Ada’s three ex-girlfriends are all married

Not everyone likes to act coquettishly in life, but they have all learned how to seduce.

Our life is like a red light district, seducing others to listen to ourselves, to pay attention to ourselves, and to talk about the past and future, large and small, unhurriedly. If you have the opportunity, run the hydrangea of ??love towards someone who is possible.

Everyone is a passer-by, coming and going in this red light district, listening to some incredible stories, watching some secretly shed tears, and showing a few beautiful smiles.

We dress ourselves up better to attract people we like more as friends, colleagues, and lovers.

Love is a relationship that cannot be touched easily. It is like a bird that keeps growing. When its wings grow, it is unknown whether it will fly away alone or fly together in the future.

From the beginning of Ada’s love, she had a puzzle in her mind: Will the partner of love change for the better?

After so many years, he did not realize the answer, until one day, Ada said that the woman he loved finally got married. No. 3.

The story begins with the first girlfriend.

The first ex-girlfriend was a college classmate. When I learned the news, I was in my second year after graduation and was struggling in the workplace without asking for a way out. I had just gotten off work at 11 o'clock in the evening. I had just come back from the office and had been lying on the bed for more than half an hour. While browsing Moments, his eyes were suddenly caught by a hook, and his sliding thumb stopped for an instant.

"Your arrival is the best blessing", this is the cliché text in the circle of friends at the wedding scene of my girlfriend in college. Friends they knew from the past also came, and they all grinned happily. This is Ada's first ex-girlfriend. After graduation, they went their separate ways. This time, Ada's longing for her was aroused in such a unique way.

I recalled that night from beginning to end, the youthful time with my girlfriend, getting to know her from moving tables at campus club activities, then having dinner together at the north gate of the school, and then it became a private dinner for two people. ... Under the cover of night, there was a quick heartbeat and dangerous hug and kiss on the playground... The happy ending was when the girl got married, and the other party was a boy from the same county.

Maybe she was sleepy, Ada fell asleep after thinking about it. Just out of the immersion of campus love, her desire for love is still on the line of food and clothing. A green and sour taste flows through the bottom of Ada's heart, mixed with hot memories, so that when she woke up the next day, she still felt that her heart was twinkling. Hot and sour.

The news of the second girlfriend’s marriage hit her harder.

The value of a person in the workplace is clearly marked, and Ada later “sold” herself to another company with a higher salary. Some people say that their lives are earned, while others say that their lives are sold. An account manager in the company joked that he was just a pimp. Yesterday, he encouraged customers on the left side and comforted the staff on the right side. The next day, the roles were reversed.

This principle is used to explain the workplace, and it is crude but not crude. But love cannot be tainted by words like buying and selling. Although material is the basis of love, the power of love must override material. This is one of Ada's inner beliefs.

Recalling campus love, you can go on a campus tour with hardware's sweet words without spending money, but love in the city is different. It costs money to take a taxi, and it is impossible for two people to meet and chat all day long. To break up, it must be based on material-based activities, such as eating, watching a play, watching a movie, or spending 500 yuan to buy two tickets and kissing under the stage of a music festival.

But all this is for love, and material is just a carrier.

But just when Ada was firm in his belief, in the middle of the love march, his second girlfriend broke up with him and told Ada that she wanted a stable life, but Ada could not provide it.

A stable life? In translation, it means a life with a car and a house, which Ada does not have.

Later I learned that she married a small businessman. Their wedding was held in a five-star hotel. The venue was set up in the American princess fantasy style that her girlfriend liked. I heard that the cost of the stage alone exceeded 300,000. .

Does people’s level of love happiness increase as they move up the material ladder?

There is a popular saying on the Internet: People you like may not be able to be together, but you must get what you like. is that so? Ada couldn't let go.

But he preferred to satisfy himself through shopping rather than love. Over time, Ada couldn't tell whether he believed in material or spiritual things. Buy a piece of clothing that fits well and looks good, and be happy that the battery life can be more than twice as long as a compliment from your boss.

This is the filter of love, the next one will be better. Ada thought.

Helplessly lose the last one, and then fall hopelessly into the next love network.

After all, the heart is meant to be broken.

The third one is a girl who just got married a few days ago. The girl's name was Susan, and Ada didn't expect that she would get married so soon. Just half a year after the breakup.

At the beginning of her third love affair, Ada was better prepared for her material affairs. Not to say very wealthy, but not shabby either. The two met at a city reading meeting, which is completely in line with Ada's view of love starting from the spirit.

The boundless interest in reading led the spark between the two to dry firewood, from the arrogant "Nietzsche's Autobiography" to the eloquent "Sophie's World", from moral education classics From "Letters from Tsang Kuo-fan" to the sadomasochism-themed "Fifty Shades of Grey", the two talked about lovesickness smoothly.

