My wife cheated her boss without feeling guilty.

My wife and I have been married for 6 years, just after our wedding anniversary. Life is still rich, and everything feels so happy. But one night a few days ago, my wife fell asleep chatting on WeChat. I helped her turn off her cell phone, but I saw the chat between her and her cousin on the screen. This is a bolt from the blue for me, my wife cheated on me!

From the chat content, I learned that my wife and her boss, a young company manager, had many sexual experiences, and the early chat records could not be consulted. All I know is that I upset my wife and talked to my cousin, but I accepted it gladly and didn't feel guilty at all Looking at the straightforward chat content, my heart ached! I held back my anger just because I thought our three-year-old daughter was so cute that I didn't want to give her a broken home!

This doomed love may be my fault, because of my flash marriage. At the beginning of marriage, I lacked a sense of responsibility for my family and had an affair with a woman for some time. Later, she found out that she had suffered all the humiliation and betrayal and stayed with me!

Since then, I have matured and tried my best to remedy her frozen heart! From the early days when she refused to let me touch his body, to the slow acceptance, and then to the birth of the child, she walked down year after year and finally felt that she had got out of this shadow and lived a sweet life again!

With the growth of the child, in order to take care of the child conveniently, we choose to live in her parents' house, and all kinds of frictions in life come one after another, mainly in taking care of the child, disciplining and sharing housework. She was tired of coping with his parents' complaints.

In terms of sexual life, because of separation from parents, the life of husband and wife is not happy. I also mentioned the embarrassment of silent sex life in my chat record, and she didn't communicate with me! Perhaps the lack of communication in life leads to behavioral deviation. All this eventually led to her cheating.

Recalling the days before the derailment, she gradually began to use various excuses to avoid having sex with me. Even though she has almost no sex life, she just deals with it, and her physiological period begins to be chaotic. I can't even calculate her period that day. I suspect that this is caused by taking the morning-after pill.

Although she is very close to the children at home, she only plays for a while, regardless of the children. Every day, she can even delay her children from attending kindergarten. She is not afraid of being late for work because of her affair with the leader, and she can't go if she wants to. Her mother is also very picky about her. All this is related to her infidelity.

Mr. Zheng, this makes me very upset. On the one hand, in the face of his wife's infidelity, the man is in his wife's unit. Even if I have the heart to forgive, if the problem continues to derail, I can't prevent it! On the other hand, my wife still treats me the same as before, and has not changed much. When traveling abroad, she will call me every day, remember to bring many gifts to me and my children, go shopping and even buy a family of three!

I don't know how to deal with this matter! Do I have to be clear? Do I need to ask my wife to resign? How to change life! Please ask Mr. Zheng to give me an idea!

Adu

Reply to Adu:

What is sown, there is what is married. If you compare it to a box, what you put in is love, and what you take out is love. You can take out as much as you put in. On the contrary, you leave it alone and even put some dirty and bad things in it. In the end, what you naturally take out is bitter fruit.

Your wife betrayed you. It seems that you are a victim and deserve sympathy, but in fact you know better that this doomed love is your own fault. Imagine if you had a little sense of responsibility for her, marriage and family when you first got married. If you hadn't cheated earlier; Wait, is she going to get back at you? ! What's more, you are a flash marriage, you don't know much about each other, and your emotional foundation is weak. It is strange that you take it for granted, don't care, and there is nothing wrong with marriage.

It stands to reason that the child is a piece of meat that fell from the mother. Now she can ignore the children and have an affair with the boss without guilt. It seems that she is breaking a jar. In fact, she has long cared about this marriage with you, which is why she is so passive. So, her heart died completely in your marriage, and the root cause of her heart death is still on you. Have you ever reflected on this question? !

Don't simply think that your sex life with her is not harmonious. You know, men love by sex and women love by sex. If there is really no love between you, or what little love you once had is completely consumed by your respective irresponsibility, how can a "homework" man and woman continue their marriage? !

Now it's not that you didn't forgive her for her affair with her boss, but that you found the real problem between you. Do you have any secrets you haven't told? ! You forgive her infidelity "self-consciously". It seems that you are a victim and an aggrieved person. Onlookers may still think you are great, but they are not. In your heart, you should know very well whether you are a real man or not. !

To say the least, if your wife really knows that you know about her and her boss, but you still keep silent, will she think that you don't care about her and are even more chilling, so she will treat you more like air without any guilt? ! If you can't find the answers to these questions yourself, what's the use of keeping that marriage certificate? ! Because of your man's face? !