Skills that men must master.

Give some advice to ordinary men from the perspective of love and life. I know a little about the tips mentioned below, but I'm not proficient.

1, know some English

Love: You date a girl in a coffee shop and tell the barista that it is espresso instead of espresso, which gives the girl a different feeling. A little English also gives you a chance to meet foreign girls and establish relationships with them. (Note: Espresso is Italian. Thank you for pointing it out. Please feel free to use the examples and ignore them. )

Note: Some people in the comment area say that this is a deliberate act of coercion. Everyone who knows me knows that what I don't like most is deliberate pretense. This may be related to my career or life experience. When people around me used to speak, if the word was a foreign word, they would speak English instead of translating it into Chinese, because it was a habit. It's like everyone in the company calls me Robin, and no one will call me a Marine.

Life: Knowing a little English is helpful for career development.

Suggestion: After learning English for so many years, you'd better keep it and use it more. It is best to work with foreigners. If there is no chance to work with foreigners, watch English movies or articles, and make some foreign friends to get together and chat occasionally.

2, will drink some wine

Love: Have a cocktail or a glass of red wine when dating a girl. The atmosphere in a bar or lounge will help you attract girls.

Life: reunion of old friends after a long separation, business entertainment. When the boss arranges team building, boys who can drink a little wine are more likely to blend in with everyone. It would be better if you could drink it well. I won't tell you, sometimes a man can save a beauty with a glass of good wine on the wine table. You can drink well, and your female colleagues may suffer less when entertaining government officials.

Suggestion: Men who don't smoke or drink are not necessarily good men. Although I smoke and drink, I am not a heavy smoker and alcoholic. When socializing or socializing, alcohol and tobacco are indeed a medium. It's better not to smoke and drink some wine. Moderate drinking is actually helpful to health.

3. Know something about coffee

Love: Dating a girl for a cup of coffee and chatting in a cafe with a better environment will help you get to know each other better and give you a chance to follow up with the girl.

Life: Coffee is a way of life. It is good to have a cup of coffee to refresh yourself after work, chat with friends to relax, and have a cup of coffee with customers or partners to talk about cooperation or brainstorm.

Suggestion: Don't drink coffee with a spoon. Don't laugh. I've really seen people who do this and don't put a lot of sugar in a cup of coffee. I have seen people who sweeten a cup of pure coffee. Don't laugh. I've seen such people. Cultivating some good hobbies is actually beneficial to your life.

Drink some tea and learn something about tea.

Love: Make more contacts with career-oriented girls, especially older girls. Some girls like to drink tea, so it will be a good choice for you to have tea and chat when you are dating.

Life: Coffee machines are kept in foreigners' offices, and tea sets are kept in many China leaders' offices. Chatting over tea is a good social way and lifestyle. When watching costume films, whoever goes to whose house is a guest, the host will ask the servant to serve tea to the guests. Tea is a good thing, which is healthy and has cultural significance, so it is actually beneficial to cultivate some interest in drinking tea.

Suggestion: Now many people are starting to do ecological things. You can find these companies or WeChat official accounts online to learn about tea. If you can, buy more and drink more, and you will gradually get to know something about this thing. In fact, the tea garden is a very beautiful place. It would be nice to have a chance to stay in a tea garden for a few days or take a trip to a city that produces tea. Once I went out to talk about things in Banna, and I went to five or six houses a day.

5. Read some books and accumulate some wisdom.

Love: knowledge is an important topic source when chatting with girls, and the wisdom of men's thinking is very attractive to girls.

Life: Whether it is lifestyle, workplace or entrepreneurship, there are related books. Reading is a good way of life and study.

Suggestion: just read your favorite books, don't bring too much utility, otherwise you will lose a lot of happiness and it will be difficult to keep reading.

6, learn to cook, you must have a good cooking skill.

Love: The food you cook for the girl you like is different from the food you take her to a restaurant. You left the rolled sheets with that girl the night before. If the girl wakes up the next morning and sees the breakfast you made for her, that kind of happiness is wonderful.

Life: When I just dropped out of school, I lived alone and cooked by myself. At first, I couldn't. I'll take my time.

