Help! ! What should I do if I find out that Dad is having an affair?

Don't worry about telling mom, tell dad first, tell him that you found him cheating, and see what he says. I mainly want to know the reason why he cheated, and let him promise to break up with outsiders and come back to have a good life with his mother. If it's mom's fault that caused dad to cheat, talk to mom again, gently tell her about dad's cheating, and arrange them to talk after they calm down.

If you think that the reason given by dad for cheating is not sufficient, you must persuade him to break off contact with Saner, or even threaten him. You don't need to give too much face to the man who cheated for no reason. And I think you should consider your mother's attitude first and stand on the same side with your mother. In a word, protect your mother and don't let her get the support of her son after being betrayed by her lover.

Never confront this kind of thing head-on, but talk openly. For example, you said that you knew that dad was old and his marriage was not passionate, so you found an affair and said that you could understand his behavior. But you won't tolerate what he has done, because he is not only the other half of your mother, but also the most beloved father in your heart. I hope he doesn't undermine his position in the hearts of your children. In short, be emotional and rational.

Besides love, life is more about responsibility. Even if your father is with someone else, it will become like this many years later. Marriage is as plain as water. Don't destroy it easily. At the same time, talk more about the efforts and sacrifices made by his mother for him and this family, and persuade him to choose to return to his family. Of course, you can also talk to Saner and ask her to leave your father on her own initiative, but you should be tough.

Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for a family. Advise married people, don't easily destroy the balance of marriage, and don't do immoral acts that are sorry for your partner, because you will hurt your family.