Prose reading is extremely enjoyable.

Knocking down the word "happiness" is very thoughtful. When I said "happiness", I saw the beautiful images of two outstanding women at home and abroad. One is Ban Jieyu, a talented woman in China Han Palace two thousand years ago, and the other is Diana, the late former British imperial concubine. I put my hand close to them and picked up bits and pieces about women's happiness.

The ancestors said that life and death are rich, and Zicheng said. Hold your hand and grow old with your son. A woman's happiness is not only related to her own qualities, but also to the men she meets. Women are the place where rapeseed lives, and marriage is undoubtedly a barometer that determines the threshold of women's fate. From golden branches to jade leaves, this custom is inevitable.

"There is no room for two tigers in one mountain, except one male and one female." It's about gender collocation. Happiness has something to do with collocation. Matching can be divided into "software matching" and "hardware matching". Secular society first pays attention to a "hardware"-seemingly appropriate collocation, but ignores whether "software" matches. Software, that is, both sides' ideas, culture and literacy are consistent, and improper collocation will lead to "accidental fire."

(1) Diana-type "female low and male high" gender collocation

In fact, what is fatal is that the unpleasant combination of the two sexes is precisely the "soft rib" of "software" disharmony. In the history of China, failed political marriages are not uncommon. Since it is a political marriage, human nature is ignored, and women are regarded as political tools, not to mention two of a kind. In this respect, Diana is a classic out of print of modern failed political marriage.

Diana, a commoner, married Prince Charles, but eventually died suddenly, which surprised boys and girls all over the world who loved their fairy tales. Diana's misfortune has caused many people to think: why can't beautiful and kind Diana have a happy life?

When I was a child, the ending of Cinderella and handsome Masako in anime fairy tales was usually: "They lived happily ever after." The happy and perfect ending moved me to tears. I think many people have had this kind of similar experience. So is it the same in real life? After experiencing secular reality as an adult, I suddenly found that the fairy tales compiled by the author are purely for making you happy, and the ending closer to real life is that the prince and Cinderella or the village girl mostly live together in pain.

Usually, a kind author, with good wishes, helps Cinderella change from a poor girl to a beautiful princess and win the love of the prince, but only promotes Cinderella to a class beyond her social ability. She jumped from a "village girl" to a princess's throne at a rocket speed overnight, and Cinderella's social ability expanded rapidly, which forced her to play an incompetent role in a blink of an eye. Using Peter's ladder law to explain Diana, a kindergarten teacher, has risen to a class beyond her social ability, at least to a great extent.

When Diana was still immersed in the sweetness of love, she happily said to her family, "I never hesitated to marry Prince Charles." Diana dropped out of high school, and her knowledge and insight made her particularly embarrassed at the gathering of European royalty and celebrities. Once, someone asked her to talk about "RedChina", and she replied with a smile: "I think the red China (red porcelain) with the blue tablecloth must be wonderful." The position of "princess" means not only enjoying the privileges brought by the title, but also its "work content" means more responsibilities. Diana took office in a hurry and was not fully prepared for the ability of this position.

Diana is a princess who has never been seen in public since she was a child. She doesn't like to take part in formal official activities. Facing many strangers, she often doesn't know what to say. So before every activity, she has to prepare for a long time. In spite of this, she still feels hard. After the party, Diana went back to the hotel and shouted to her maid, "Annie, I have to go home." I can't handle it. "

Her maladjustment is obvious. After living in a boring palace for a period of time, Diana began to become depressed, fell into a deep well of loneliness, depression and depression, and suffered from an incurable anorexia nervosa. Diana, whose height 1 m 72, once dropped to 47 kg after becoming a princess. Someone said: "With Diana's love of housework and helpfulness, it is not a problem to be a nanny for the rich and powerful, an aunt in the English kindergarten in St. George's Square in London, and marry a man with medium skin color, but it is not difficult to gain a foothold in the upper class."

Usually, the comprehensive quality of women determines the degree of obedience of men. Harmonious relationship between men and women emphasizes two of a kind and overall balance. A woman marries not only this man, but all the backgrounds of the other person. You should accept the advantages of this man, tolerate his shortcomings, and more importantly, accept and integrate into each other's complex social relations and family background. From the perspective of gender relations, are your's personality and thoughts synchronized? ! The relationship between Camilla, Charles and Diana has been tense. Some people will say that the old and ugly Camilla can't compare with the radiant Diana. In fact, the simple and honest Diana was unsuccessful because she didn't have the tacit understanding and gender cognition of Camilla's worship of the prince. So in this contest of marriage roles, Diana married aristocratic politics as a commoner. From the perspective of "software", Diana's comprehensive quality is not worthy of being a princess. However, as a modern Cinderella, she climbed Peter's ladder, but fell off Peter's ladder because of the slippage of "software".

Poor Diana is so beautiful that the world sighs. The people of Sri Lanka have gone, and life remains the same. The ancients said that beauty is delicate and charming, and beauty is like a flower. Anita Mui, who died a few years ago, once sang lightly that women are like flowers and flowers are like dreams. It is a woman's youth that is fleeting and difficult to stay. When a 30-year-old woman feels that her body and mind are just mature, but her appearance has shown a trend of deterioration, she can look back at her 40-year-old big brother men. They look as if they are just mature and men are full of charm.

Many middle-aged women in their thirties, especially those whose husbands are officials, live in complaints and fears all day. These elderly women have more sense of age crisis than ordinary women. They are afraid of losing a successful man, complaining about emotional loss in their hearts, and hate that other beautiful young women may appear beside her man in life. They regard age as the end of life, and always think that emotional failure and loss are due to age and aging. Therefore, such a woman is dumped by a man like a broken bag, which is very unlucky. There are also some women who are not dumped by men as garbage, but they are hard to stumble, just meet men who are nostalgic or have a little conscience.

The reason is that these wives who have been abandoned or dissatisfied by men have lost good covers and good content over time. At the same time, how can she keep pace with this man with broad vision and continuous progress? Men's world always radiates outward, before and after marriage. Women, on the other hand, may be young, beautiful and full of vigor before marriage. After marriage, with the change of family work and environment, women's vision becomes trivial and their range of activities narrows. At first, she didn't know how to enrich herself with knowledge and how to dress externally. In social occasions, she and her husband went in and out together, uncovered, bloated and old-faced. Personally, what she needs is no content, no culture, no taste, and she can't stand on the table in public, which always makes her glorious and decent husband feel ashamed. Family life is boring, there is no exchange of ideas with my husband, and I have no interest in life. In addition to daily work and taking care of the elderly and children, the family atmosphere is suffocating.

Many women are in crisis when they get married in middle age. The sadness of these women is that she doesn't know that she has become a broken and boring book, a broken book that may be dumped by men at any time. Marriage, in the final analysis, is a combination of the core of thought, rather than a simple attraction of the opposite sex. The ideological incompatibility between men and women is bound to be a serious injury to the potential marriage crisis.

Does content determine form or form determines content? In my opinion, the cover is as important as the content. Smart women know inside and out. Even if there is no good cover, you might as well work hard on the content. Even if there is no good connotation, at least be considerate. In the palace of marriage, on the road of love growth, both men and women advance simultaneously, and strive to make each other a good book to read, and never tire of reading it. Only in this way can the flower of love be lush and invincible.

This is a profound meditation that Diana left me on how to continue the quality of marriage and love and the durability of feelings.