Men's extramarital affairs are mostly motivated by sex.

Today I present a letter from a male perspective.

The letter is very long and detailed, describing the psychology of a married man when he meets a girl he likes and how to catch up with her step by step. Although some of his practices are inappropriate or appropriate. But if a mature and high-quality married man has the heart to pursue an inexperienced girl, it is probably only a matter of time before he succeeds.

When reading, I hope you can learn more experience and understand the psychology behind some men's behaviors, so that you will not be confused in the relationship between men and women.

My story is very long and lasted for four years until March 3, 20201. I think detailed memories can be better put down. Anyway, my story is: A married love rat University teacher cheated a girl for four years.

I'm not wrong. I go my own way.

I am a university teacher, born in 1980s, with a well-proportioned figure and six abdominal muscles. I am handsome. I can't say that I am comparable to a star, but I can say one detail: taking photos with relatives and friends during the festival. As long as I am exposed to friends by relatives, friends and colleagues of relatives often say that your nephew is really handsome and your brother is really handsome.

This is not to show off, this factor is the basis of this relationship, otherwise I wouldn't fall in love with my uncle after 95 who is 10 years older than myself.

As for her, introduce her slowly in your memory.

I had my first class in their class on February 20 16. When I walked past them to the podium, I clearly heard a sentence: so handsome! However, I don't know who said that.

After the class started, I learned who the monitor was according to the regular process. Because I had to collect my homework, I found that the monitor was one of the girls sitting at the back door table, that is, the girl I loved in my life, but it was not love at first sight. My first reaction at that time was that it was not appropriate for the monitor to sit in the back.

She is quite tall and has big eyes, which is "big and beautiful eyes" in the words of my female colleague. She has long legs and is thin. Later, she learned that the weight should not exceed 100 kg. I also know in my heart that she is my favorite type, because my wife is also this type, tall, with long legs and big eyes.

This relationship lasted for a month, and in May, when there was no class, I began to miss her. I know in my heart that good feelings have turned into likes. At this time, I didn't hesitate like other love rat, and I didn't have any moral concerns. This is my style of doing things, willful.

Here, it's time to talk about my family, because many infidelities in love rat are caused by unhappy marriages and unhappy families, but my family is not like this. I also know that for me, this place is worse than love rat. My wife and I met before we entered the university, and we got together. I was her first love. We chose different universities because of our different professional pursuits, but we always loved each other until I left Shanghai to study for several years. She also waited for me at ease. After the master's degree, we got married.

She has a daughter after marriage and is currently in primary school. There is no contradiction between my mother-in-law and Weng Xu. Our family is very harmonious, at the level of love, because I have been with her for too long. After the daughter is born, there is no love, only affection. Frankly speaking, she gives me more sense of partnership, taking my daughter together and taking care of the elderly.

This kind of feeling came into being when I met the monitor, but my daughter was born without love. When she met the monitor, she went to kindergarten. I resigned before I met the monitor, because I also had many friends and brothers. After marriage, everyone feels basically the same.

Because I know I like the monitor and I want to be with her. To tell the truth, I didn't expect her to agree to stay with me at that time. On the one hand, I fantasized that if she wanted to be with me, we would eat together and chat on WeChat, but I didn't expect men to love women. I clearly remember the first non-academic thing I said to her: "Do you like Eason Chan?" "He is very handsome." Her desktop is Eason.

But until the end of this course, I had no contact with her except my mobile phone, so I didn't have any personal contact with her. I'm not sentimental, I'm thinking about how to chase her.

After this class, they have another class in their grade to visit other places. Because I taught the class that started on February 29th, I naturally continued to attend their class. This course is called class, but as everyone knows, it's just fun. This class has four classes in one grade. It depends on a competent teacher to contact the study place, accommodation and transportation, and three other teachers to help with three classes. I am a competent teacher, in charge of everything.

Before I left, I told one of my best male colleagues, Han, who also taught their class, that I had a good eye, introduced some information about her, and said that I would help me chase her.

