A classmate who hasn't contacted me for many years suddenly contacted me to come to Beijing for a few days. How to refuse?

Surprisingly accurate: as long as it's the same as pretending to be dead, they call and send messages, and ask me perfunctorily, "Old classmate, who am I?" How have you been recently ... Barabara spent a long time, and the last sentence must be' I'll buy you a drink one day ...' "

At least half a month, the next day, they will arrive!

Haha, as a self-appointed director of the Beijing Office, I think I still have some experiences, experiences and lessons:

I have been drifting in the north for ten years, and my classmates have collected more than half. Not to mention my relatives and friends. ...

To sum up, I am a typical "four escorts", accompanying me to eat, drink, play and consult.

Have the function of "four guides": tour guide, shopping guide, navigation and consultation!

There is a "four riding" ending: spending time, energy, money and human feelings (I have to ask for help in some aspects).

Come to pick up, go to send, roll call: eat roast duck and drink Erguotou!

20 13 my local personal business entertainment expenses (meals, accommodation, transportation, etc. ) It's three times my normal business entertainment expenses.

I have been to the plastic shed of the Bird's Nest in the Great Wall and Summer Palace in Xidan Wangfujing, the front gate of Tiananmen Square in the Forbidden City, for nearly 2-30 times. I don't even watch roast duck Erguotou now. ...

Helpless move: Over time, every time I eat, I deliberately say a few words to them: Don't say that you saw me, and don't say that I am a roast duck Erguotou. If you really can't, just scold me a few words and say that this guy is not a thing, and he is not nostalgic at all. Don't talk about it or ignore it. Anyway, just don't scold my parents! Because I'm only a part-time job, I can't afford to entertain if everyone asks for me! I will say goodbye at the station again.

Summary: I can't bear to disturb or be annoyed: it's not how good I am in the imperial city, nor how important I am. Maybe they just lack a free tour guide who can pay the bill! Those who are a little more sensible get on the bus when they leave, and people will politely send a message and make a phone call when they go home, but most of them have no news unless they come to Beijing next time!

Dismantle: Every time I get a call to come to me for a drink, I always promise that it will be all right, but wait for me to go back. Just arrived in Zhengzhou (I casually said a city nearest to them! ), I want to stay in a hotel, and I want the bill. I really can't decide when I will go back. The boss said when I would go back when I finished. ...

If it were me, it wouldn't matter. It's simple. Just refuse!

First of all, people are familiar with several famous scenic spots in the capital Beijing. Well, modern transportation is very convenient to go anywhere; Eat, needless to say, only what you can't think of, nothing you can't eat; Live, not to mention, you can choose according to the money in your pocket.

Don't say that we haven't had much contact in recent years, and our classmates were not very familiar with each other before. He said that I could just accompany me in Beijing, and he asked me to accompany him around. This is clearly a forced command of disguised murder and tossing people. Next, my answer is very direct, I don't beat around the bush, and I won't make up lies like being busy working overtime. ...

Tell him the truth:

My house is very big, and three or five people can live in it for the time being, but the problem is that I like cleanliness and quiet, not to mention my classmates, but my parents and relatives are not allowed to live at home.

You want me to go shopping with you. I usually go to work and climb the grid to answer questions on weekends. I don't have time to go shopping with you. Besides, I have visited all the scenic spots in Beijing, so there is no need to spend time and energy to accompany you again. If you don't know the place, you can Baidu it. If you don't know the direction, you can go to mobile navigation. It is more convenient to take a taxi.

You asked me to book a hotel for you, and I don't know which hotel is more suitable for you. Improper booking will also make you unhappy. There are many hotels in Beijing. Search a lot online, book in advance, live wherever you want, and be free. ...

Please let me know when you leave. I will try my best to be the landlord of my classmates and invite you to dinner to see me off!

Tell the truth and don't drag your feet.

I travel by myself and never call my friends, relatives or classmates. First, don't want to bring unnecessary trouble to people; Second, letting others accompany you will increase the rhythm of chatting, and it is easy to be distracted and unable to concentrate on sightseeing; Third, if you are tired after a day's play, you have to eat with others, which makes people tired and makes you tired. It seems that petty gain or vanity is very important in other people's minds. That's self-deception, not worth the loss.

Since you want to refuse, just say, I'm busy at work, so I won't accompany you.

You are very welcome to Beijing, but I am not at home on business now. Sorry, I can't accompany you.

My cousin works in Beijing. Once a relative traveled to Beijing and contacted him. My cousin was very enthusiastic and arranged hotel accommodation for him, paying the room fee for several days in advance. He accompanied him to dinner, but he was too busy at work to accompany him. As a result, when relatives left, they didn't even say hello, and he also took the deposit paid by his cousin at the hotel. My cousin didn't know he had left until he called him. Cousin was speechless for a moment.

