How much does it cost to marry a wife in Beigongcheng, Zhaocun Township, Dingzhou

Engagement:

1. The parents of both parties meet to discuss the engagement, mainly to set the almanac and the amount of the man’s betrothal gift. Currently, the more popular one is 108,000, but it mainly depends on the economic conditions of both parties. The gift money received will be returned according to the financial conditions. If the woman's conditions are average, if she receives 88888, it will be returned to the man ranging from 38888-58888. If the woman's condition is good, she will directly accept all the gift money and buy a car for the man.

2. There will definitely be a lot of time before the engagement day. During this time, it is necessary to buy the things that the two of them need for their engagement. We start with the things that the man gives to the woman.

(1) A set of gold jewelry. Including earrings, bracelets, (anklets), necklaces, a pair of rings, and a diamond ring (the current price of a diamond ring is about 15,000). In fact, you can also go to a goldware store to buy loose diamonds and choose the style you like to create the price. There is a big difference, you can save about 35. Note: I asked my parents first. Some parents like to buy 24K pure gold because they think it can preserve its value, but young people don’t like it and think it is tacky.)

(2) Wedding candy. Includes a pair of candied golden apricots. Wenzhou wedding candies are divided into different sizes. The man is responsible for all the wedding candies needed by the woman, including the red envelopes inside the wedding candies (currently, 50-100 red envelopes are given out, depending on the conditions of both parties and the amount of wedding candies).

(3) Watch. In the past, it was just a pair of watches, but now that various electronic products have the function of a watch, it is not a lot to just buy one for the woman. The price depends on each person's preference for style and financial conditions, and is usually around 10,000.

The things the woman wants to buy are:

(1) A suit, two shirts, two ties, and two pairs of shoes (casual and One pair of leather shoes each), two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, goldware: a bracelet and a necklace (if the red envelope for the groomsman is less than 580, you need to buy another shirt for the groomsman). (I don’t know about goldware, and I didn’t do it at that time)

(2) There are 88 pieces, 98 pieces, and 108 pieces in a set of dishes to choose from. You can buy them according to the situation. It is recommended to visit several companies and compare more, otherwise the price differences between the parties will be quite large. You also have to choose a day to send bowls. There is a saying "wendang", which is homophonic to "bowl" in Wenzhou dialect. The bowls on the market now are divided into bone china and ceramics. It is recommended to buy ceramic bowls, which are resistant to high temperatures and not easy to crack. Moreover, unlike bone china, they don’t easily accumulate dirt over time. Also note that it is best to buy one suitable for microwave ovens, which will be very practical in the future.

(3) The six items are citrus, pastry, dates, longan, lotus seeds and peanuts. Then give the man one of the candied golden apricots as a gift (six of them can be purchased in special stores, which saves a lot of time and energy. They are specially wrapped with a washbasin and wrapping paper. You need to reserve them about a week in advance. ).

3. Engagement day: There are currently two types of engagement banquets. One is at noon where the groom’s parents and groomsmen are invited to attend the banquet, and in the evening the groom invites the bride back. The other is that both parents and close relatives and friends hold a banquet in a hotel to get engaged. Generally speaking, more people in urban areas now choose the latter. In the afternoon, the man drives to the woman's home dressed up to greet the woman and her parents, and gives the woman's brother or sister a suitcase of money (the suitcase money refers to the woman's brother or sister preventing their sister from getting married). He refuses to leave with his suitcase, and he will not let him go until you give him money. This is how the elders explained it. Also, if the woman is an only child, she will give it to her mother). Regarding suitcase money, it is also given on the wedding day. The money for a suitcase ranges from 5,800 to 10,800. After arriving at the hotel, serve tea to both parents and toast to relatives and friends to witness your love.

Traditional wedding ceremony

1. Ancestor worship Before the man goes out to marry the bride, he first worships his ancestors.

2. Departure It is better to have an even number of convoys.

3. Firecrackers When the wedding ceremony car is on its way, firecrackers should be set off along the way to celebrate.

4. Waiting for the groom When the ceremonial car arrives at the bride’s house, there will be a boy waiting for the groom holding a tea tray. After the groom gets off the car, he will give the boy a red envelope as a gift before entering the bride’s house.

5. The pleasing groom should hold a bouquet to the bride who is waiting for marriage in the room. At this time, the bride’s close friends will stop the groom and not allow him to see the bride. The bride can put forward conditions and ask the groom to agree. , you can only enter after passing.

6. Farewell: The newlyweds offer incense to worship their ancestors. The bride should bow to her parents to say goodbye, and her father should cover her with a veil, while the groom only bows and salutes.

7. The bride should be escorted to the ceremonial car by a Fugao Deshao female elder holding a bamboo sieve or a black umbrella, because the bride has a greater status than anyone else on the wedding day, so she must not compete with the sky. big.

8. After the bride gets on the ceremonial car and soon after the car starts, the bride’s parents should scatter a bowl of water and white rice behind the car, which means that the daughter has thrown out the water and nothing will happen in the future. He ignored her and wished her daughter success in everything, food and clothing.

9. After the fan-throwing car starts, the bride should throw the fan out of the window, which means that she will not bring her bad temper to her husband's house. The fan will be picked up by the bride's brother, and she must cry a few times after throwing the fan. , and a "bamboo sieve" is built behind the limo to symbolize prosperity.

10. Fire cannons. On the way from the woman’s house to the man’s house, salutes are also fired along the way.

11. Touching oranges When the welcoming motorcade arrives at the groom's house, a child holding an orange or apple will greet the newlyweds. The bride should touch the orange lightly and give a red envelope as a gift. These two oranges are left at night for the bride to peel, which means they will bring "longevity".

12. Leading the Bride When the bride walks out of the ceremonial car, a lucky elder from the groom's side should hold a bamboo sieve on the bride's head and help the bride into the hall. When entering, newcomers must not step on the threshold, but should cross it.

13. Wedding banquets are now very popular in Chinese and Western style weddings. Most guests are entertained in the evening and a viewing ceremony is held at the same time. At the wedding banquet, the bride can take off her bridal dress and put on an evening dress to toast to each table one by one. .

14. See off guests. After the wedding banquet, the newlyweds stand at the door of their home to see off guests. They must carry tea trays filled with cigarettes and wedding candies.

15. Causing trouble in the wedding ceremony. The severity of the disaster for the newlyweds depends on whether they have teased others at other weddings, or whether they have been honest enough to treat others.