Also exposed that the 9-year-old girl was defamed! How can we protect children from infringement?

The news that "children in Bijie orphanage in Guizhou were sexually assaulted" did not make people feel relieved. Yesterday, the case that the chairman of a listed company molested a girl was confirmed by the Shanghai Public Security Bureau, and the parents' mood became tense again.

On the afternoon of July 3, Shanghai Public Security Bureau said that Wang, the chairman of the listed company Xincheng Holdings, was suspected of molesting girls. According to Xinmin Evening News, the crime happened on the afternoon of June 29th in a five-star hotel on Wanhangdu Road. After the molested girl called her mother in Jiangsu and cried, her mother came to Shanghai to call the police, and Wang was immediately taken compulsory measures. At present, the girl has been injured and her vagina is torn, which constitutes a minor injury.

As a parent of a child, I am simply out of anger!

How many such beasts are still hiding around us?

How ignorant we are about child sexual abuse and how dangerous children are. ...

Child molestation/sexual assault is by no means a "case"

Sexual assault is not as far away as we thought;

According to Statistics of Child Sexual Abuse Cases and Investigation Report of Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Education in Girl Protection 20 18:

In 20 18, there were 3 17 cases of child sexual abuse, in which the total number of children victims exceeded 750; The proportion of acquaintance crime and netizen crime is high.

Of the 750 victims, 95.74% were girls who were sexually assaulted. The proportion of boys who have been sexually assaulted is 4.26%.

In 3 17 cases, acquaintances committed crimes, accounting for 66.25%; Strangers committed crimes, accounting for 27.44%; 6.3 1% does not show the relationship. Acquaintances have a high proportion of crimes. According to the reports on the protection of girls published in recent years, the proportion of crimes committed by acquaintances has been very high, with the highest proportion reaching 87.87%( 20 14).

There are few cases of boys being sexually assaulted in the media, which shows that boys are hidden and easy to be ignored. Because children can't, don't understand and dare not express, many parents don't even know that their babies have been sexually assaulted.

Protecting children begins with sexual enlightenment.

The sooner sex education is given to children, the better. Mother Big White Bear began to advocate sex education at the age of 0. 1-2-year-old babies begin to have gender awareness. After the age of 3, parents should establish gender boundaries for their children:

What's the difference between boys and girls?

What are the private parts that others can't touch?

How to judge whether a person is a good person or a bad person

How to describe what happened to my mother?

What should parents pay attention to when protecting their children?

■? Pay more attention to children's physical injuries and seek the help of doctors.

Babies under 3 years old can't clearly express complex meanings, so our parents must always pay attention to their baby's body and behavior.

It is normal for children to stumble, but most of these injuries occur in bare parts such as knees, front of calves and outside of elbows. If you find signs of injury in a place that is not easy to bump, you should be vigilant.

In short, the "parts that are difficult to self-injure" must be concerned and vigilant.

Seek the help of a doctor in time. Doctors in pediatrics and psychology can interpret the child's injury from a professional perspective and help treat the child's trauma. At the same time, evidence can be effectively preserved.

■ ? Pay more attention to children's abnormalities and use correct communication methods.

When a child suddenly doesn't want to get in touch with people, or suddenly doesn't want to go to school, parents should not ignore and force him again and again, let him rest at home first, keep calm, and then give the child active companionship and sufficient support.

"Who bullied you? This kind of question is usually difficult to answer, and children may be afraid to tell their parents because they are threatened and nervous. At this time, if parents find that their children have suspicious emotional problems or scars, please listen carefully.

Scenario simulation method can be used:

Parents play children, let children play teachers or others, and repeat what children encounter and inner thoughts through role-playing.

■? Don't let your guard down in front of acquaintances.

What is particularly distressing about this incident is that it was actually a friend of the child's mother who sent the child to the wrong person!

Many times, our safety education for children stays at "Don't talk to strangers".

As a guardian's parents, always remember: don't leave your children to the people around you to take care of them, even relatives and friends, please look after them! When we can't protect our children, we should also teach them to be alert to danger and dare to ask their parents for help.

When the 9-year-old girl was attacked, it was because she called her mother for help in time that she got rid of the possible further harm.

■ Protect children and start from yourself.

As a parent, you should also do the following:

Avoid walking around in underwear or even appearing naked in front of children;

Change diapers and take a bath for children in private space, and avoid wearing open-backed pants for children;

Don't post photos of your child's naked sexual organs on any social network (including friends circle);

After the child is 3 years old, don't take a bath with the opposite sex;

Close the door when taking a bath in the toilet;

Don't take children to the opposite sex public toilets or public bathhouses;

Mother Big White Bear said:

Just as Mother Big White Bear was writing this article, she saw another piece of news that made people angry.

It is important for children to have the ability to protect themselves, but we should warn those who are malicious to children: as long as they dare to extend their black hands to children, they will be ruthlessly cut off by the law!

Children are our bottom line! Protecting children is more important than anything else!

..... sexual enlightenment book list recommendation ......

1. A guide to sex education for parents and children

Douban @ Karin: Parents of children aged 0-6 must study! Do you think children are small and bad people are not small? ...

2. "Talking about sex with children"

Douban @ Yaya: Let children know the necessary sexual knowledge from childhood and get positive guidance about sex, which will enable them to make wise judgments and correct choices when they grow up.

3. Sexual health care series of crooked rabbits.

Douban @jojobabe: I finished reading 10 books in one day. As a picture book of safety education, it is not a special dogma, with strong imagination and interest. Peaches like the image of crooked rabbits.

4. "Good virginity"

Douban @echo: Every parent should watch it carefully. Help parents understand their children's sexual activities, correctly answer their children's sexual questions, understand the laws of their sexual psychological development, and help parents educate their children to prevent injuries.

5. Don't touch me casually

This book uses a delicate story to teach children how to avoid sexual assault and let them know that sneaking around with threats and inducements is incorrect behavior. The book also tells children what to do when they encounter such a thing. This is a book that every child should read when he was a child.

6. The story of breast+the story of penis

Douban users @ 圇圇圇圇: The Story of Chicken contains rich contents: the difference of physiological structure between men and women, the birth of life, the cleanliness of genitals, and protection from sexual abuse. Every child is a precious life! Good feeling.

7. "Serena rushes forward"

Serena is sperm. He lives in Mr. Brown's body with 300 million friends. The day of swimming competition is approaching, and Serena is practicing hard every day. ...

Douban User @ 中中中中中: Parents must have it and tell their children where he came from!

8. Where are you from, my friend?

Original: adaptation; Zheng's General Story of Cpaing

This book is adapted from a sex education textbook written by Zheng for his son. It is divided into three parts. The first part mainly answers the child's sexual problems and explains the child's body composition. The second part teaches children to protect themselves and prevent sexual assault; The third part tells children how to get in touch with people other than themselves, especially the opposite sex.