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Pushing open the door of psychological clinic is not to "sell" readers to see psychologists, but to open our hearts and understand psychology through reading, enhance our concern and awareness of our own mental health, and get some "ways to save ourselves" from it. In our view, psychology is a complex and profound knowledge, which is obscure. However, this book shows us the reasons behind various phenomena from the story. Professionals will have knowledge after reading, and ordinary people will have spiritual understanding after reading. The flesh and blood are different, and we are all equal in pain and happiness. Everyone has his own pain and happiness. We will see our own shadow from their stories and even gain some energy for the future.

In life, each of us is in a variety of complex interpersonal relationships, including many tiring emotional relationships. It may be because of injuries, personality characteristics, living environment, personal experience and other reasons that I fell into this self-predicament. A more and more serious situation like this will not only affect the present life, but also gradually lose the courage to live in the future.

Dementia, officer. The 40-year-old army lieutenant colonel retired and once had an enviable position and a happy family. However, due to dementia, his personality gradually changed, becoming indifferent and his language expression was not smooth. Slowly, his performance can never satisfy his partner, and gradually he has contradictions and dissatisfaction, which affects his feelings. Years have washed away youth and passion, and his appearance is much older than his actual age, full of burnout and indifferent to everything. Obviously, like two marathon runners, the starting point is the same, but one runs the whole horse and the other runs half a horse, and the end point is doomed to be different. Over time, it has become a luxury for lovers to please each other or be flattered by each other. In fact, a person's life is very long, and there will be many changes between lovers. Learning to understand and tolerate in feelings will make feelings last longer.

Guitarist Xiuge. I have a girlfriend (26 years old) who is 0/4 years younger than him. He is very upset. Because there are always quarrels over trivial matters, such as urinating. He felt that a 26-year-old woman should be mature and shouldn't be so troublesome, so she quarreled and refused to give in, but she didn't think it was worth breaking up. Later, during the performance, I met a girl who could not sleep for three days. He said this is a 100% girl, but it is a novelty. Although he is 40 years old and should be mature, he is not mature. He didn't realize that there is a need for concessions in feelings, and sometimes girls need to be coaxed rather than reasonable. All 100% relationships need the efforts of both parties, and 100% lovers will gradually lose points if they get along for a long time. How to keep the score within a certain range is what we need to work hard.

Juvenile termites I like lingerie. Someone stole underwear to give him, and he was afraid, afraid and uneasy. Later caused a series of reactions. Without a job, I lost my mind and was killed by a car on the road. On the surface, people may think that this is an ordinary story, but it is very sad to know the real situation behind it. Termite is not a monster. He doesn't want to be a woman. He just wants to feel safe from ladies' underwear. And this hobby is not what he wants, but the shadow brought by his childhood mother. Stealing underwear is certainly wrong, but the photographer should never have thought that her behavior and games would kill a teenager. In fact, everyone has their own pain. When you don't know the real situation, you shouldn't judge blindly and unilaterally. You shouldn't be a keyboard man who hides in the dark and throws stones at others under the umbrella of the Internet.

Probably no friends. Making friends is a worldwide problem, and Mei thinks so. She is a woman with long hair and light maturity. She is 29 years old. After studying abroad, she worked in a trading company. She is very capable and gets paid quickly. It should be a happy life, but she is anxious about making friends. She feels that she is passive in making friends. It seems that there are many people around her in the excellent gas field, but it is not what she wants. Communicate with people around you, usually not on the same channel. They have different values and often talk a lot. She is anxious and has no friends of her own. In fact, people are such complex creatures that no one will be completely in tune with you, even relatives. True friends are hard to come by, so there is no need to force them. All you want to get along with, understand you, and don't force yourself to be friends, so you don't have to force yourself to maintain a false friendship. Besides, friendship, like love, is hard to find. There are many difficult days and many roads in the future, and you need to go by yourself. Learning to be alone is sometimes a way. Of course, although it is rare, it is not without it. She may be on her way, just like sending a message to a pony who likes Mei.

Compulsive personality supervision. The supervisor is 45 years old and works as a supervisor in an optoelectronic company. He has a "death notebook", so called because there are many trips in the notebook and the time and place are very strict. You must follow the plan strictly, without any mistakes, any flexibility and no room. This kind of behavior will certainly have some benefits, but it will inevitably have negative effects in interpersonal relationships. At this time, some changes are needed. We must realize that human life is essentially a lonely thing, but it is not an independent existence, and it is always related to other lives. Therefore, in the group, it is necessary to flexibly and appropriately change the fixed mode and give some flexibility. Sometimes, flexibility is given not to relax, but to breathe.

The mother of a child who refuses to go to school. I believe that every mother has worried about her children's schooling more or less, and it will be difficult for any child to leave a free, warm and happy family to go to campus. Facing the anxiety of separation, at first they will cry in the simplest and most effective way to gain sympathy. Later, they pretended to be ill to stop the pace of going to school. Mothers also began to worry, using various methods, but it never worked. Why is this? Mothers can actually understand their children's mentality by recalling their childhood appearance and their mentality of not wanting to go to work now. As a mother of children, you should fully trust children and teachers. They can live well without you. Although the child cried for a short time when he left, once he was completely separated, everything would be fine. Learn to gradually adapt children to the situation that their mother is not around, and give them more confidence in getting along with the world.

Ajie's horrible lover. Jay, an athlete. Standard figure, good face. In the eyes of girls, it is a natural dish, and she has talked about more than 20 loves in college. Among many ex-girlfriends, there are horrible lovers who are still fresh in their memories. By chance, one day my girlfriend found a photo of her ex-girlfriend in Ajie's mobile phone, and then the mobile phone was found in the toilet the next day. After quarreling, there is a risk of breaking up. My girlfriend took out a knife and scratched her wrist three times. Later, she repeatedly became suspicious, threatened, committed suicide, made peace and paid compensation. Later, after quietly leaving, Ajie always received photos of his girlfriend jumping off a building, which was more thrilling every time. After finally ignoring it for three months, the threat disappeared. Judging from this incident, Ajie inside must be frightened, but from the perspective of his girlfriend, she has borderline personality disorder. She doesn't really want to die, but is eager to find a sense of security in this way. Another girl also has borderline personality disorder. I think her parents' marriage failed, and her mother's wrist cutting had an influence on her. So that later she used a similar way to attract others' attention and committed suicide to keep a man and continue a relationship, but it was not a good idea, or even counterproductive. For such patients, it is difficult to change their personalities, and it should be effective to help them learn how to deal with their emotions.

Suicide commandos. In the group therapy room, there are five people, a little brother, a middle-aged man, an old man, a mature woman and an aunt. It is hard to imagine that they all committed suicide, some may have committed suicide once, and some may have committed suicide more than a dozen times. They were surprised when they talked freely about the causes and ways of suicide. On the one hand, I feel that some people's decision to commit suicide is hasty, on the other hand, I feel that everyone has their own difficulties. Indeed, many people commit suicide not because they want to die, but because they don't know how to live. But the way to get rid of pain is not necessarily self-termination. I hope everyone in trouble can find a cure.

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It's a small theater, with a mixed drama, a place where wounds heal, and a club that welcomes people to laugh and keep warm. It's like a shopping mall. There are many merchants in the shopping mall, and the goods are dazzling. A poster is posted at the entrance of the mall, with the heads of various businesses indicating the services they provide, so that you can know where you should go. I hope that every customer (reader) who goes out from here can get some energy. From here on, pay attention to your mental health and gain the ability of self-analysis, self-control and self-healing through continuous learning. Although many scenery in life is fleeting, we can still have the night even if we miss the dusk.