"The bride price is only 10 million, and it is not too much to have a wedding in a five-star hotel." Do you think I can afford it?

Life now is not only faster and more convenient than before, but also makes people's living conditions almost transparent.

Especially now, many people like to bask in their own life dynamics, send a photo and write a sentiment to let their friends know what their life is like.

Therefore, if we want to know a person, we can see what kind of person TA is from some dynamics of his grandson.

For many people nowadays, they like to be full of energy and enjoy life. In fact, there are good and bad.

The advantage is that friends around you can always know what is happening around you, and it can also be used as a small means to record your life.

However, in some special periods, advantages may become disadvantages.

Some developments, in my opinion, may just be complaining or basking in daily life, but for those new friends who don't know, maybe you are full of complaints or cynicism.

Often this unclear misunderstanding will turn a thing that could have developed in a good direction into a bad thing.

For example, I want to tell you this story. The "mother-in-law" dynamically complains that her daughter's marriage is not as glorious as others, but it makes her daughter's "prospective husband" very uncomfortable.

Eventually led to the failure of a marriage.

02

Shao Hang (pseudonym) was originally an arranged marriage. As a result, she saw the circle of friends of "prospective mother-in-law" and finally announced that it was ruined.

Speaking of Shao Hang's family, it is actually an ordinary family. Although Shao Hang's parents both work in institutions, they live on that "dead salary" all the year round, and they have to study for Shao Hang, so there is not much money left at home.

However, I have to admit that working in a public institution is relatively stable although the salary is average.

Shao Hang's parents are more educated and many things can be reasonable. So under their guidance, Shao Hang has also become a good man with quality, responsibility and responsibility.

When Shao Hang went to school, his academic performance was always good. After graduating from college, Shao Hang's parents had the idea that he should also take an examination of public institutions, but Shao Hang didn't like this type of work very much, and he still felt that entering the enterprise was more suitable for him.

Shao Hang entered a private enterprise and worked well for two years. Later, Shao Hang jumped ship to a foreign company.

It should be said that among peers, Shao Hang's work is not bad. Moreover, since Shao Hang worked, relatives and friends have introduced him to his girlfriend in an endless stream.

However, in this regard, Shao Hang is not in a hurry. His parents are more liberal. In the matter of marriage, they respect Shao Hang's own choice and never force him to find a similar person to marry.

Later, Shao Hang compromised, because he couldn't beat a very enthusiastic friend and agreed to meet "blind date".

Many people say that fate is wonderful, and Shao Hang didn't intend to say it, just to deal with friends. But after meeting, Shao Hang was attracted by her.

The girl's name is Xiao Ran. Although she is not very outstanding, she gives people a fresh feeling. As a result, Shaoxing Airlines "fell".

Of course, Shao Hang is not bad, so Xiao Ran has a good impression on him. After several contacts, both of them felt that they were suitable for each other, so they decided on a love relationship.

After establishing a love relationship, Shao Hang introduced Xiao Ran to his parents. Shao Hang's parents had a good impression on Xiao Ran and praised Shao Hang's vision.

In fact, Xiao Ran is really not small in other aspects besides her parents who are able to pass Shaoxing Airlines. Because Xiao Ran is an only child, she is somewhat headstrong, speaks directly, and occasionally has no eye for things.

Besides, the family conditions in Xiao Ran are also average. Although he is also a city man, her father is an idle man. When he was young, he was injured and taken special care of by his unit, but he gave up on himself and didn't want to do better, and was finally fired.

Since then, life at home has been very difficult. However, since Shao Hang likes it, parents naturally respect their son's choice, so they didn't say anything against it.

03

Xiao Ran's son-in-law, for Shao Hang, is recognized. After all, his parents both work in institutions. Although the salary is not much, for many people, it is an iron rice bowl. Moreover, you can get a lot of pensions after retirement.

Shao Hang and Hou Yaozong talked for about half a year. He feels stable and knows each other well. Then he began to talk about marriage.

When it comes to marriage, it is inevitable that both parents will meet.

When parents met for the first time, the two families chatted happily. In particular, the two mothers talked more speculatively. When they parted that day, they also added WeChat to each other in fashion, making it more convenient to communicate in the future.

In fact, for many parents now, new things are also attractive to them.

The wedding of the two is in full swing, and Shao Hang's parents have prepared their son's wedding room. So at this point, Xiao Ran's parents also feel impeccable.

But when it comes to bride price, Xiao Ran's parents did ask for a bride price, but it was not too much,100000 yuan. Shao Hang's parents didn't say anything, thinking that their son was going to get married this time after all, and there would be no problems because of money.

The wedding of the two has been in preparation, and the layout of the wedding room is completely in accordance with the requirements of Xiao Ran.

In addition to the wedding room and bride price, marriage must also involve buying a ring and booking a wedding hotel. When buying a ring, besides Shao Hang and Xiao Ran, Xiao Ran's mother accompanied her.

Because, as agreed that day, my daughter is getting married, and my mother is going to buy some clothes and dress herself up.

When choosing a ring, Xiao Ran's mother never expressed her opinions. There was a time when she thought gold was cheap, and there was a time when platinum didn't keep its value. Anyway, I was depressed when I went shopping that day.

Later, Xiao Ran was bored herself, so she asked her mother to cut in less and choose what she liked. But Xiao Ran's mother still refused to give up. The implication is that even if she wants to choose something that she doesn't think is very good, she must choose a big one so that it looks gorgeous.