Basically, the two of us show students around during the day and play cards or board games in the monitor's room at night. When we returned to the room, nine out of ten sentences were about her. It is customary to visit relatives in previous years. The teacher invited the secretary of the League branch of Class 4 monitor to dinner at his own expense. This meal is usually a light meal and won't cost much.

But this year, I have my own ideas. This is my first chance to have dinner with her. I want to eat better, so on the penultimate night after the investigation, I invited teachers and class cadres to have a round table in a hotel in the city. Both the teacher and the students drank wine, and my capacity for alcohol was ok. That night, I played several rounds of respect. She can't drink, but the wine is as good as mine, so she is drunk.

Later, I went to see her in her room at night, and my classmates told me that she vomited in the bathroom for a long time last night. During the chat, I told them a meaningful story that belongs to our time, that is, the story of Journey to the West-the daughter country. I said my understanding: Tang Yan likes the king of his daughter country, and his sentence "If there is an afterlife" clearly shows his intention. He was moved, but he was inspired by the precepts and rules.

Later, on the subway, I suddenly received a short message from her, thanking me for my hard work in arranging this inspection. My answer is: "Monitor, do you still remember the story I told you about Tang Priest and the king of the daughter country?" She said she remembered. I said, "Actually, I feel the same way about you." This is my formal confession to her, and her reply is a performance of hard work. Then I said, "If you don't feel well, you can go back to school and ask for leave." She sprained her waist while climbing the mountain. She said thank you and ended my confession.

Later, Han told me that he secretly sent her a message to remind her to thank me for my hard work. July 1 becomes the anniversary that my monitor and I celebrate every year. After returning to Shanghai, we had classes for two days, but she came anyway. There is nothing wrong with her waist and her mood has not changed.

After the last day of class, that is, the day before summer vacation, I told her not to go back after class and wait for me in the classroom for a while. I approached her from the podium and asked her what she thought. She said, "I have an age limit for finding a boyfriend, and the difference cannot exceed 2 years." "Oh, your reason is very good, and I can't solve it." This is my response, very helpless. Then I asked her waist and told her to go back.

But during the summer vacation, I couldn't help chatting with her on WeChat 1-2 hours every day or two. March 3 1 From the beginning to the end of our relationship, we have a lot to say. We have been together for four years, which is an important factor for us to get into it.

Through the usual chat, I know that she has to take a bus for half an hour every week during the summer vacation to do a part-time job in early childhood education. I think she is a girl who can bear hardships. During the summer vacation, I went abroad on business. Because her WeChat name is Zebra, I bought a horseshoe pendant necklace as a gift.

The day after I returned to China, I found her part-time organization according to her WeChat circle of friends. When I went, she had just finished class. She didn't see me at first, but she turned around and saw me sitting in the organization. She's calm. It was very hot that day. She wears hot pants and flip-flops, and her long legs are beautiful. Then she packed her teaching AIDS after class, and then I accompanied her to lunch.

She still doesn't want to accept me. She also said that her former high school classmates and teachers had a bad reputation for falling in love. Finally, I took out the horseshoe necklace and told her that it was a gift I carefully selected abroad. She reluctantly accepted it, but she wouldn't let me wear it for her.

After 7.3 1, I was in pain. I clearly remember that I had a dream that year. In my dream, I sat by the river. She and her best friend came up behind me and patted me on the head. I asked her, "Do you agree?" She smiled sweetly. When I woke up, I found that I actually had no chance, and the huge loss contrast increased the pain.

So I invited two of my best colleagues, Han and X, the female teacher who praised her for her "big eyes and good looks". I told them about this period of time, and they all thought I was a family dish for a long time and wanted to eat for a change. Since I want to eat so much, I'll eat. If I can't eat, I keep thinking. If you are really tired of eating, you will naturally want to eat home-cooked dishes. Besides, X gave me an idea to approach her again. At that time, X and I made a small company. Now, we can turn the monitor into a person. Student legal persons can get entrepreneurial funding at the school level.

