Common misunderstandings about sex life

The first night must be spent in pain. The first night generally refers to the first sexual intercourse. Generally speaking, the woman may have slight pain on the first night due to the rupture of the hymen. But due to sexual urges, this slight pain can easily be covered up. For the needs of the plot, some literati exaggerated it into a "heart-wrenching tear", which is obviously an exaggeration. The rumor spread made some women nervous about it for a long time, thus inhibiting the sexual desire on the wedding night. At this time, the secretion of the Bartholin glands is inhibited, and the vaginal opening becomes dry due to lack of lubricant, making it difficult for the penis to enter. Inexperienced grooms are impulsive but not considerate. Rough actions may lead to pain or trauma and bleeding. On the surface this may seem like the description above, but in fact it is not what it should be. If both parties understand sexual knowledge and can fully develop their sexual desire, so that the woman can have enough vaginal lubricating fluid and vaginal opening lubricating fluid, and the man can work hard on gentleness and consideration, and both parties try their best to understand and coordinate, then The first night can be spent completely in joy. Even if there is a little pain, it will be diluted by sexual excitement.

A harmonious sex life requires both parties to reach climax at the same time. People always hope that both parties can reach climax together, but this is not always possible because there are inevitably differences in degree and progress in the process from sexual arousal to orgasm. Because the man has a sexual refractory period after orgasm (expressed as ejaculation), that is, it is impossible to have a second orgasm immediately, while women do not have a refractory period, so they can have multiple orgasms in a row. Therefore, a more ideal approach is to make the woman climax first, and by the time the man reaches climax, the woman has already had one or more orgasms. Of course, this can't be the case every time you have sex. As long as both parties can be satisfied emotionally, that is, sexually and psychologically, sexual life without orgasm should be considered a harmonious sex life.

Except for men on top and women on the bottom, other positions are abnormal. The sexual position where the man is on top and the woman is on the bottom is called the "missionary position" or the legal position. Its name comes from the Polynesians, the indigenous people of the South Pacific Islands. When European and American Catholic priests came here to preach, they saw that the indigenous men and women here were naked and often had sex without shame in front of everyone. The sexual positions were almost all weird. After being inspired, the indigenous people listened to the teachings of the priests, saying that only the position of men on top and women on the bottom can express their devotion to God, and all other postures are illegal. Therefore, it is called missionary position or legal position. The fact is that different sexual intercourse positions have different sexual effects, giving both men and women different sexual feelings. This is one of the conditions for maintaining long-term sexual interest between couples. As for which model is appropriate? People believe that as long as it is within the scope of marriage, meets health requirements, and both parties are completely willing, any model is reasonable and legal, and society and religion should not interfere casually.

The longer the sexual intercourse, the higher the quality of sexual life. Premature ejaculation, that is, premature ejaculation, is a male sexual dysfunction that men do not want to see and women do not want to accept. Since the semen was ejaculated in a very short time, the entire sexual life process had to end hastily. Those who encounter this kind of situation are classified as having a low quality of sexual life. Therefore, some people think that longer sexual intercourse can prove that the quality of sexual life is higher. Not really. The quality of sexual life should be based on whether both parties are satisfied physically and psychologically, that is, whether they can obtain pleasure and comfort mentally and physically. As for the length of time, it should be determined based on the mutual needs of both parties. If the time is maintained for too long, the man may feel bored or tired, and the woman's secretions will gradually decrease, causing the vagina to turn from lubrication to dryness, or from pleasure to pain, and from excitement to numbness. Long-term congestion in the genitals and pelvic area will affect local blood circulation. Both parties may suffer from back pain, lower abdominal pain or rectal spasm afterwards. Therefore, the length of sexual intercourse should also have a degree. Although there is no standard value, it can be measured by yourself, that is: "satisfaction" is the degree.

Being less gentle afterwards is an unforgivable mistake for a husband. Since there is a sharp ending after male orgasm, while female sexual desire disappears slowly and slowly after orgasm, husbands who do not caress their wives afterwards and sleep with their heads covered after ejaculation are generally accused of being selfish with sexual desire. Not all of these accusations are actually correct. For example, the man has consumed some physical energy in the process of inducing sexual arousal in the other party or promoting the woman to reach orgasm; or social intercourse when the man is not very sexually interested; or the man has already exhausted a lot of physical energy and has not yet recovered. Next to sex.

Even if the woman does not get sexual satisfaction, the man is already very exhausted after ejaculation, and his physical strength and energy do not allow him to touch her again after sex. At this time, he is in a state of being unable to extricate himself from sleeping with his head covered. In this way, the accusation against the husband is excessive. Therefore, for sexual matters between husband and wife, understanding, understanding, consideration, and coordination should be promoted. Travel always gives people a different feeling, and the same is true for sex life. However, while enjoying a fresh and beautiful sexual environment, you must pay special attention to safety and health. First of all, sex in the wild should not be attempted frequently. Although the beautiful natural environment can easily stimulate the passion of lovers, hygiene is always the first factor to ensure sexual health. A hotel with a warm and clean environment is the best choice.

Secondly, traveling to hot spring resorts is the choice of many lovers. Wei Hua reminded that the bathing environment can easily lead to cross-infection, especially for women. You must make sure that public baths have been strictly disinfected before soaking. Although the hotel will prepare clean bath towels for everyone, it is best to bring your own towels with you. It is best for women to take a shower for final cleaning after bathing in a hot spring.

In addition, it is inevitable that clothes will not be cleaned promptly enough during travel. Dr. Wei emphasized that women are most likely to suffer from urethritis, cystitis, pyelonephritis, endometritis and other diseases due to fatigue during travel or poor living and sanitary conditions, as well as frequent sexual life. In severe cases, it can also lead to infertility. Therefore, you must pay attention to hygiene during sex and change your underwear frequently.

Finally, the excitement of travel is likely to cover up physical fatigue. Therefore, even during the honeymoon, sex life must be moderate, so as not to feel tired and in good spirits the next day. Including male patients with myocardial infarction, angina pectoris, congestive heart failure, hypertension, patients with moderate or above hip arthritis, patients with lower limb paralysis and other special conditions. Patients with these diseases often have requirements and desires for sexual life, but their physical Their health level often hinders or prevents them from engaging in sexual activities, especially among male patients. In this case, you can use the female-on-top position for sexual intercourse. In this sexual intercourse position, the woman bears her own weight on her knees and can fully control the movement without any obvious movement by the man.