The exposure of the water loss month incident in Jinjiang was reversed: a woman who raised her husband as a son had only one end.

The marriage dispute caused by the disappearance of Jinjiang Yueshui has been fermented on the Internet for several days, with various voices:

The female host is a contemporary Gu Jia, who hammered love rat and tore the mistress, which is comparable to cool writing.

The good attitude of the hostess to love rat is to break his psychological defense, arouse his guilt and let him sign the divorce agreement as soon as possible.

From exposing the address of mistress, to guiding everyone to cyber violence mistress, and then to recording, it is just a means for the hostess to save her husband.

The hostess just wants everyone to help her against her, just like Huang Jiawei's original match. After killing Xiao San, she can gain fame and fortune through this wave of hype.

It is difficult to distinguish right from wrong in this argument. After all, we know what others want us to know.

But what is certain is that there is something wrong with the husband's "mother-in-law and filial piety" mode of getting along.

No matter what the final outcome is, her marriage can give women some warnings and reminders.

0 1. Record points

In the record of the moon passing water, there are the following points:

1. love rat tricked San Xiao into staying in a hotel, but actually slept with his wife.

2. The roommate can contact love rat, but the original match can't contact him.

Love rat was unfaithful for two reasons. One is that he has always liked mistress, and the other is that he feels unhappy after marriage.

Love rat wants a divorce, but she doesn't want to leave her clean home.

5. love rat cheated on his mistress, using the original condom.

In the recording, we need to pay attention to the fact that the original text repeatedly emphasized that the mistress love rat seduced her, and even said such things as "I should at least know what kind of person the other person is when I hand you over", "Don't take everything on myself", "You should know that this is not your fault" and "You may be wrong, but you are definitely not the person who bears the most responsibility".

The original match humiliated Xiao Shanzhi, and she was extremely gentle: "Didn't she seduce you on her own initiative?" No girl is a fool, chubby people count you clearly, "Chen Bojian, you have been slept in", "She is not a virgin, but she is dirty" and "Who is more beautiful, me or mistress? "

02. Why do men cheat?

In the previous Weibo, the woman boasted a thousand words, saying that the man was her only light.

But from her point of view, her light-just a person who doesn't study in middle school, plays truant and goes to Internet cafes, has no working ability, no goal, no ideal and no pursuit, has no achievements worth mentioning in her life for more than 30 years, no concept of money, no habit of saving, no ability to take care of herself, cowardice, fear of bugs, dare to do anything, lie and cheat many times, and let her wife clean up the mess. It is simply a disabled, normal-looking imbecile who can't take care of himself.

A thousand words can't find an advantage, which is more important? This is obviously a complete waste.

Emotionally, this light didn't give this woman too much love and warmth.

The woman likes writing, while the man has never read the article written by his wife.

The woman's coccyx fell off, and the man made her endure the pain and wear high heels to complete the wedding for the sake of her parents' face.

Even when they are most intimate, the man is not interested in reading the woman's words and consciously taking care of her body, which makes people wonder if he really loved her.

Moon-gone water said that she knew there was another person in the world who could not live without her, so she was greedy for this love.

In fact, she knows better than anyone that the man doesn't love her.

Therefore, she always habitually washes the white for the man. For example, he doesn't read his own works because he is a straight man with normal taste. After marriage, he avoided financial pressure. She said that he was "always ambitious, so I had to worry more".

She did do a lot for her husband, but most of them were her own monologues.

What's the use of all the men in the pen having men's shadows? The man doesn't read her article.

What's the use of making an omelet and redoing it yourself? This man will never know.

In this abnormal intimate relationship, the man regards the woman as a "stepmother", which is both dependent and disgusting. His mental state has been deteriorating and has degenerated into childhood. He is afraid of pain and loves to spoil. When he encounters unhappy things, he must hug him slowly and coax him, and he will not get up on the ground.

So in order to cover up his incompetence, he can only choose a more incompetent derailed object to set off his strength.

03. Get along mode

From the beginning of the two people's understanding to the end of the divorce, the man basically obeyed the arrangement of the woman, but he has been suppressing his inner dissatisfaction.

With the accumulation of contradictions in time and daily life, this dissatisfaction has formed a restless magma, and the freedom of separation between the two places and the appearance of Bai Yueguang mistress have become the crater of all explosions.

Although the woman is gentle and calm, every sentence in the recording can reflect that she is a controlling person and dominates the relationship between them, but her controlling desire is hidden under the calm and arrogant attitude and language, which is easy to be ignored.

In reality, many wives, like her, are committed to cultivating their husbands into giant babies, which will lead to the lack of participation and growth of men in marriage.

Therefore, Chen Bojian doesn't even have the courage to cheat. In his long marriage, his "responsibility" function was completely paralyzed. It is certain that he will not be happy with anyone in the future.

Their control relationship has evolved into a deformed * * * relationship.

In such a relationship, the controller is even more inseparable from the controlled.

The other party is worse than herself, and may even hurt herself, which will give the controller a sense of psychological satisfaction and accomplishment and make her feel powerful. Once the controlled person wants to leave, the controller will feel that his life has been destroyed, so in the recording, Ms. Yue leads her husband to admit that she has been seduced and calculated, and puts all the blame on Xiao San, trying to rebuild the original control relationship with her husband.

She has repeatedly stressed that she is the only one who cares about her husband, his only reliance and hope, and mistress is hypocritical and unreliable. This is not necessarily to save her husband, but also to find her own value and strength.

Even if she is divorced, she wants to keep "a woman worthy of being loved", hoping that the other party will fall into pain and regret and miss her various benefits, so she is gentle and considerate in divorce negotiations and be a good person.

Many people can't understand why an ugly, fat and incompetent giant baby can be contested by two good women-an original dancer, an online writer, a beautiful mistress and many suitors.

Capmann, an American psychologist, said: "Our hearts will constantly switch between the three roles of victim, persecutor and rescuer. When we play a role, people around us will unconsciously play other roles in order to maintain the balance of this triangle. "

That's because in the controlled relationship, the controlled person has poor self-control, no goal in life, no self-discipline and self-care ability, which is exactly what the controller needs.

The controller and the controlled are attracted and entangled with each other, and the controlled also has a corresponding degree of reverse control over the controller. The two can be transformed from each other, and it goes without saying that they can be broken.

04. Stay away from the giant baby boy

This kind of relationship mode is that the wife coaxes the children and the husband gives us an alarm: in marriage, don't spoil the husband as a child like a loving mother, and be backward compatible.

Unfortunately, if you meet a "giant baby husband", you should leave as soon as possible and stop the loss in time.

Don't try to save and transform men with the heart of the virgin Mary.

Seriously, most people with the heart of the Virgin are not confident enough to achieve themselves by saving others.

But this is neither necessary nor realistic. If you can't save the giant baby, you're exhausted. Why bother?

Therefore, girls must choose the best partner. Many people think that if they find a condition worse than themselves, the other party will be more loyal, but this is just wrong-a high-value person's sense of accomplishment and values can be realized through his own career and conditions, while a low-value person can't change the objective reality and can only realize his own value by hurting and betraying you.

Just like the passage of the moon, she assumed the main responsibility of marriage, paid more and had better conditions, but turned the marriage into her own one-man show, put everything on this relationship and regarded men as the only emotional sustenance, so her world was doomed to collapse.

Therefore, girls, don't live as a "sunflower" and regard men as the only light in life.

Because a good man who deserves to be entrusted needs like-minded, he doesn't want to be so light.

Because an untrustworthy man is definitely not willing to be your own lamp, but is willing to shine on more women.

Believe me, you can be your own light.

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