So on the first day of school, our three teachers and the monitor had lunch together in the student canteen. She agreed when we talked about it. After a month of school, because the company is small and the class is small, we gradually got in touch. During this period, we basically resumed the regular WeChat chat. One night, I said "I want to hear your voice" at the end of the chat, and she sent me a "good night". This is our first affair.

Not long after, I asked her to meet in a cafe near the school. She did not refuse. After class in the evening, she came to the cafe as promised. On that day, the stars shone and the moon hung in the sky. We sat at an outdoor table and found that we didn't like coffee and ordered Paris water. I asked her what our relationship was that day, and she said it was a little more ambiguous than the normal teacher-student relationship. If the relationship between teachers and students is flat, we will be a building block taller.

I was very happy that day, and it felt good to be alone with her in the evening breeze. From that moment on, I began to enjoy being 20 years old again. I didn't want to have fun from the beginning. I really like it.

1 1 later, I officially asked her out. We went to an online celebrity restaurant with a slide on South Shaanxi Road. I held her hand when crossing the street. She is very exclusive and doesn't agree. On the way back to school, we talked about the future development, but she refused to move forward.

1 1 In June, she passed the teacher qualification examination. I said we could celebrate. She said yes, I asked her where she was going, and she gave me an unexpected answer: 3354 playground. I wore a horseshoe necklace for her at noon that day.

It was already evening after leaving the playground, and we went to the spicy house together. Our favorite food is Sichuan hot pot, and our least favorite food is light coconut chicken hot pot.

I touched her hand when I helped her off the roller coaster that day. She wouldn't let go. I take her downstairs at night. In the car, I tried to hold her hand, but she still refused. Not long after, I asked her to go to the movies. At that time, it was widely rumored on the internet that non-couples and men would be together after watching it together. In Makoto Shinkai, this is your name. I also told her about the strange function of this movie.

After dinner in the evening, I said to her, "I want to be with you and hold your hand." Think about it. If you are willing to accept me, wear a blue skirt in my class in four days. "She said she would seriously consider it.

In the next few days, we chatted on WeChat, and the more we talked, the more we called. One night before class, we met in a cafe near the school, and I made a "final statement". I told her that I was very happy at that time, and everything I didn't regret afterwards was worth doing. Would you like to go to Happy Valley with me? She said she was happy. Is she happy eating hot pot? Happy, do you regret it? No regrets.

The next morning, I got to the classroom early. I saw her wearing a sky-blue sweater today. It was 12.9, which became the most important day in our memory every year.

I invited her to my office that day. As soon as I entered the office, I closed the door and couldn't wait to hold her hand. I said to her, "Let's practice first." The unique shyness of a 20-year-old girl is like a deer running against the sunshine in spring. 7. 1 After the confession of the subway, the torture of more than five months finally got a beautiful result, which is also the sweet beginning of our four years.

After that, we often go out on dates, Xujiahui Joy City. She likes my appearance, figure and mature temperament.

Our relationship has warmed up rapidly during this period, but intimacy is limited to holding hands. I have to say that I began to have the impulse to go beyond chatting and dating, so I proposed to go to Changzhou for two days with my monitor, Mr. X and Mr. C (employees of a small company), which is considered as the company's annual meeting. I specially took her to buy a swimsuit and went to the dinosaur park to soak in a hot spring.

The first day, I went to the hot spring. She wore a black and white polka-dot bikini and tied her hair. She discovered her unique sweet gender for the first time. After leaving the hot spring, we went to the hotel. After four people settled in a room, we went to the box of a nearby restaurant for dinner.

After walking back to the hotel, her stomach was very upset. I sent her into the room and covered her stomach with a hot towel that was about to boil, which gradually made her feel better. I took the opportunity to kiss her on the cheek for the first time. Instead of resisting, she ignored me. I coaxed her for about 1 hour, during which she still didn't resist. I also touched her chest through my clothes and didn't resist.