Don't be too polite and soft-hearted to such people, and don't be too thin-skinned, or you will die of humiliation and may not be able to get well in the end. There are too many such lessons.

How enthusiastic you are, how disappointed you are. Not to mention people who haven't contacted you for years. I haven't been in touch for years. Did anyone come to play, thinking of their classmates? Sorry, no time.

Want to play? Ok, welcome to Beijing! Accommodation? There is a hotel. If you are not familiar with it, I recommend it to you. How to play? I'll send you a detailed guidebook. Have dinner together I'm too busy these days. I'm really sorry. I won't delay your visit. Let me know when you leave. If you have time, I'll send you a farewell drink.

It is said that human feelings are as thin as paper now. In fact, not everyone is collectively indifferent, but really hurt by many unconscious people.

Everyone is very busy at work, so how can we have so much time to play with you? If you don't pay attention to it, you will have to save it.

You can simply refuse, just say that you are in love and live with your girlfriend, and it is not convenient for him to come to your place. Since the other party's behavior makes you uncomfortable, don't hesitate. Why do you want to wronged yourself and fulfill each other? In his words, he is what he said, and he demands this attitude.

Is face that important? Anyway, you haven't seen each other for several years, and you have a good life, and you are not inseparable friends. No big deal. If you don't know how to refuse, he will treat you to beer and skittles. How can you refuse? This kind of person just pushes his luck and thinks he is the master.

Don't show mercy to impolite people, just say it's inconvenient.

My classmates who haven't contacted for many years suddenly contacted me and wanted to come to Beijing to play with me for a few days. How can I refuse? I have my own personal experience on this subject, and sometimes it's really hard to refuse. Say no, friends think you are stingy. No, refuse. Time and experience do not allow it. In your situation, it depends on everyone. Do you think this friend is worth making friends with yourself? Still can consider, after all, not often. I think they are too embarrassed to talk, and they have got up the courage to decide to find you. If it is the kind of person who wants to invite you to eat, live and play for free, his character is probably not much better. You can refuse or not, just say you are on a business trip or something. Sometimes learning to refuse is not necessarily a bad thing. Once I promise to take you out to eat and drink, the food will be ok. When you meet many things, eating, drinking and having fun are free. And complained that we were stingy and didn't take care of it. That's even more embarrassing. It's best not to respond to them. People who really treat you as friends will think of you and be afraid to disturb you. Will not take the initiative to contact you to provide accommodation

I haven't contacted for many years, and I have no friendship. I still refuse to travel. So he won't contact you again.

Is there such a person now? It's really hard to get. I remember watching a lot of film and television works before. A North drifter will become the Beijing office in his hometown after he has established himself in Beijing. Many relatives and friends have come, so they can receive him for a trip and register for medical treatment. This feeling is far from modern society, because modern people have a polite sense of distance, and even classmates can't live in other people's homes! It's even more unreliable to let people accompany you! If we don't know the way in the age without navigation, we have an excuse. Navigation is so convenient now, why don't we navigate by ourselves?

I think with the improvement of living standards, people's sense of privacy is getting stronger and stronger. Don't talk about the house, let alone the car. Don't take other people's cars, because there will be many personal items in other people's cars, such as wife's seat, cosmetics you are used to, and snacks. How embarrassing it is for you to sit in your wife's seat! So modern people should understand this sense of distance. Private cars are not allowed to enter easily, nor are private houses. This is a matter of courtesy and common sense!

Therefore, I think that if some students really want to make such a request, they either pretend to understand or really don't understand. For these two reasons, I think you need to reject him directly. There is no need to make excuses or pretend to be busy. In that case, it will be bad for him to know in the future. To be clear, if I help you introduce the tourist attractions in Beijing, there is no problem, but if you want to live in our home, it is absolutely impossible. As for free accommodation, I have no ability to find it. There is a way to help you find a cheaper hotel.

As for being with him, we should also concentrate our efforts and see what we can do. For example, with a car, work is less stressful. You can appropriately drive him, drive his own car, drag him around Beijing, and invite him to eat something with Beijing characteristics as appropriate. If you have limited strength and don't even have a car, you don't have to be fat! Meet politely and explain yourself. Don't be shy, because many people live in Beijing. It doesn't mean that you will succeed when you arrive in Beijing. Then the whole country will come to Beijing!

A: If you don't know how to refuse, you just don't know how to have it. Burn incense and worship Buddha, and offer sacrifices every day. These are all people who cram at the last minute. If you don't contact me all your life, contact me if you have something. Generally, we call WeChat to say hello. Something has come up, so if you don't want to accept it, just say you're not in Beijing. I want to play with you for a few days, but I don't need a million dollars. No one's money is blown by the wind, and the one-stop train of eating, drinking and having fun itself has a bottomless pit. This is not the time for you to be ruthless and have your own choices. For example, I will go by myself, never bothering others, and spend my own money with peace of mind. Don't let others suffer if you disturb others, or you will feel guilty!