At that time, Shao Hang didn't feel very good in his heart. This does not mean that he is worried about money, nor does it mean that he doesn't want to buy it for Xiao Ran. On the contrary, several models he liked were rejected by Xiao Ran's mother. But after that, Xiao Ran thought it was not bad, and her mother didn't continue to oppose it.

It is said that parents should be less involved in their children's marriage. Although parents are experienced people and have more life experience than young people, too much participation in their children's marriage will make the relationship between husband and wife weaker and weaker.

You may be justified in taking care of your children, but it seems a bit excessive to provoke your child's partner too much. In particular, according to their own standards, the child's partner must meet what conditions.

04

Xiao Ran and Shao Hang are not married yet, and her mother has participated in so many things, which inevitably makes Shao Hang uncomfortable.

I went shopping that day and spent almost 40 thousand yuan on a ring. It was Xiao Ran's mother who kept saying, "Daughter, choose a big one, be magnificent and add some light to your father and me."

In fact, how much money is not a problem, but what Xiao Ran's mother often says. Either run on Shao Hang and don't want to spend money, or say that your daughter married Shao Hang.

As the saying goes, disaster comes from the mouth. However, Xiao Ran's mother is just a "chatterbox". Moreover, after shopping that day, she did not forget to bask in her circle of friends and bask in the things that Xiao Ran bought one by one.

The implication is that she is telling her relatives and friends how powerful her daughter is and finding a rich husband. It's a big carat diamond ring and a brand-name bag. Anyway, I just brag that Shao Hang looks like a "rich second generation".

The circle of friends sent by Xiao Ran's mother actually made Shao Hang's mother feel uncomfortable when she saw it, but she didn't think much.

But in the next few days, Shao Hang's mother went to visit Xiao Ran's mother, and frequently posted some photos of wedding hotels in the circle of friends, all of which were very high-end places.

Moreover, she also chats with Shao Hang's mother from time to time. The implication is that Xiao Ran's wedding must also choose this high-end venue. She also said that many other people's daughters' marriages, bride price and wedding rooms are much better than those in Xiao Ran.

Shao Hang's mother has never been vague about her son's marriage, but after all, both of them work in public institutions, and their son's wedding can't be too luxurious. After meeting, both parents mentioned it. But Xiao Ran's mother seems to have completely forgotten everything she used to talk about.

In addition, Shao Hangjia's conditions are not particularly good. Took a hundred thousand bride price and lent Shao Hang the first payment to buy a wedding room. The rest of the family, that is, tens of thousands of dollars of spare money, is afraid of any special accidents when getting married, in case of emergency.

Xiao Ran's mother know perfectly well past ask, still a little angry. She said: "It was well said at the beginning, and the plan was not as fast as the change. I only have one daughter, and I want to strive for more benefits for her. Anyway, I don't care. I have to agree to this matter. If I don't agree, I have to agree. "

Finally, the two men quarreled.

In truth, they are both right. One side wants more for her daughter's lifelong event. After all, she is such a daughter, and she is married for the first time in her life. However, all the procedures that the other party had already discussed were rejected, especially the forced request, which made her very angry.

However, it is exasperating that Xiao Ran's mother sent a circle of friends directly after quarreling with Shao Hang's mother: "It's terrible to have no money to marry a wife!"

05

Prior to this, Shao Hang's mother, no matter how unhappy, would never say a word in front of Shao Hang. She felt that her son's lover must have something that she and her husband couldn't see, so she kept putting up with it.

However, Xiao Ran's mother is always so "unreasonable". No matter how generous she is, she can't stand such a domineering "mom"

Therefore, Shao Hang's mother summoned the courage to confess everything to Shao Hang and took out a screenshot of her circle of friends. Shao Hang had mixed feelings after reading it.

Especially when he looked through his circle of friends and found that he didn't see the dynamic, he realized that the dynamic was Xiao Ran's mother, and made it visible to her.

Finally, Shao Hang asked Xiao Ran to come out and tell Xiao Ran about it. To Shao Hang's surprise, Xiao Ran knew about it, and this dynamic was set by her mother with help.

Shao Hang looked at Xiao Ran's "simple" face, and he was very unhappy. I thought I met fate, only to find it was "destiny takes a hand's love".

Especially the last sentence that Xiao Ran said, she said, "I only ask for a bride price of100000 yuan. It's not too much for a five-star hotel to hold a wedding! Is it true that your family is so poor that you won't even give me an unforgettable wedding? "

Shao Hang is very depressed. He didn't expect that Xiao Ran, like her mother, couldn't understand their home. We discussed it clearly before, but now we have to change our minds. He snorted, and then said to Xiao Ran, "I'm sorry, let's break up. My family can't afford this marriage. "

It is true that even if a mother complains about her daughter's affairs, it is a bit excessive to irrationally ask the other party to satisfy her vanity.

In particular, it is an invisible humiliation to set the dynamics for the other party to watch alone.

Sharing dynamics is to let others see the positive side of their lives. If you send messages for a long time, or complain about others and be selfish, you may be sympathetic at first, but over time, when you get to know someone, you are alienated.

Of course, there is another shadow obstacle in the relationship between Shao Hang and Xiao Ran, and that is the excessive participation of Xiao Ran's mother. For her vanity and face, she asked Shao Hang to do things beyond her ability.

If Xiao Ran can understand Shao Xing, their relationship may continue.

Unfortunately, Xiao Ran indulged his mother and even helped her run on Shao Hang's mother, which made her feel a little inferior.

It may be easy to talk about a relationship. As long as you have me in your heart, I have you in my heart.

But it is not easy to form a marriage, because we have to take care of two families.