I told her: I'm not leaving tonight. She disagreed, saying that she had never slept with anyone except her father. I said, "If you are a virgin, I will leave now. If not, I won't leave. " She said she was a virgin. I said you were so beautiful that you used to have a boyfriend. Isn't it? She told me that on the one hand, her previous relationship didn't last more than a year, on the other hand, she didn't have a chance before.

I was a little surprised at that time, and I didn't want her to give it to me for the first time, because we didn't have any results. I expected that she would get married and have children after graduation, so I suggested, "I still want to sleep with you tonight, but I won't change your virginity." She didn't agree at first, but finally agreed after more than an hour of hard work.

From eleven o'clock to four o'clock in the morning, we kissed her and touched her all over, but we didn't take off our clothes and pants. I talked to her all night in my pajamas and kissed her all night. I kept my promise not to have sex with her, even though we have reached the stage where we can possess each other physically and psychologically.

The next day we returned to Shanghai. I took her home last night, had lunch and discussed her feelings. I asked her, "Did you have a good time last night?" She said, "It's not fun, it's enjoyment."

One day after Valentine's Day, we went to a hotel and I became her first man. Since then, our relationship has developed rapidly. We have been warm in various places, looking for opportunities to be together and travel. We have been to Chengdu to see the giant panda, Hangzhou to see the West Lake, and when we arrive at the hotel, we always go out to eat or visit the scenic spots. This kind of life is sweet and happy.

The happiest time was when we were in Sanya during the summer vacation. Go to Sanya to do the project three days in advance. Three days later, I met her at the airport. She saw me running and jumped into my arms. In fact, when we met at the station, she jumped into my arms, except driving her and occasionally taking the bus or subway. This feeling is really precious, and she has paid herself for it.

After I picked her up, we went to the seaside after dinner. We stood in the sea and kissed freely. The whole beach was just the two of us hugging each other. In the evening, we live in a room with a bathtub. The next day, we went to Wuzhizhou and ate Sichuan hot pot. She also sent a circle of friends with food photos, but this photo caused our first breakup.

Paper can't wrap fire, because we often don't live in dormitories. Our story was discovered by her roommate before the summer vacation, and there were some discussions at school. Her roommate told her sister after seeing her circle of friends. A few days after we returned to Shanghai, I got a call from her sister asking me to leave her sister. The night after receiving the call, we broke up in a Japanese restaurant. After experiencing the sweetness of Sanya, we were about to leave. We cried, I asked her. She said "yes". That was the first time we broke up.

Not long after this breakup, we got in touch again and continued until she graduated. At this stage, we basically go to the hotel for a date every week, and we will also seriously celebrate our anniversary and each other's birthday.

Before graduation, I was the instructor of her graduation thesis. I often instruct her thesis in the hotel and have close contact with her. At this stage, we also had an in-depth conversation. We both know that it is impossible to be together in the end. I can't let my daughter be so young without a father, and she never said that she wanted me to divorce her, because on the one hand, I couldn't do it at that time, and on the other hand, her family is very traditional and won't accept a divorced son-in-law whose first marriage daughter is in her teens. We agreed to break up after graduation.

But after the graduation ceremony, we haven't separated yet, and our feelings are too deep. We can only try to gradually reduce our meeting, and finally we are separated by indifference, but until March 3, 20201,we were not separated by indifference.

Because of her age, the pressure at home is increasing, and her sister, who is one year older than her, even got a marriage certificate. In June 5438+last year 10, she told her parents that she was introduced to a civil servant. We broke up, but we got back together soon.

I am very happy, although I know there will be new blind date, but I think as long as such people appear again, we really have to separate.

After about three months of recovery, she told me that she contacted the civil servants again, and this time we really broke up. It was March 3 1 day, 2020, and I first met her from February 29, 20 16, that is, four years ago.