The most important thing is to be yourself, right?

? My husband and I got married in November last year. I know that he has two sisters who love him. My husband said: "The eldest and the second are very childish. Don't argue with them in the future." Don’t have too good a relationship with them.” I don't understand why he would say that.

Before getting married, I got along with the so-called eldest aunt and second aunt. I liked their two children, Yueyue and Sunday, and I think they liked me too. I like buying gifts for people. Every time I go to the mall with my friends, I buy clothes and snacks for my children. And I feel that I spent the money very happily.

What I can tell is that my husband prefers his second aunt because he said that his second aunt is very good to him. This was before we got married. I don’t know. My husband also likes to go to the second brother's house, and the second brother also welcomes us to visit their home. The second brother-in-law buys an excavator and is usually very busy on business trips. My husband also likes to take his second aunt out to play on Sundays. Over time, we will spend more time together. On National Day last year, one month before our wedding, we drove to Chaka Salt Lake and Kumbum Monastery. This trip covered about 3,000 kilometers. My husband asked his sister not to spend any money and we would buy everything. Because when his sister got married and went on their honeymoon, my husband went with her. Because I don’t want to owe a favor, so I think this is equivalent to repaying the old love.

? After returning from Qinghai, my husband and I began to prepare for the wedding, get married, go on honeymoon, and go to work separately. Soon it was the Chinese New Year. This was the New Year’s Eve when I left my parents. On that day, my husband and I had an argument. After a fight, I ran upstairs to cry alone. I felt so uncomfortable. This was the first time I was celebrating the New Year at my husband's house and it was still like this. I guess no one understood how I felt at that time, because my father-in-law and mother-in-law were downstairs, and I didn’t dare to make a sound even if I cried. After a while, my husband came up and apologized, and I accepted it.

My parents-in-law are very kind to me, and I think I respect them as well. My mother-in-law has a very strong character. She has upright and kind values. She is brave and resourceful. She dares to speak her mind and act responsibly. She is a woman who speaks her truth. Her father-in-law seldom tells the truth, but she still acts decisively when things happen.

Due to the sudden epidemic, just after we finished the New Year’s Eve dinner, my husband received a group message canceling the holiday. I hope that my husband will work hard.

On the fifth day of the Lunar New Year, I found out that I was pregnant. In the midst of intense epidemic prevention and control, my family was very happy to hear the news. I also started learning to be a qualified pregnant woman.

? I started to suffer from morning sickness on February 11th. I felt uncomfortable. I saw vomiting in the kitchen. There were people vomiting after eating on Douyin. Who vomited after eating on TV? In one month, I lost more than ten kilograms. There was nothing I could do. I couldn't even walk upstairs. I went to the hospital. The doctor said it was normal and I could continue eating at home. A few days later, I went to the hospital for a review and found that there was no fetal heartbeat or fetal bud. The doctor suggested that I abort the baby. After returning home, my husband and I hugged each other and cried together. My mother and mother-in-law also cried. My father and father-in-law were both smoking and silent.

The next day, my husband and I decided to go to the Provincial Maternity and Children's Hospital for surgery. At this time, the epidemic was at its most severe. We showed our community access passes, scanned the QR code at high speed, and showed our ID. My husband had to take leave, so we got up, packed the things we needed to bring after the surgery, and set off. When we got off the highway, the police asked us to show our ID cards and driver's licenses. Only then did we realize that we didn’t bring a bag at all, so we brought our community pass and husband’s work permit. Now we were in trouble. We didn’t have the documents and couldn’t go anywhere, not even on the highway. The two of us got out of the car and went to the police station to register, take photos, and check the records. We were delayed for a long time, and we didn’t bring the medical card. After registering, we went home directly. We had no choice but to go home to pick up things and go to the hospital in time. The next day, it was a little earlier than yesterday. We brought the most important ID cards and medical cards. We arrived at the Provincial Maternity and Child Care Department. After the B-ultrasound, we made an appointment with a specialist. The doctor said: "It's okay. Let's go home and take care of the miscarriage." ". When I told my husband at the door of the consulting room, his eyes immediately became red.

A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise. What a false alarm.

As the epidemic spreads, my husband has never had a holiday, and finally received the news about the May Day holiday. It's great. It proves the effectiveness of epidemic control and he can rest for a few days.

? Because I have suffered from severe morning sickness since I was pregnant, and am I in a bad mood? I really want to travel, even if it involves mountains and rivers. Without saying a word, my husband just said to pack his things and leave at any time.

