What's it like not being with the person you like?

Needless to say, it must be very painful. This feeling is especially uncomfortable for people who have a secret love or can't be together for some reason. Moreover, these two feelings are not the same. The first is because I am embarrassed to express my feelings or because I understand that two people can't be depressed and disappointed. The second is the pain and helplessness of two people who can be together but have to be separated because of realistic conditions.

The taste of unrequited love is extremely unpleasant, because that person is clearly in front of you, but you can't tell him. Isn't there a saying that the furthest distance in the world is not between life and death, but that you don't know I love you when I stand in front of you? Really, this feeling is like a big stone weighing on your heart, making you breathless. Every day, you are anxious about whether to confess to him or not, worrying that he will not accept it. He had already found a girlfriend when you hesitated. Well, you are completely hopeless, because you don't want to be the third party of others, so the rest of the feeling is regret and loss. I regret not telling him earlier. I regret being weak, but it's too late to say anything. You can only watch them fly together.

The second situation is the most uncomfortable, because two people clearly love each other but have to bow to reality. When they were in love, they said, "I don't care if you have money, I don't care about your family situation, I don't care about your past, I just want you." Actually, it's all empty talk Now this society is so realistic. No money, no future. What's the use of falling in love? Can you live a good life by falling in love? Can't love be defeated by reality? If you live a life without living security, will you still be dead set on following him? Of course, I don't want to generalize, but most people will bow to reality. The furthest distance in the world is not that you don't know I love you when I stand in front of you, but that you know you love each other but can't be together.

I have a college classmate. He and his partner are both my hometown. He complained to me the other day that the two of them broke up, and he mentioned it himself. Because the woman is from the city, her mother's basic requirement for him is to have a house, a car and a deposit in the city. In fact, this request is not too much. Parents will think of their children in this way, and her mother's requirements are not high, which is the most basic guarantee requirement for a family. But the problem is that my classmate is only from the county seat, and there is not much deposit at home. And now the real estate prices in the city are more than 10 thousand square meters. As a college student, what can he do for her? Her mother's request will be close to 1 10,000 anyway. What can he do to meet them? So, they broke up, and he felt that he couldn't give her a future. Since then, he refused to fall in love, and has been desperately looking for a part-time job and studying hard, just to get her back and have a brighter future for them.

Being unable to be with the person you like is a kind of torture and powerlessness to yourself. Therefore, we should try to change ourselves when we can still catch up, so as to have a better posture to find the person we like.