When the Han people get married, what does it mean to "keep the door" at the bride's house? What are you doing?

The Han nationality has a long history of culture, and the Han nationality is the most populous ethnic group in the country. It is inevitable that there are differences in marriage customs between regions, provinces and cities. Here we will only talk about the Han marriage customs in Northeast China.

In Northeastern Han wedding customs, the wedding day is called the "primary day". Listening to these three words "normal day", if you are smart, you will definitely think that there is another day that is not a normal day! That’s it! This "official day" is usually decided by the groom's family, while the informal day is decided by the bride's family and is called "Hospitality Day" (KE pronounced three times). This hospitality day always takes three to four days in the morning.

On the reception day, the groom will stay at the bride’s house all day, accompanying the bride’s relatives and friends to have fun. Of course, the bride’s parents will have to book a banquet at the hotel on the same day, and entertain all the guests. guests, the bride at this time is considered to be married first. The groom and the groom put on beautiful dresses, toasted to every guest who came to congratulate them, and collected gifts from the bride’s family. The whole process included a master of ceremonies, a host, and guest representatives spoke. After a busy day has passed, the groom will leave his beloved and return to his home. This farewell will not be seen until the wedding day. During this period, the two of them cannot see each other.

On the wedding day, the two families started to get busy at six or seven o'clock in the morning. In rural areas it will be earlier. Because there is a saying of "grabbing the head". That means the sooner you get married, the better. You can live a better life than others.

When the wedding time is agreed upon in advance, the groom’s family’s car and people arrive at the bride’s home. This time is also discussed between the two families in advance, and some superstitious families find people who are good at divination and fortune-telling to designate it. Most of them choose a number between eight and nine, which symbolizes "wealth" and "longevity".

There are regulations on the number of people from the groom’s family who come to get married. Most of them are more than a dozen people, and the number must be an odd number. In this way, the bride will be an even number. Among these dozen people, the groom’s parents are not allowed to come in front of them. Come on, there must be a little boy and a little girl. They have a good name! Called boys and girls. Haha, I’m carrying a wedding dress for the bride. So cute!

Visitors from the groom’s family must bring: a piece of pig tenderloin, which is for the bride’s mother to eat, called “Li Niang Meat”, and a few green onions tied with red thread, which symbolizes life. Live life to the fullest. A red basin filled with scattered daily necessities is called a "cornucopia". Although we are in the Northeast, customs vary from region to region. In some places, the groom's family will bring extra things.

When we arrived at the door of the bride’s house, the bride had already dressed up at home and was sitting on her bed! The bed should be covered with a brand new quilt, and the bride sitting on it is called "sitting on the blessings", which means that the bride will sit firmly in the blessing pile before and after the wedding. The relatives of the bride's family should hold the door tightly on the inside to prevent the groom from entering. After giving the red envelope, you have to hear the groom shout "Dad, open the door" or "Mom, open the door" loudly before it can be opened! At this time, the lively atmosphere of the wedding begins. The relatives of the bride's family will tease the groom a bit, complaining about his low voice, lack of red envelopes, etc. In short, they must tease the groom enough before they are willing to let him in.

When the groom entered the house, he came with flowers in his hand, either roses or lilies. Anyway, the number must be nine. Nine or nineteen are acceptable. He will give flowers to the bride. This is interesting only now, because there is a lecture. If the groom or the bride talks to the other first, the one who speaks to the other will be controlled by the other. At this time, they all have to play some tricks. Haha, let the other party speak first.

After the flowers have been sent, the bride has to wash her face in the gold basin brought by someone from the groom’s family. There is a thick layer of silver coins in the wash basin and it is filled with water. Just make a few gestures to wash your face and hands. Then the little boy among his relatives would bring the water out and splash it out.

The married daughter throws away the water. From the beginning, the bride is from another family! As a girl, the sadness I feel at this moment is really hard to describe!

After that, the bride and groom will eat longevity noodles. The bride's family cooked two bowls of noodles and added poached eggs. At this time, eating long and smooth noodles means living a comfortable life and longevity for both of you. When eating, you feed me a mouthful, and I feed you a mouthful. But don’t just eat it! Be careful! The two of them are not allowed to be greedy about the noodles. They have to keep some of them for the bride's younger brother. Most of the time, the bride's younger brother comes up to grab them, and then eats all they eat himself. This saying is the joy for the younger brother to find a new man.