Considering the traffic during the day, we decided to set off at night. In addition, my husband helped a friend early in the morning and went with the convoy to pick up the bride. Then I went to my second aunt's house to pick up her and my nephew. I wanted him to rest for a while, and when my father-in-law and mother-in-law finished their shift at 6 p.m., we had a bowl of noodles downstairs and then set off. The discussion was whether to go to the Grand Canyon and walk into the tunnel, or whether it would be blocked. We listened to a song called "Chengdu" on the way, so we discussed going to Sichuan. Following the southwest direction, we switched the navigation and walked 200 kilometers. We also said we should go to Chongqing, as my parents had never been there. Then the navigation was switched.

With seven or eight hours left to go, I got on the bus to sleep and got off to pee. It was indeed very hard for my husband to drive all the way. When we arrived at the hotel, we were all very tired. I ordered wooden bucket rice, ate some casually, and then we all fell asleep. At six o'clock in the afternoon, we set off for a cruise to Jiefangbei and Chaotianmen. It was very late to come back.

The next day, my husband and I slept until we woke up naturally. My father-in-law and mother-in-law had already bought breakfast. May 3rd is my second aunt’s baby’s birthday on Sunday. My mother ordered a cake very early in the morning and said it was her child’s birthday. We sang happy birthday with the baby, ate the cake, and then set off for the Zhazi Cave and Ciqikou. It was a very hot day, because I had been here many times, so I thought my parents-in-law had never been here before, so I asked the old couple to go out for a walk. I looked around to see if there was any toy store. I wandered next to Ciqikou for a long time, but I didn’t see anything to buy. Toys. I felt a little uncomfortable because I didn’t buy a gift for my baby.

After transferring to Ciqikou, we went back to the hotel. It was too hot and I couldn’t stand it because I was pregnant. Today, my husband booked a villa apartment online. The whole family is together. It is right next to the Liberation Monument. We live on the 51st floor and can see the entire Chongqing. It is so beautiful. The sun was about to set, and we were going to go out to eat hot pot. After walking for about fifteen minutes, we arrived at a shopping mall. There were so many people. I had already made a reservation online, and we arrived soon. Thinking that my baby's birthday would be today, I found a place with better conditions and ate while watching a show. After the show, there was a calligrapher who also gave the second aunt a calligraphy "God rewards those who work hard". It can be regarded as wishing my brother-in-law's business to prosper and wishing my baby a happy birthday.

On the third day, we were ready to go home, because we just came out to relax and it was good for everyone to be happy.

Oh, it’s really awesome. I don’t know if this is the specific reason, but my second aunt staged this drama for me.

We had Chongqing noodles downstairs. She bought a chicken leg from the store next door for her children to eat. She tore it into half, took it over and put it between my father-in-law and me. Neither of us ate it. , I said: "Sister, I won't eat it, let's give it to the baby." When the noodles came up, I put the chicken drumsticks on her side. At this time, at this moment, she said, forget it if you don't want to eat, no one wants to eat. My mother-in-law said I should eat some, but she said, don't eat anything. At the same time, he smashed the bowl with the chicken legs and kept making a loud noise. My husband went to the toilet, I ate half of the noodles and went out. I knew the bowl was thrown at me. I became angry immediately. I have never been so angry before. But seeing my parents-in-law’s sake, I endured it. I went out and bought a few packs of yogurt and a pack of chocolate beans for me in the supermarket across the street. At this time, I sent a message to my husband saying that I will never go out with your sister again. This is the last time. I will wait for you at the entrance of the supermarket after you pick up the car. My husband came after a while and asked me what was going on. I couldn't hold it in anymore and kept crying. At this time, I felt that I had no future. I saw my husband's face. I didn't say anything and pretended it never happened. We went to pick up the car together. I also played songs in the car and hummed a few words casually, pretending it was nothing.

We left the parking lot and picked up his sister, baby and parents-in-law. No one spoke during the whole journey. Only his sister and her baby were chatting. The baby said, "Auntie, can you give me a chocolate?" Bean, I said, okay, I’ll get it for you. At this time, his sister said: If others don’t give you something, you are not allowed to ask for it. After I heard this, I closed the lid directly. I didn't need to be angry. Along the way, his sister kept making sarcastic remarks, saying that we were driving other people's cars behind, so she went straight back, slamming the car door and saying this and that, and I could hear it. It was said to me.

But what I didn’t expect was that the baby spilled water on her body, and my husband handed me a tissue and slapped it back. I was still angry and didn’t say anything because I felt that in this environment, I I am an outsider, but the reason why I feel confident is that the car I am driving today is mine.

