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Some words will make people feel like spring breeze, while others will make people leave the scene in amazement.

Obviously, the attitude towards others can best show this person's accomplishment.

Educated people never make people feel embarrassed.

Xu Qingcheng, the minister of the Song Dynasty, once went out on official business and passed by his former teacher's house, intending to pay a visit.

When he came to the teacher's door in a sedan chair and dressed in gorgeous official clothes, the person who closed the door saw an unknown official coming and rushed in to report.

When Xu Qingcheng saw it, he quickly stopped the man and asked him to come back.

Then I asked the servant to change into clothes worn by ordinary people. After putting it on, people went to inform him that he was back.

The servants here are puzzled. Why is such a big official dressed like this? He said:

"Where are others when they become officials? Why do you want to do this?"

Xu whole smiled and said:

"If I was wearing that suit just now, the teacher will definitely give me a gift when I see it.

But this is bound to embarrass the teacher, and it also goes against my original intention. "

Put on this dress, there will be less red tape and everyone will be more comfortable.

After listening to this, the servant praised the master's idea of staying at home again and again, and became more respectful at one time.

Hugo once said:

"The highest virtue is the ability to think of others."

Therefore, the more spiritual people are, the more they can think about others, and they don't want to put others in a nervous and embarrassing situation because of themselves.

There is usually such a weakness in human nature, that is, when you are in an advantage, then your sense of superiority will be hard to let go, and it is easy for people to fall into a dilemma.

It is not right to look at this person's literacy only when the situation is low, but when the situation is high.

Xiao Li of the cooperative company once told me such a thing:

Near the Spring Festival, the company held a year-end meeting. In order to thank many customers for their care, the boss held a reception in a local five-star hotel.

One of the foreign guests saw the waiter coming with a basin of water and thought it was for the guests.

So I picked up the plate and drank it "goo-goo-goo".

Other guests were surprised to see this place, and then reminded each other. Those who didn't see it made fun of foreigners.

This scene happened to be clearly seen by the boss standing on the second floor. After going downstairs, the boss took the initiative to talk with the foreign guests, took time to say that he was thirsty, and asked the foreign guests to help him pick up the plate and pour him water. And praised:

"It's still comfortable to drink boiled water."

After the reception, the assistant of the foreign customer told him the purpose of the water on the plate, and he suddenly realized that it was the boss who was helping him out.

Later, the foreigner not only thanked his boss privately, but also promised to cooperate with him in the project.

Educated people are used to putting themselves in others' shoes.

Chekhov said:

"Educated people don't spill soup, don't eat, spill soup and don't go to see others."

A truly literate person will not make fun of others when they are in deep trouble, but can help others, understand and sympathize with their situation.

Be able to help others with actions when necessary. It is precisely because of such a move that you will get more returns and gains in a subtle way.

This is not only a pure kindness, but also an advanced mode of life development.

Someone asked what is the most important ability to get along with others?

The most popular answer is: resolve the embarrassment.

My former college classmate told a story:

There used to be a female classmate in the class. She is not very attractive, but she is very popular.

According to his memory, this classmate "loves to laugh and is very gentle." Speak softly. "

For example, once a teacher asked a classmate to answer a question, she called the female classmate's deskmate. The female classmate was very sleepy and waited for the teacher and classmates to laugh at her inexplicably.

At this time, regardless of the danger, the female classmate quietly told him the answer. In everyone's eyes, it was like a living Buddha descending to earth.

Another time in physical education class, a boy accidentally kicked the ball to another female classmate without even apologizing. This classmate saw it and rushed to stop drinking and asked him to apologize to others.

Afterwards, all the female students in the class admired what she had done.

There is a saying in Huainanzi:

"Big enough to accommodate the public, and Germany is far-sighted enough."

There must be a calm and firm atmosphere in the heart that can help others resolve their embarrassment.

It can release warmth and strength, just like a fire in a cold winter. People who touch it warmly feel great admiration and admiration.

Therefore, not being embarrassed is a kind of high emotional intelligence, a manifestation of inner kindness and a selfless dedication to others.

The philosopher Plato said:

"Be compassionate, everyone will fight a hard battle in their own lives."

In life, everyone may encounter difficulties and difficulties, so let's not embarrass others, don't fight with others, and understand their feelings.

This is a noble life.