The second-married boyfriend has no car, no house and a son (married to a second-married man with a son)

Lead: Many girls always ignore each other when making boyfriends, regardless of their family conditions and marriage history. They blindly believe that as long as they love that person, they also blindly believe that the power of love is great and can overcome many difficulties and hardships, so girls in love walk into marriage with blind vision. If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer ahead. Xiaohui's experience embodies this sentence incisively and vividly.

Xiaohui's story 0 1

I am Xiaohui. I met Ahai the day I graduated from college. A dozen of our classmates went to celebrate graduation, sang K, drank red wine and ate midnight snack. Everyone had a good time, and before we knew it, it was getting late. Later, the students all dispersed separately. Because my roommate was lovelorn after graduation, I sat with her in the snack bar by the river for a long time. At this moment, we bumped into her distant cousin, A Hai. Ahai saw that we two girls were not safe outside, so she sent us back to school.

When I got up the next day, I was under great pressure to find a job, but Ahai added my WeChat at this time. I took a look, and my roommate pushed my WeChat to him, and I passed. My brain is searching quickly. Did I leave anything in his car last night?

Just passed the verification, Ahai invited us to dinner at noon to celebrate graduation and sent me an address. Thinking that he sent us back to school at midnight last night, I agreed. At noon, I arrived at the appointed place, and Ahai waited very gentlemanly. My roommate said that I couldn't come because of something temporary, so I had a meal with Ahai alone, which deepened my impression. Ahai is not handsome, of medium build and humorous, which makes me very happy.

He told me directly that he runs an education company with an annual income of about 200,000. He has a private house in the city and lives with his parents. He also said that he had been divorced for a year, his ex-wife cheated on him, and now he has a three-year-old son. He liked me at first sight and asked me if I could give him a chance to get along with him and see if it was appropriate.

In the face of sudden confession, I am a little at a loss. I told him I would think about it.

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Before I could reply, Ahai invited me to see a movie, go to a suburban farmhouse, go to a water park and so on. After seeing him several times, I think I'm interested in him, too. He is a gentleman, humorous and often makes me happy. I feel relaxed with him.

During the summer vacation, several friends of Ahai made an appointment to go to the seaside by car. Ahai invited me to go with him, and I really wanted to go on a graduation trip, so I joined them. When I arrived at my destination, I found that all his friends came out to play with their girlfriends or wives, so everyone thought I was Ahai's girlfriend.

I stayed in a hotel at night and arranged for me to share a room with Ahai, so we talked for a long time that night, and then what happened.

Later, I was officially with Ahai. He took me to play all summer, and I delayed looking for a job. He said that being his girlfriend doesn't need to find a job.

It's really fun to be with Ahai. I ignored the fact that he had a son. He said that his parents were taking care of his son, so he didn't need to worry. I think he is like an unmarried man, not bound by anything.

After a year together, Ahai intends to marry me. I told my parents the basic situation of Ahai, and my parents didn't agree with me to marry the second married man, especially since he had a son. My parents told me that being someone else's stepmother is very hard and they don't want me to suffer.

I have been persuading my parents that I said that Ahai's son was brought by his parents, so I don't have to worry about it. After giving birth, he will take care of the children by himself, regardless of the son of him and his ex-wife.

However, my parents still didn't agree to my marriage with Ahai. I took the household registration book in a rage and went to get a marriage certificate with Ahai, so my parents had to let me go.

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After getting married, I also moved to Ahai's house to live with my in-laws. My parents-in-law left Ahai's son in my care. They said that since I married Ahai, I should learn to play the role of stepmother.

I said I didn't know how to take care of the child, so they taught me to feed him, bathe him, put him to bed and so on. In order to have a better relationship with Ahai, I also learned it, but that boy often bullied me and even made me cry even if he didn't listen to me.

I told Ahai that I was going out to rent a house and didn't want to live with the elderly and children, but he said I couldn't leave my son alone. Before long, my mother-in-law was ill, and my father-in-law had to take care of her. I didn't have time to take care of Ah Hai's son, so Ah Hai and I had to take care of his son.

Wherever we go, we will take a child with us. Take him with you when you eat, go shopping and watch movies, and take him with you when you sleep at night. We don't even have a married life, and we're afraid to wake him up. Plus, we are too tired to take care of the children and have no passion.

One weekend, my classmates asked me to go shopping. I went out to play all day. Come back at night, Ahai scolds me. He said that I left my sick child at home alone and went out to play by myself, which forced him to work and take care of the child. I told him angrily that I didn't know the child was ill, and that it wasn't my child. Why should I report shopping?

I didn't expect Ahai to be angry because I said this. He said I didn't give birth to the baby, so I don't care. In that case, let me leave this house. I didn't pay for their family anyway.

I filed for divorce in a rage and he agreed. He said he didn't want his son to be his own woman. I also made it clear that you can't treat other people's children as your own. In this way, we divorced.

One month after the divorce, I found myself pregnant for two months, and my parents advised me to abort the child. I married the wrong man because I listened to my parents tomorrow, so this time I listened to my parents and took the child away.

Conclusion: Most college students who just walked out of the ivory tower are hard to escape from A Hai, a veteran of second marriage. At first they put a low profile and held the girls like princesses. Not accepting it does not affect them to continue to ask girls out to play. They even give girls a wrong image. They live very chic, have money and leisure, and seem to be out of touch with the world, which completely conforms to the fantasy of innocent girls. Chasing a female college student is also their vanity as men.

However, once they get married, their true colors will be revealed, and most of them will lead a similar life after marriage. As long as it is their child and who gave birth to it, they will not care too much, as long as someone takes care of it.

Parents are experienced people, and they are all bloody lessons summed up with pain and tears. If young girls want to live a good life, they still have to listen to their parents' advice. After all, there is no regret medicine in the world.