When we got to the last service area of ??the expressway, I felt so depressed that I went to the restroom. My husband took my parents-in-law to a buffet, and he asked me to eat something too. At this time, I realized that everyone was in a bad mood. I ate some and went out. My husband was cooking alone and smoking on the steps outside. I understand him in my heart and feel that I am caught in the middle, and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable. I said I would bear it, but my husband said everything would be fine when we got home. He said that his sister deleted his WeChat account and probably deleted you too. I directly opened WeChat and looked at it. Indeed, there was a bar under the circle of friends. I said, awesome, awesome. At this time, I really wanted to curse, so I also deleted his sister, including all his sister’s things on my phone, including photos, TikTok, his baby, and his brother-in-law’s WeChat account. My hands started to tremble with anger. I was still sitting on the stairs. My husband said that his sister was opening the trunk, getting things, and getting ready to leave. I felt really unhappy. I didn't pull her, and there was no way I could have done it at that time. When her mother-in-law saw it, she went to help her and let her get in the car, but she couldn't get in. My father-in-law also got angry. In my heart, my father-in-law didn’t often speak loudly, which really scared me. I saw it in my mother-in-law's eyes that she felt sorry for her daughter, but didn't I feel uncomfortable at that time? Who understood me? My husband looked at me and asked me to give my mother-in-law some mercy, but I couldn't tell anyone about the grievances I felt at that time. In the past 26 years, I have never been so aggrieved. I am the only daughter in my house, in front of my aunts, uncles, and uncles. Everyone dotes on me to the sky. I always pretend to be at my aunts and uncles’ houses. When I bought a suitcase to go home, and played cards with my brother at home, everyone gave me the best, and sometimes even deliberately lost to me.

Because my husband didn’t speak at this time, my mother-in-law kept crying and said, go get your sister back. At this time, I really missed my parents. How I wish my parents were by my side (as I write this, I am already crying until my heart breaks). At this time, my husband asked me to get out of the car and explained to me. I said: "**, I'm going to call my dad now and ask my dad to pick me up." I'll make a call. My dad will be here soon. You and your family can go and let my parents pick me up. . . This was the truest thought in my heart at that time, when I was the most aggrieved.

? My husband is in a very difficult position and will definitely not let my dad pick me up. I knew in my heart that if my father came, this matter would be a big deal. My husband and I talked and I said, your sister and I will never be a family, ever.

? I got in the car. I don’t know what his sister said to her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law kept crying. I handed her a packet of paper and stopped talking. I knew that the reason why I stayed in the service area was to wait for his brother-in-law to arrive. Within five minutes of us walking, his brother-in-law arrived, and now they were relieved. My mother-in-law kept crying on the road, saying that she had failed to educate her children well. My husband comforted her parents-in-law all the way, but I remained silent. I understand him in my heart. He feels the most uncomfortable, no less uncomfortable than my mother-in-law.

The only thing I can find is that his second sister is really uneducated. In the car, she criticized her father-in-law and her mother-in-law for saying something about his baby. To be honest, she was really too noisy. If she let go In our family, I don’t know how many times this child has been beaten. My family loves me very much, but I don’t dare to say those words to my parents. To be honest, I don’t dare. I dare not accuse my parents of what they did or said. They gave me birth and raised me and gave me the best life. Who am I to criticize them.

Because the second sister my husband has always liked made him very disappointed. My husband has given a lot to his sister, including his sister’s wedding, officiating, hotels, wedding celebrations, tobacco and alcohol, pregnancy, moving, running business, his nephew’s illness, surgery, making dumplings for his brother-in-law, taking care of his nephew, picking him up and back, but... It makes people feel like it's natural. After seeing off my parents-in-law, the moment I turned around, I felt soft-hearted at his aggrieved face. I think I want to be nicer to my husband and don’t want him to be wronged anymore. But his sister could never come into our house again. I threw all the rest of his sister’s things in the car. When I got home and saw his sister’s baby’s toys, I broke off the sword and threw it away. When we arrived at the door, my husband and I finished chatting on the balcony. It was already very late.

I want my husband not to think too much, because it is really not easy for him, and he has to consider everyone's feelings. But I still can't calm down the anger in my heart. I feel wronged for myself, because I am really good to his second sister, really good. I feel even more aggrieved by my husband because he treats his second sister thousands of times better than me.

Be yourself, the blood-dissolved family relationship will never fade away, you have to be an outsider.

Good night~