Is Suide’s bride price of 300,000 yuan high?

Is Suide’s bride price of 300,000 yuan high?

A gift of 300,000 yuan should be very high for us here, because we usually pay about 200,000 yuan. Suide may have such a high betrothal gift because of his relatively high income, because these things are determined based on living conditions.

Some of them are because their family conditions are very good, such as those who start their own companies and have a lot of money. In order to show off their wealth, some are given 500,000 or 600,000.

It seems that these are related to local customs and habits. Below I will excerpt some wedding customs and habits, you can take a look.

． The concept of marriage and its changes. The main ethnic groups in Qixian County include Han and Hui. The traditional marriage custom of the Han people is that a woman marries her husband's family and lives with the man for life. That is, the man takes the woman as his wife and the woman takes the man as his family. This is commonly known as taking a wife. Those who remarry after losing their wives midway are called remarrying or remarrying, and those who remarry after losing their husbands midway are called remarriage. There are also people who get divorced and choose another marriage, but most of them are men marrying women. Another form is that a man lives with his wife for life, which is called a bride-in-law or a son-in-law. As the saying goes, the man is called a bride-in-law. This usually occurs when the woman's family has no brothers, few sisters, and lack of labor force. , also known as recruiting a son-in-law for retirement. There are also cases where the widowed husband does not want to remarry and marries a man to live in the original husband's home to support his children and old age. This is similar to marrying into a wife, but this form is rare. Male-to-female family members are often discriminated against, and this will never be the case unless the male partner is unable to marry or for other special reasons.

In the 1990s, with the progress of social civilization and the people gradually getting rid of the shackles of old feudal ideas, the concept of marriage has undergone fundamental changes. Marriage phenomena such as finger-tip marriage, marriage exchange, and transfer of relatives no longer exist. The number of young men and women falling in love freely and marrying independently is gradually increasing. Generally, they are introduced by relatives, friends, and neighbors. After the man and woman get to know each other, understand each other, and feel satisfied, they gradually establish a romantic relationship and become a love partner. There are still a few people who practice free love, and even fewer people seek marriage through the news media (mostly older men and women). After 1995, more and more people in rural areas went out to work, young men and women had more opportunities to have contact outside the home, and more and more people started to fall in love freely. Usually after the man and woman negotiate, they find an acquaintance as an introducer and then register the marriage, but there are also cases of unmarried cohabitation. While registering marriages, all towns and villages actively publicize the party's family planning policy, publicize eugenics, late marriage and late childbearing, in order to control population growth, improve the quality of the population, and form a good new trend of marriage and childbirth in the whole society. Governments at all levels also actively encourage men to settle in women's households, and rural men who settle in women's households can be given priority in granting homestead land. After 2002, marriage registration was no longer handled by each township, but was handled by the county civil affairs bureau.

Divorce and remarriage will no longer face discrimination from the people around you. People have changed the old concept of "if you marry a chicken, follow the chicken, if you marry a dog, follow the dog" and so on, and move towards the freedom of marriage. If the couple's relationship has truly broken down and mediation has failed, after both parties have negotiated on issues such as child support and property division, they can go to the marriage registration department or the township judicial office to handle divorce procedures with their marriage certificate and a letter of introduction from their employer. There are also very few villagers who fake divorce in order to avoid family planning penalties. The bad feudal custom of non-intermarriage between the Hui and Han ethnic groups has been greatly improved, and the number of people intermarrying with each other is increasing day by day.

2． Wedding customs and their changes. In the old customs, when a man and a woman get married, they have to go through etiquette such as mentioning (talking to) a matchmaker, fixing a matchmaker (i.e. exchanging marriage certificates), sending off (i.e. agreeing on a wedding date), marrying, visiting the church, returning home and other etiquettes. However, all procedures are completely handled by the parents, and the male and female parties have no right to interfere. , you must strictly abide by the orders of your parents and the words of the matchmaker, otherwise you will be regarded as unruly. Nowadays, rural youth generally start talking about marriage when boys are 18 to 19 years old and girls are 16 to 17 years old.

Mention (talk about) matchmaking. Professional matchmakers usually take the initiative to "acquire work", matchmaking between men and women, and receive varying amounts of rewards. Some matchmakers are entrusted by the man or woman with adult beauty.

Financial matchmaking is divided into small meetings and big meetings. A small meeting is the first meeting between a man and a woman arranged by a matchmaker, with both parents present. During the big meeting, both men and women gather their relatives to discuss the marriage (at the woman's home), and the man has to give the woman a certain amount of money for the meeting (also called betrothal gift, betrothal gift, and wedding gift). In the old customs, men and women exchange birth dates with each other. After divination confirms that the fate of both parties is consistent and not mutually exclusive, the man will prepare various amounts of money and gifts as betrothal gifts, and the woman will accept the gifts to calculate the engagement (commonly known as the exchange of gifts). In the past, some people started getting engaged at the age of fifteen or sixteen or even earlier. Nowadays, although Geng Tie is no longer written, the man must buy clothes for the woman and give her a box gift, and the woman must give the man four small items in return.

Once a marriage is committed, there is no going back on it. If the woman regrets and wants to return the bride price, and the man regrets it, it will be difficult to return the bride price. From then on, the man would go to the woman's home to visit relatives every year and festival, and bring certain gifts to the woman.