Suggestion: Being able to not do it and not doing it at all are two different things. Being busy is never an excuse not to cook.

7. Know a little about love.

No series:

Do you ask girls if they have boyfriends?

Don't tell a girl you're not attracted to?

Why don't girls come out to date you?

Don't ask girls why they don't like you.

Don't say to the girl, "May I kiss you?"

Don't ask girls to date you.

Don't ask your buddy for a girl's phone number.

Don't associate with girls or girlfriends you like in private.

Don't say to girls, "Can I invite you to dinner?" Instead, he said, "I want to invite you to dinner."

Don't call yourself diaosi, and don't call the girl you like "goddess"

Attitude series:

Women are never wrong, and many times we are just not good enough;

Respect a woman's choice, even if her choice hurts you;

Men should treat women like gentlemen, such as sending them home, opening the door for them and letting them sit down first.

Understand these details:

Girls often can't drink ice when they have their period, and they will be very upset. We should pay attention to these details.

When a girl is sick, she should express her attitude of wanting to buy her medicine or accompany her to the hospital or accompany her, instead of telling her to "drink more water and have a good rest";

Understand women's preferences and keep them in mind. For example, when you have dinner with a girl for the first time, you will find out what she likes to eat, and you will order her favorite dishes when you date her in the future.

8. Develop good habits

Say "thank you" and "please" more;

How to affirm or praise others, especially praise women;

When you look for reasons from yourself in advance, everything has a reason. Understand it and don't be kidnapped by your emotions.

Don't smoke next to a girl who doesn't smoke unless that girl has made it clear that she doesn't mind;

Don't drink girls' wine. As a man, don't drink girls' wine.

At the end of the date, you should show the girl that you want to send her home. She can accept it or not, but you have to have this attitude.

Say goodbye to the girl after the date and let her go home and send you a text message to tell you that she has arrived home safely;

When a friend introduces you to someone, you should smile warmly and shake hands with him.

When getting together with friends, take the initiative to introduce your friend who is traveling with you to other people he doesn't know;

Please remember to bring a bag with you when you go out with a woman. The bag should contain paper towels and wet wipes.

Get into the habit of wearing a scarf in cold weather, especially when dating a woman outdoors at night;

Get into the habit of saying declarative sentences, especially when dealing with women, and avoid interrogative sentences, such as "I want to invite you to dinner" instead of "May I invite you to dinner?" ;

Don't say "maybe", "maybe", "probably", "I guess" and "I think" at work, because it will make you look weak;

Don't send "oh" when chatting with people online, but answer "yes" or "yes";

When chatting with people, look at each other and occasionally nod your head to show that you understand her or agree with her;

Take a bath and wash your hair every day. After washing your hair, please set it with a hair dryer.

Don't waste food when eating. Don't give a girl food on your first date unless she can't get it or she asks you to give it to her.

If you want to pay for a date with a girl or a friend's party, please use the time to go to the bathroom to pay for it.

Never use a rotten or badly worn wallet, never;

Develop the good habit of putting condoms in your wallet;

Last but not least: praise the answers written by others.

2014165438+1October 27th @ Lijiang added:

When I wrote this answer before, I recalled my behavior habits and wrote it according to the case of men making mistakes in the teaching process. I wrote a few simple words, and added some today.

First of all, let's go back to the comments section about the tips I shared for men. Don't you think men are tired of doing this?

What I share is all the behavior habits I have developed over the years. Many of them are even the behavior habits formed when I started to attract women from high school. Later, with the growth of age and the accumulation of experience, I cultivated some new behavior habits. These behavior habits are my instinctive behavior when dealing with women and in my daily life, not deliberate, but natural behavior. You feel good about what I shared, but you feel bad about it. It's normal. After all, we are different individuals, but there is one fact that I need to emphasize. Good behavior habits and ways of thinking lead to good results, while bad behavior habits and blind areas of thinking lead to bad results. You can look back at yourself and find out which behaviors are good, which behaviors are not so good, and change them. If the feedback you get when dealing with women is not satisfactory, I suggest you reflect on yourself, get rid of bad behavior habits and gradually cultivate some behaviors that are conducive to attracting girls.

