What is the concept of mate selection?

Question 1: What is the correct concept of choosing a spouse and the same outlook on life

If you are a person bent on getting ahead, you can sacrifice time, energy and even friendship, kindness and justice for the success of your career. That doesn't matter. If your other partner, like you, holds the idea of doing whatever it takes to succeed, then you will be like a pair of excellent partners and can plot together every night. Of course, the legal and moral problems caused by this are not listed in this paper.

If you are born indifferent to life and only want to have three or two confidants and a good book, then you have to have someone who shares your philosophy of life and can appreciate you for life.

I have two couples of friends, one is hedonistic and actively advocates all entertainment and tourism projects; The other pair are cautious thrifty people. In order to prevent old age and raise children, it is necessary to consider whether to save money by subway or bus even by bus. The two couples have their own places, and their lives are very sweet. If you change it&; & The consequences are unimaginable.

so I insist that it doesn't matter who you are, what matters is to find someone who is consistent with your life philosophy. The so-called carrots and vegetables have their own love. I believe there must be someone who appreciates you and is like you. Don't go to the wrong person, you know, your advantage in one person's eyes may be an unacceptable evil in another's eyes.

In addition, there is another factor, not personality, not how much money you earn, not the taste of eating and whether his feet stink, but whether you can really relax in front of each other. You can not brush your teeth and wash your face in front of each other; You can put your feet on the table; You can cry loudly; You can talk big and say that you hope that the boss who always puts you in a bad shoes will have a bad disease, so that you can replace him.

In a word, you dare to hide everything that is true, beautiful and ugly, kind and vicious in front of each other. Congratulations, you have found someone who can live a lifetime. People who can live a lifetime can't be met, and they can't do it as long as they have accumulated time. Some people are familiar with each other as soon as they meet at the first day. For example, Jia Baoyu first met Sister Lin. Of course, this is the highest realm, which is not easy for us mortals to reach. However, if you have been in contact for three to five years and still have to stretch in front of each other, it will be more tired. Nowadays, there is fierce competition in work. If you can't find absolute relaxation at home, you might as well not have this home. Everything else is secondary. No matter how handsome and beautiful you are, you will be senile after a few years. Just because a person has no money now does not mean that he will have no money in the future. No matter how much money he has, his mind will suffer and life will be boring. A person's life is hard-won, and letting his heart stretch is the biggest goal in life. Of course, it is more perfect to be able to do the two points I stated and to be beautiful and rich; -)

Question 2: What do I mean by the criteria for choosing a spouse? The standard of mate selection is the subjective evaluation standard of mutual choice between men and women when they are in love and form a family. It is the subjective reflection of the objective value standard of the value relationship between men and women by the human brain. The standard of mate selection consists of many basic elements (such as wealth, talent, morality, appearance, etc.), and each basic element contains a specific value connotation. What kind of mate selection criteria people will choose depends on what kind of mate selection criteria, whether it is most conducive to people's reproduction, whether it is conducive to both men and women to obtain the maximum total value, and whether it is most conducive to the survival and development of the family.

question 3: what are the standards or requirements of people's concept of mate choice now? The concept of mate selection is too general, which varies from person to person, and everyone's requirements and preferences are different. < P > Question 4: What should a woman's correct concept of mate selection be? People under the age of 2 are men whose material character and family background can basically be good to her. < P > Question 5: What is the correct concept of choosing a spouse? As long as you persist, you can move towards hope. God has sent hope to everyone, but not everyone will cherish it, but I believe that only if you persist will you move towards hope, and the lucky one is one in ten thousand.

Question 6: What are the criteria for a girl to choose a spouse? Have a sense of responsibility, be self-motivated and have a good temper. Don't quarrel easily. In fact, the most important thing for a girl to choose a spouse is to be good to herself. Every girl wants to have a boy who can love herself wholeheartedly. Therefore, when a girl chooses a spouse, don't just think that he will be good to you by looking at his handsome appearance. The real thing is to love and love you from the heart. It is best to choose inner beauty.