The next step is for the groom to salute his parents-in-law and light cigarettes. Haha, this traditional program is really beneficial to the groom! The father-in-law and mother-in-law will pack a heavy red envelope for the groom. Then there are trivial things like taking pictures, lighting cigarettes for relatives and friends, etc.

The next big project is to wait for the set time to come, marry a wife and go home! At this time, the bride is still sitting on her bed! She wants to wear red shoes to get married, and the red shoes have to be put on by the groom, but the red shoes are hidden by the big guys, and the groom has to find them by himself. If you can’t find it, take the red envelope! Or maybe the bride feels sorry for her husband and keeps giving him glances at where he is hiding. Haha, after putting on the red shoes, the groom can pick up his beautiful wife and go home! In some places, it is customary to put the same amount of money in the two old shoes that the bride has replaced, and let the bride's brother put them away when the bride gets up to leave. Visitors from the groom's family must also place some coins in the four corners of the quilt where the bride sits. It probably means good luck and good luck.

At this time, the number of people the bride’s family wants to send to the groom’s family varies from place to place. Heilongjiang does not pay attention to the number of people. (I don’t have time to go to Jilin to investigate, so I don’t know about Jilin. I hope there are friends in Jilin. You can tell) Liaoning will be in an even number, and there will be only a few of them, about a dozen people, following the convoy from the groom's family to the groom's house. The bride's brother is the one who must go and sit in the same car with the bride, which is called "pressing car". This custom of pressing cars can be found almost everywhere. Of course, there are also red envelopes for pressing the car! Besides the money given by parents to the bride and groom, this is the biggest red envelope in the wedding!

At this time, the girl is going to marry into another family. When parents are most concerned, although marriage marks the maturity of their daughter, it is always difficult to stop the sadness in the parents' hearts. Northeastern customs do not allow mothers to send their daughters off, but only fathers are allowed to go with them. This ancient order is very tricky, saying that if a mother gives her daughter away at this time, the daughter will be poor for the rest of her life. If the daughter cries at this time, it means sprinkling golden beans to her mother's family and making her mother's family rich. The girl will leave her parents and live with another family. Most of them cry. Haha, but there are also girls like that who are so overwhelmed by happiness that they don’t shed tears even if they squeeze hard! I think my parents’ hearts are so sour!

As soon as I could afford the wedding car, I arrived at my husband’s house.

Put flowers in the mother-in-law’s hair, and call the groom’s parents dad and mom instead. This is the first custom. Of course, this is all done with a red envelope, and the money in the red envelope also has a meaning. Most of them will choose a thousand and one yuan, which implies that the bride is selected by the husband's family. Of course, wouldn’t it be better to pick one out of ten thousand?

After entering the new house, the bride’s job is to eat first! Eating peanuts and jujubes has an obvious meaning! I believe everyone knows, yes! It means giving birth to a precious son early. Eating sweets will help you talk, and you should also eat some pasta to make your life more interesting (pasta is a fermented food) and so on. Then, all the boxes and cabinets had to be filled with piles of coins by family members from both sides. The wealth lies in the cabinet! That's a place to store treasures. How could it not be paved with money?

While the relatives and friends were making a fuss and teasing the bride and groom in the new house, the videos and photos also completed their tasks. When the scheduled time came, they went straight to the topic. Went to the hotel to hold a wedding celebration.

I believe what happens after this is similar across the country. The marriage certificate is read out, the groom and the bride are asked about their relationship, they both joke around and then they treat the guests to a nice meal. alright. The groom and the bride will take turns lighting cigarettes and toasting table by table. After going around a circle, I also collected the red envelope. The mood at this time is really that no matter how many guests there are, it’s not too much, and how many drinks to toast and cigarettes to order, it’s not too tiring!

The guests had eaten and drank well, and each one happily told the young couple to live a good life! Be humble and wait, then go home. The bride's family must return before twelve o'clock. Only some family members are left. It was almost evening at this time, and the family was getting more lively, and the bride was waiting to have a reunion dinner with her husband's family in the evening. It’s a happy reunion!

A day like this is considered a wedding. Haha, the whole process is just "tiring".

When the bride returns to her parents’ home three days later, she must leave early in the morning and return before the sun sets. If your natal family is far away, you should return to your natal family nine days after the wedding. This move is called "returning to the door".

Okay! This is where you can close the pen. You also followed me through the wedding process of the Northeastern Han people on paper. I won’t go into details about some specific little things, because they vary from region to region. The above are the most basic processes. I believe that people living in the Northeast or those who have attended a wedding in the Northeast can have a deep understanding of this.