of the platform, there is a bridge stool, and in front of the bridge stool there is a small stool. As soon as the bride comes out, the bride should be asked to sit on the bridge stool with her feet on the small stool. Each of the two wives first rubs flour on the bride's face. After completing this rubbing action, they take a red rope to help the bride's hair, then they pick up an egg and rub it on the bride's face in circles, and then He also took a comb to help the bride comb her hair, and said some nice words, so that she could comb her hair...I don’t remember the following. (Of course, the bride has already put on makeup and a wedding dress, so it is impossible to pluck out the hair and comb her hair now, and It’s just for the eyes of the group, these are just actions). Then the two wives help the bride put on the red envelope and copper ring together, then hang up the towel and a red envelope on her hand. After all this is done, we will wait for Xinlang to enter. Xinlang only needs to go in and stand with the bride. Then, their family members take turns bringing red envelopes to Xinlang and the bride, starting with the bride’s father, mother, brother, sister-in-law, and uncle. . . And say something nice. The family took commemorative photos together. . .

Preparing to go out, Xinlang and the bride walked out together. The bride held on to her umbrella. Take scissors and a piece of red paper (it was just red paper when I saw it, but I don’t know if there is anything written on it). When getting into the wedding car, first Xinlang gets in at the front, and then the bride follows closely. The bridegroom should hold the bride, and the groomsmen and bridesmaids should get out of the back seat of the wedding car.

At three o'clock in the afternoon, when we arrived in Yangjiang, the bride and the bridesmaids had to wait outside until the auspicious moment before they could enter. Xinlang put his umbrella back home and also waited for the auspicious moment to go out to pick up the bride into the house. Over there, furniture was being moved into the house. When the auspicious time came, firecrackers went off, and Xinlang was waiting for the bride at the door. He took the bride's umbrella. The disease is painless, I guess I can take it in stride). When the bride crossed the threshold, two couples moved two fences to light the rice. They raised the fence lights and passed the bride's umbrella together. Introduce them to their room and place the torch on the basin in the corner. There is a dressing table in the bride's room. There are two fire lamps on the table, two pieces of ginger, a small wine pot, and four small wine glasses. There are lotus seeds and red dates in the two wine glasses. When the bride and groom enter the room, they will take over the wedding. The wife poured wine into a cup with lotus seeds and red dates, and then asked Xinlang to drink the wine, holding the lotus seeds in his mouth and eating the dates. Then he poured some tea into the other two wine glasses, and the two drank together. Then the bride-to-be made the bed. First she brought the dragon and phoenix quilt. The quilt was rolled up and fastened with red cords. Jingzi was also fastened on the outside. When she opened the dragon and phoenix quilt, there were red mung beans, lotus seeds, red dates, longan, Walnuts and other happy fruits. After making the bed, ask the two children to sit on the bed and give them some dates and lotus seeds to eat (these are written in Bajia Encyclopedia). I heard that this is called bed pressing. After the bed is pressed, the newlyweds can Sleep in a new bed. The bride changed out of her wedding gown and put on a cheongsam. Then go down to worship, first worshiping heaven and earth three times, and then worshiping ancestors. . .