Here are some things I added, hoping to inspire you.

1, this varies from person to person, but for most men who wear nearsighted glasses, you should try to wear contact lenses or change to a better-looking frame.

If you are facing the computer for a long time, dating women or attending important occasions, you can wear contact lenses, which will help to add points to your image, but remember that this varies from person to person, and the specific situation is analyzed.

2. Prepare more white shirts with good quality in the wardrobe.

Because you can wear a white shirt alone, with vest, wiring shirt, bow tie and suit, it is versatile and practical. If you bring a girlfriend (girl? ) there are no women's pajamas for her to wear at home. It would be a good choice for her to put on your white shirt after taking a shower. The girl in your white shirt is in your bedroom after taking a shower. Don't you think life is wonderful?

Preparing these at home will help you have a good emotional life.

A pair of slippers for guests, unopened toothbrush and towel;

Foam facial cleanser, makeup remover and night cream for girls (I can also use these things myself);

Dispensable contact lens potion and box (if nearsighted) are better, because it is possible that you will meet the girl you are dating and wear contact lenses;

There should be light for men and women in the bedroom. If not, buy starlight lamps or candles, but what I recommend most is that you have a bedroom with a large floor-to-ceiling window and a night view outside.

Whether you go home with your girlfriend, a girl who is going to be a girlfriend or a girl you met on the first day, these things will not make girls look embarrassed, but will help you bring a better experience to girls and contribute to the progress of your future relationship.

4. If you talk about a long-distance relationship with a girl.

On the basis that you clearly know that she has time and wants to see you, go to her city to find her and give her a surprise. In this case, the happiness that girls feel is wonderful.

Operation mode:

After booking the plane ticket, call her: "I'm at the airport, see you in two hours";

When you get downstairs, call her, wait for her downstairs, or call her door.

I've done it many times. The girl excitedly ran downstairs and hugged me, still so happy on the phone. If you get together with your girlfriend from a different place because you are busy studying or working, the other person has deep feelings for you. Do this occasionally.

Men, be emotional once in a while, take a trip and fall in love regardless.

I am scum. Banna, Kunming, Lijiang, Chengdu, Chongqing and Xi 'an all have ex-girlfriends from different places. Sometimes when I change to a new city, they will come to see me, or I will visit them in their city occasionally. Now I am in Lijiang with my ex-girlfriend.

5. Always be honest with women. If you treat women with this attitude, you will live a little easier and win the trust of women.

If a woman asks you how many girlfriends you talked about before you met her, if not, say no, if there are a hundred, say a hundred. Answer instinctively, don't hesitate to avoid, be honest with your heart and past, don't worry that the other person will look down on you or don't believe you just because a woman has heard you say no, and don't think you are a playboy just because a woman has heard you say a hundred times. Believe me, women won't believe you if you say no.

6. At the beginning of dating a girl, I don't take the initiative to advance my girlfriend or ask my ex-boyfriend.

But if a girl asks about you, don't be shy. It's often no one's fault that a relationship ends. For the girl you have been with, you should have a kind heart, think more about yourself, don't criticize others, and even you can express the feelings of the girl you didn't get to the end. After being with a girl, don't compare with your ex-girlfriend, don't focus on each other's ex-boyfriend, don't take the initiative to mention your ex-girlfriend, and don't avoid the woman you have experienced, because that woman has been with you all your life, and she has left a trace in your life anyway. She is not a pencil and needs to be erased.

7. Be a gentleman. When taking a taxi, help the girl open the door and let the girl go first.

When you get off the bus, you should get off first, and then help the girl open the door (I mean taxi, you sit in the back seat, not you drive). If you want to take the girl home first, it's the same. When you get off the bus, hug the girl goodbye or just say goodbye and wish each other good night.

8. When dating a girl to eat western food.

If you order the same steak and the same heat, if the order of the dishes is different, instead of serving at the same time, the waiter reminds the waiter to serve it to the lady first, and you can eat it first without the waiter serving it to you. Of course, this kind of situation may rarely happen if you go to a good restaurant, but believe me, it will still happen even in a five-star hotel. Please be sincere to those who provide you with quality service and help in any consumption place.