Question 7: What are the criteria for choosing a spouse? When choosing a spouse, women often use "second-class disability" to describe short men, but now this word has long faded out of people's sight. In the past 15 years, China women's concept of choosing a spouse has become more and more practical, and men's height and appearance conditions have rarely been mentioned. Qian Mingyi, a psychology professor and doctoral supervisor in Peking University, paid more attention to age than height. A sample survey of female personals published in China Women magazine from 1985 to 2 showed that in terms of physiological conditions, the age of the other person was an important criterion for women to choose a spouse, ranking first in 1985 and 1995. However, women's requirements for men's height have gradually decreased in the past 15 years, and the order of attention to men's appearance is after 1. This may be due to the practical tendency of women's mate selection, that is, women pay more attention to men's personal and socio-economic conditions, while their attention to their physical conditions such as height has declined. However, women have always paid more attention to each other's health, and there has been no significant change in the past 15 years. In terms of social and economic conditions, women's reference rate to the other party's occupation and education requirements showed a downward trend in the past 15 years, but the ranking of the requirements for the other party's career showed an increasing trend. By the end of the 199s, it rose from the ninth place in 1985 to the second place. The change of mate selection criteria is a barometer of social, political, economic and cultural changes. Experts believe that in the early 198s, education and occupation directly reflected the level of personal income. After the 199s, the diversification of economic income and frequent occupational differentiation no longer directly reflected personal economic situation. In contrast, career is more related to social and economic status. Men with careers are more attractive to women and more secure in their married life. The increasing demand of female suitors for each other's property shows that women's mate selection has shown a trend of material benefits in the past 15 years. In terms of personality, women's requirements for each other's cultivation and personality are on the rise, and the ranking of personality has jumped to the first place in the late 199 s. It shows that women pay more attention to "people" while paying attention to "things". Personality and moral character have increasingly become the most important conditions for contemporary women to choose a spouse, which reflects women's pursuit of marriage stability. The requirements of marriage-seeking women for each other's marriage history have not changed, and the reference rate of the other's fertility status and family circumstances is also very low, which need to be further understood by the marriage-seeking people after meeting, so it is not involved in personals.

Question 8: What does aesthetics mean by my view of mate selection? Men and women have different views on mate selection. In fact, the number of ways a woman chooses a mate can be synchronized with her appearance, such as whether the other person is stable, what is her income, education, family background and personality, whether her job is stable or not, and whether her parents are in any situation. Men often focus on her looks and figure, so the requirements can be very low, and nothing can be required, just like it. A prince can find a beggar woman, so basically men need to change their outlook and stop judging people by their appearances.

question 9: what are your criteria for choosing a spouse? (A boy) Standard 1: Filial piety for the elderly < P > The most important quality of a woman should be kindness, and filial piety comes first in all the virtues. I don't know how many men in bad karma are suffering from the splint between their daughter-in-law and their own mother!

criterion 2: virtuous

this is an eternal female virtue.

Standard 3: Know the book and be courteous

This is the requirement for women to keep pace with the times in the new era. A woman's temperament and upbringing are the revelation of enriching her heart, and also the place to really distance herself from others.

standard 4: thoughtful and tasteful

Being thoughtful makes her disdainful to interfere in other people's gossip. She has always been an "insulator". Good taste enables her to express her style with originality. I can't stand that my wife can't walk when she sees anything. It's not that I'm poor, but that I can't get used to her!

standard 5: being sensible

the most important thing for a man is dignity. She can attack me at home, but she can't satirize or laugh at me in public. A woman who doesn't know how to protect her husband's dignity doesn't matter.

criterion 6: full trust and relative freedom

it is actually human instinct to like the new and dislike the old, and no one can guarantee that he will only have a good impression on one person all his life. All women who are going to get married in the world are advised to study Medical Psychology attentively, fully understand their husbands' hobby of gazing at beautiful women in pictorial and web pages, and don't be picky because of these subconscious behaviors, otherwise the marriage will be pushed to death. He wants to be alone for a while, don't ask questions, just send a cup of tea and close the door gently.

Criterion 7: Have a stable income

Only by living independently of men can women achieve independence and self-esteem.

standard 8: no excessive material desires

this is very important! Since ancient times, it has been from frugality to extravagance. Besides, her complacency and optimistic nature enable her to continue her youth. Excessive vanity often makes men who are not "rich" nervous and even overwhelmed. My daughter-in-law should be able to ride a BMW car and a bicycle; If you live in a five-star hotel, you don't dislike camping tents, and you can only be a master if you eat bitterness.

standard 9: refuse to be extravagant and not overly enthusiastic about the opposite sex

She has good living habits, smoking, drinking and all-night partying will not happen to her, and she will not kill time in bars and nightclubs. She knows that her value is not to please the opposite sex, so she won't take the initiative to strike up a conversation with other men. It is the spring snow that is high and widowed.

standard 1: innocence is a little childlike

if a man really likes a woman, he should take care of her innocence to the greatest extent. A woman who has not lost her childlike interest can make her long and boring eyes relatively enjoyable.

standard 11: like reading and music

like reading is not reading colorful fashion magazines, and like music is not a popular ditty that you forget after listening to it. Classic books and music can make the triviality of time and life unable to imprint on her mind.

Standard 12: Strong working ability and skill

Women at work obviously don't have much time to be suspicious. Having a skill will make her enjoy herself and control her emotions well.

standard 13: neither ugly nor too beautiful

of course, you must not be ugly or too beautiful, but the more you look at it, the more pleasing it is.

standard 14: good health

not only should you be healthy, but you should also know the way of keeping in good health and basic medical knowledge.

standard 15: romantic and interesting

it is also very important that married life is a colorful, interesting and dynamic world, and it is hard to imagine that a woman who is not romantic and interesting is a good wife.

ok, the above 15 standards should be complete. With such a woman, even if the sun and the moon are cold and the mountains and vegetation are exhausted, the light of marriage can still burn warmly at the beginning of memory, in any visible and unknowable corner.

question 1: what are the general criteria for choosing a spouse for girls now? tall, rich and handsome