The beginning and end of 28 years of a wrong life

In the early morning of June 15, 1992, I felt a pain in my stomach. Because I was inexperienced with my first child, I thought it would be born soon, so I hurried to the hospital. I ran in front alone, with my parents chasing after me. Slow down, slow down, and ran all the way to Henan University Huaihe Hospital. At that time, my wife was still in the army in Jiujiang, and the doctor on duty asked me to go through the admission procedures first.

I started having labor pains in the early morning. My stomach hurt all day long but I couldn’t give birth. I couldn’t eat or drink water all day long. The doctors and nurses didn’t enter the delivery room until around 5pm when they got off work. The house we lived in was less than 10 minutes away from the hospital. When my parents saw me entering the delivery room, they hurried home to cook some food for me, while my wife was still on her way from Jiujiang to Wuhan to Kaifeng. Not long after entering the delivery room, I gave birth to a 7-pound baby boy. The nurse held the baby to me. I was exhausted and just took a vague look at the crying baby, with a loud voice. The nurse carried her to the nursery.

On the 17th, the nurse came over to feed the baby. This was the second time I saw the baby. I clearly remember that the child had red spots on his face, his eyes were closed, his limp head was tilted, and he couldn't wake up even by gently pulling his ears. He didn't open his mouth and didn't even feed him milk. This memory is very clear, because we, as first-time parents, were in a hurry, and the nurse next to us reminded us to pinch our ears. In the end, the nurse took her back to the baby room without feeding her. Guo Wei was born weighing 3,500 grams, and Yao Ce was born weighing only 3,200 grams. When we left the hospital, the nurse gave my wife the baby wrapped in the clothes we prepared. The couple left the hospital holding the baby with red spots on his face. We especially trusted the hospital, which is a very famous hospital in Henan Province, but we didn’t expect that the baby I gave birth to after having fetal pain all day long in October would be changed.

Yao Ce, who was hugged by mistake, is an only child in our family, and we are the youngest in our respective families, so Yao Ce is cared for like a star in our family, with food, clothing and clothing. All are the best.

At the age of two and a half, Yao Ce was preparing to attend the best municipal kindergarten in Jiujiang. During the physical examination at the kindergarten, he was found to have hepatitis B virus. At that time, the whole family was in a panic. We didn’t know where the virus came from. Our husband and wife were in good health and there was no history of hepatitis B in our family. My mother blamed me for not taking good care of the baby and suspected that she was infected when she went for immunization. I blamed myself so much that I took a year's leave to take care of Yao Ce. Later, I invited relatives from my lover's hometown to take care of Yao Ce at home.

Since discovering that Yao Ce has hepatitis B, everyone in the family has been suffering. My wife and parents went to Beijing, Shanghai, Nanchang, Henan and other places to find the best experts for treatment for Yao Ce. During this period, when my husband and I only had a few hundred yuan in salary, we bought several thousand yuan of medicine for Yao Ce. In order to protect Yao Ce and let him grow up happily, we hide the pain deepest in our hearts. Don't let anyone know that your child has hepatitis B, take good care of it and take care of it meticulously. He is afraid of the cold in winter, the heat in summer, the dryness and heat in autumn, and the strong wind in spring. Yao Ce has not been admitted to the hospital in more than 20 years, and the whole family takes care of him carefully. The whole family has been highly nervous about Yao Ce's physical and mental health, doting on him and obeying all his requests and ideas. In addition to our husband and wife's income, my father's salary was also given to me. I was afraid that I would wrong Yao Ce and make Yao Ce happy, healthy and grow up. My family was willing to give everything.

We took good care of his life and carefully cultivated his studies. We sent him to the best elementary and junior high schools in Jiujiang, spent high school selection fees to send him to the key classes of Jiujiang No. 1 Middle School, and sent him to summer camps such as Tsinghua University and Peking University during the winter and summer vacations. He has been raised to love reading since he was a child. The two large bookcases on one wall of his home are filled with all kinds of books bought for him. His grandfather, who loves him the most, responds to his requests. He may be the first among his classmates to use tablet computers and iPhones.

For more than 20 years, we have spent all our money and efforts to convert Yao Ce’s hepatitis B virus from a major three positive to a small three positive hepatitis B carrier. Like a normal child, he goes to school, works, gets married, and gives birth to a healthy baby.

After Yao Ce graduated from university, his job was arranged in the Medical Insurance Bureau, which was a stable and relaxed job.

After working for a period of time, Yao Ce chose to start his own business. The business did not go well. Yao Ce lost money. Yao Ce’s wife stopped working since she became pregnant. The family of three still relied on us for their living expenses. I helped him every day. Pay off the credit card every month.

Yao Ce needed a wedding house when he got married. We used all the money plus a loan to buy a new house. And reluctantly sold the house in the school district at a low price, used all the proceeds from the sale to find the best decoration company, and went to various home decoration markets in the city to buy decoration materials, furniture, and various home improvement supplies. He also contacted the wedding company and found the best hotel in the city according to Yao Ce's requirements, allowing Yao Ce to successfully hold a grand and luxurious wedding.

I accompanied Yao Ce and took care of her from the pregnancy check-up to the delivery. My husband and I took great care of our daughter-in-law during the confinement period. We provide all the food and clothing for the baby, and we take care of the grandchild all day on weekends. Although it feels hard, in order to reduce Yao Ce’s burden, we as a couple are willing to pay without any regrets. At around 12 o'clock in the evening on February 15, 2020, I received a call from Yao Ce's lover, saying that Yao Ce's back hurt so much that he couldn't sleep, and taking medicine was of no use. I asked Yao Ce to go for a check-up quickly. When Yao Ce called me on February 17 and said he had advanced liver cancer, I didn’t believe it at all. I immediately took him to Jiangxi Provincial People’s Hospital for a check-up. Experts said that the condition was very serious and without treatment, he might only 3 months time. At that time, I made up my mind that I would cut my own liver to save my son and exchange my own life for my son's life.