During the year when the relationship was established, the other party never actively hinted that he wanted any gifts. Ada excitedly and confidently decided that this was probably his woman.

So before Susan’s birthday, Ada secretly asked someone to buy a famous brand bag in Hong Kong: a black enamel snake head lock, regular and winding layer dividing lines, under bright or dark light The metal accessories always shine, and the fingertips touch it gently, making it feel elegant in the palm of your hand. Susan, who received the gift, had no reason to refuse such a beautiful object. This was the inspiration of the Creator. Wearing it on her body was a sign of generosity of spiritual connotation.

Just when Ada believed that the development of the two people was entering a high speed, Susan's small but obvious changes caused the emotional line of the two to deviate.

For some reason, she became careless in replying to messages, and the opportunities for chatting at night gradually decreased. Ada wanted to desperately push her love to a higher level, but under Susan's indifference, the relationship became more and more unresolved. Like the ebb tide of sea water, it changes from turbulent to quiet, irreversible and visible to the naked eye. Ada was puzzled as to what went wrong.

I have exhausted all the analytical methods in my work and reviewed the psychological knowledge that I can understand. This problem is like a mixture of ice and water, very cold. It seems that the ingredients are very pure, but in fact it is still very mixed.

It wasn't until three months later that Ada saw Susan taking a photo with a tall and handsome boy in a travel photo.

The boy is so good-looking. The sunshine on the beach makes his three-dimensional facial features sharp and angular. A row of white teeth is exposed under the high bridge of his nose. His broad shoulders are connected to his waist and abdomen with muscles. The inverted triangle figure is so beautiful that it is easy to see the entire blue sea as the background.

Ada looked at his slightly bulging and round belly. At first glance, he didn’t look like a middle-aged greasy uncle. Looking left and right, he was already on the road. The self-confidence he had accumulated over the years was suddenly deflated, but his stomach was still bulging, and he looked like he was wilting and dissatisfied after a defeat, and he had no place to vent his anger.

Suddenly, the love values ????that Ada had worked hard to build for so many years were on the verge of collapse. Ada tried to save this reality.

I have been tossing and turning in the wall of love many times, but I finally lost to my good looks. Ada didn't want to believe that Susan was such a superficial person, so she took the initiative to weave the truth to convince herself: Maybe that good-looking man must also have a rich heart and a lot of knowledge, and he is a turtle who has studied abroad for many years? He has also created his own career. There is nothing wrong with such an outstanding person that a woman can fall in love with him, right?

Ada sent WeChat messages to ask Susan many times. Susan’s reply was only a few words, as if there was nothing to explain. Ordinarily, I just got a new boyfriend.

When love takes off the make-up, the truth is always a little ugly. When it is put on the make-up, it looks completely different.

It is not people who like changes, but love itself. When the love between two people changes, both parties cannot recover it.

In the end, Ada still couldn't convince herself that the love values ????that had been built with body, money, time, and emotions for so many years fell apart, just like an airplane that suddenly broke its wings during flight, and was instantly shattered into pieces, leaving only Bits and pieces of memories are flying everywhere.

Does love make people better? Ada began to think about such a question until he was sad for four days and three nights, but he still couldn't figure it out because he couldn't define what kind of person he was.

Since you can’t tell what kind of person you are, you can’t judge what love will make you become. There is no reference at all.

But is it important to ask who you are?

Good love allows you to see clearly what you look like and what kind of person you like.

Facing a bowl of wide noodles, a plate of fried pork, a small stew pot, and two bottles of beer, Ada finally figured it out. There is nothing wrong with love itself, but girlfriends don’t get better with each change. It's not because I'm not getting better, it's because the two of them aren't getting better and better.

Until a few days ago, Ada thought she had connected. When she saw her third ex-girlfriend sending wedding photos, she still felt confused...

Although every ex-girlfriend When his girlfriend got married, he felt very unwilling. Why did she walk into the happy room before me? Little did he know that he soon fell in love with another person. Ada doubted his loyalty and his view of love many times. Is it a pile of mud disguised as a sculpture, moving back and forth in the wall of love?

In fact, no one can be absolutely loyal. It is just a matter of the speed of replacement. Oscar Wilde said, "The difference between a casual fling and a lifelong commitment is that the fling is longer.

Love refills -

We can't forget the people who break into our emotional red light district, along the way As the timeline moves forward, the sadness of some emotions can no longer catch up and is left far behind. What comes forward is the unpackaged, fresh and lovely unknown.

Love can be great, but it is only for the occasion. It is the essential origin.

Ada gradually understood the matter of his ex-girlfriend’s marriage and resolved it into a motto: Next.