I didn’t expect fate to play a joke on me again. When we rushed to Shanghai Hospital in mid-March to make preliminary preparations for liver transplantation, doctors and experts asked Yao Ce to do a comprehensive examination first, and specifically reminded him to check his blood type. The test results the next day showed that Yao Ce's blood type was AB. My husband and I didn't believe it. We were both type A. The final DNA test results showed that I was not supported by Yao Ce's biological mother. At that time, both of us felt like the sky was falling.

To save seriously ill Yao Ce as soon as possible, we could only find his biological parents. My wife took the birth certificate of the child I gave birth to and went to Kaifeng Huaihe Hospital to search the medical records to find Yao Ce’s biological parents. Is there any hope of preparing a parent-child liver source? At that time, I was taking care of Yao Ce in Jiangxi. I hid everything from him and didn’t want him to know. Thinking about the mysterious disappearance of the baby I gave birth to after ten months of pregnancy, I endured great grief and quickly contacted CCTV’s "Waiting for Me" column. Determined to find his own flesh and blood living abroad.

The biggest motivation for me to survive the continuous blows was my ninety-year-old father who passed away in September 2019. His father was highly respected and in good health before his death. Among his comrades, there were many army chiefs. He often attended the annual gatherings of the military academy. His father, Ye Luo Guigen, wanted to cultivate the only grandson in Jiujiang. He loved Yao Ce for twenty-seven years and took care of him single-handedly. Yao Ce used his high retirement salary to buy medicines, nutritional supplements, clothes, etc. for Yao Ce. I sponsored him to go to school and further his education, and devoted myself to cultivating him. My father passed away suddenly last year, and even before he closed his eyes, he never saw the real grandson he had placed high hopes on cultivating throughout his life.

I feel extremely depressed. Seeing Yao Ce suffering from the disease, I can’t save him. Thinking of my ten-month pregnancy and the laborious birth of my only son, and then being forced to separate my flesh and blood, I feel helpless and hopeless. I cry every day. My eyes are swollen from crying and my vision is very poor. During that time, I often talked to my father's portrait. I felt that I really couldn't live anymore. I didn't know who to tell. My lover was in more pain than me. I couldn't show sadness in front of Yao Ce. I could only be alone. People suffer. At that time, both of us as husband and wife didn’t believe in the world and decided to find the truth.

With the help of the public security department, the public security criminal investigation national big data DNA comparison found the Guo family village in Lankao County, Henan. The local villagers said that the Guo family couple did not know where they had gone, and that Guo Xikuan Du Xinzhi’s The son's age does not correspond to what we are looking for. With the help of the Kaifeng Police Station, the hospital and we found Zhumadian. After arriving at Zhumadian, I called Guo Du and his wife from Henan.

The conversation was as follows: "Hello, was your baby born in Huaihe Hospital? Did you find anything wrong with the baby? Can we meet and talk?" But Ms. Du received a call and said: "I'm sick, you guys Don't come to me, come to me after I die!" Father Guo answered the phone and said they were not in Zhumadian. Hospital staff and family members were all present during the phone call. What the Guo couple said surprised the people who went to see them at that time. Later, Du Xinzhi and Guo Xikuan said that she thought it was a scam call at first because she also received a similar call. She was a little scared when she heard the caller said that she would come to Zhumadian to find them. She also turned off her mobile phone and uninstalled her phone card.

After Guo Wei’s DNA test revealed that he was my biological son, I had mixed feelings and cried at home. I was determined to see my biological son. The next day, my wife and I took the high-speed train to Zhumadian. As soon as we got out of the train station, my wife pointed at me and said to Guo Wei, this is your mother. As soon as I hugged my son, I never wanted to let go. I bought it when I was pregnant. I read various parenting books, gave him prenatal education, and imagined training him to become an army officer like my father in the future. I placed too many dreams and expectations on my biological son. I cried so hard that I asked him how have you been over the past few years? Let me take a good look at you and touch your face. My son is very tall. Holding his neck would make him uncomfortable. I put my hand under his arm again. I didn’t dare to let go. I was afraid that if I let go, my son would fall again. Lost.

For the past 28 years, Yao Ce has been the only son in our family. We have devoted our entire lives and all our efforts to him. In the end, I wanted to sacrifice my life to cut his liver and give it to him, only to find out that he was not my biological son. My own child had been living in a foreign country for twenty-eight years. Who can feel the same as me? In order to treat Yao Ce, my family has spent hundreds of thousands. My husband and I have worked together for more than 30 years to become a poor family from a relatively prosperous family.

I don’t dare to think about the future. My biological son, who was pregnant in ten months, lives in Zhumadian, Henan Province. My wife and I are still working, and we rarely see our biological son. We don’t know where we will go in our later years. . It would be great if Yao Ce didn't get sick and both children could be healthy and reunited with their biological parents. The misplacement incident was a huge blow to our entire family, and I am determined to find out the truth.

I believe that in the new year, in this society governed by the rule of law, the relevant departments will be able to resolve the most severe harm to our innocent people in a fair and reasonable manner, and thoroughly investigate the serious medical errors caused by the hospital. The reason, find out the truth, give an explanation to us and the seriously ill Yao Ce, and also give an explanation to all the people and news media across the country who are concerned about the wrong life, so that we ordinary people can live a normal life.